How can I tell if my male cat Lola is spaying or peeing ? I've never caught him in the act, but he is doing one or the other:He has been to the vet and he is healthy. He also poops in closets when left open . Everyone I talk to says to have him put down and that his behaviour will only worsen ( and it has ) . My cat is not disposable, we love him and I want to do what's best for all of us. Any ideas ?