*sigh* so much for Vlad leaving Oksana alone.

[ancientgirl]

So here I am in bed, checking my email and playing fetch with Maks, and I hear growling and screeching. I go downstairs and turn the kitchen light on, to see Vlad has Oksana cornered. Her on her back swatting and him over her swatting.

I had her in the bathroom today. I'll be doing the same tomorrow and I'm going to see if I can find the Bach flower essences at Whole Foods that will help keep the peace around here.

[onster]

awww vlad you have to leave your poor girl alone. Im sure he thinks he's just playing or something.

Hopefully things cool down soon

[growler~GateKeeper]

Has Vlad always been like this towards Oksana or did it just start when she started having peeing issues?

[krdahmer]

You know I had such a similar problem with Smoke, the boys stressing her out so bad she got sick.....but let me tell you I can't believe the difference since last year! I used the feliway diffuser for a little over a year, and slowly stopped interfering in their little dust-ups (I of course step in if it sounds serious) and tonight she slept on the love seat all night and now she's right here with me as I type (where last year she would spend the day in the basement and only surface for food). I think with as many cats as we have we almost have to let them sort their little conflicts out themselves, like they would if we weren't here. Even with the foster kitty, they seem to have all made adjustments and seem to be getting along just fine. I don't use the feliway anymore, but it did seem to get us over whatever hump we were stuck on (and had been on since Palomine and Asker joined the gang a few years ago).

[Love4himies]

Were they playing or fighting????

[ancientgirl]

The problem I think is, Vlad is probably playing, but Oksana isn't. She doesn't want to play, and has never really been the type of cat that played a lot with others. I think she may have soured on playing with others because Vlad was always a little too rough with her as kittens.

She does now and then go up to him and they do the nose touch thing, and she licks his face, but if he tries to play more or lick her face her ears go flat and she backs away.

It's only been in the last 4 or 5 months, that he's taken to sort of ambushing her. I've even caught him waiting for her next to the litter box. I don't allow him to wait for her but I'm sure while I'm gone if she goes to the litter box she's likely been ambushed coming out. Which makes me think she may have gotten her cystitis because she wasn't comfortable using the litter during the day.

Now I figure, at least if she's in my bathroom during the day she can use the litter all she wants and not have to worry about being attacked.

I've also got to say Vlad is an equal opportunity attacker. However, the others handle it differently. Maks submits to him, so Vlad plays more than anything. Kiska gets on her back, swats at him with her paws and defends herself so he gets bored and leaves her alone. And Czari, well, lets just say I've seen Vlad take a couple of steps back when Czari voices her disapproval.

[chico2]

With my threesome,Chico is the one who often instigates a fight.
Vinnie and Rocky will be sleeping and Chico gets the zoomies,flying around in the house,passing R and V teasingly.
Then when they join in the zoomies,Chico will hiss and growl and complain to mom
R will lick V and it ends up in a tussle,which I have to stop,before it gets serious.
Vinnie is very submissive to both,usually plunks down on his back..

Maybe Oksana has a smell Vlad is not familiar with