Wish me luck!

[ancientgirl]

Well, in about half an hour I'm going to Barnes & Noble. I'm meeting a guy who I've been talking to over the internet, one I met on the same site that weird creepy guy left me that nasty email.

This guy so far seems really nice and interesting. Hopefully he's not too far off from the picture he posted, since in his picture he's not bad looking. LOL, I'm sure he's probably thinking the same about me.

So, we'll see how lunch goes. I like this because we can have lunch, it's casual and he's got a lot of stuff to do today for some gig he's playing at later on the beach. So it's not like I've got to spend the next several hours with him.

I'll write when I get back later and let you all know how it went.

[luckypenny]

So when's the wedding?

I have 2 girlfriends who met their husbands on-line. I never would have thought something like that would end up successfully but they are both the most amazing couples .

Good luck ancientgirl. I hope the two of you hit it off .

[joeysmama]

Good luck. It sounds like the perfect circumstances. A short meeting, and you're in Barnes and Noble. Nice and public, no pressure. Books are a great conversation starter too so you can always browse a few books before he gets there.

Is he in a band? Tom was in a band when I met him and it was a lot of fun. I'm glad I'm not dating anymore because I do like being married but dating was fun too.

Is it ok to wish that he's as nice as he seems and even better looking than you thought -- and maybe he's got more money than he knows what to do with ???

[luckypenny]

Originally Posted by joeysmama

Is it ok to wish that he's as nice as he seems and even better looking than you thought -- and maybe he's got more money than he knows what to do with ???

Then ask if he's got a brother for Frenchy .

[ancientgirl]

Well he doesn't have a brother, sorry Frenchy!

It went well. He's actually a lot better looking in his picture, since he's got a beard and his hair looks longer. But he's not totally bad looking. He's a bit hefty, but so am I, and in a way I'm glad he's not super thin, since then he can't be nasty and say I'm fat like that other jerk.

He's a nice guy from what I can gather. He's really environmentally concious and into helping animals, which is of course a plus all the way around.

I got a pretty good vibe from him and we decided we'd go out again. I did tell him I hate driving at night because I have vision problems, which I do. I figured I'd let him know because he lives about 45 minutes away, so I wanted to put it out there if he wanted to see me he'd have to come this way.

All in all I got a pretty positive feeling.

I told my best friend, I"m not looking for this soul searing romantic love. Honestly, I've had that and it was great, but at this point in my life I'm looking for something stability, security and comfort.

I am looking for someone who respects my views, doesn't make fun of me for my beliefs or being a vegetarian, and most important, someone who will treat my gang with love and respect.

He's an interventionist, one of those guys who gets people who have drug problems or alcohol problems and their families have an intervention. I got the feeling he he makes decent money, so that's always good.

[14+kitties]

I'm glad things went well for you ancient. Meeting this way isn't always a bad thing. I think sometimes you open up more to people on line because you don't have to always look them in the eye. And I love the long telephone conversations!!
I hope he calls/messages back.

[ancientgirl]

Yeah, talking on the internet at least you can sort of get a feel of someone a bit. I think we'll at least get together again, at the very least, I think I've made a friend.

[phoozles]

Congrats for getting out there!
You don't sound very ga ga about him, which is fine, but I would keep your options open.. Don't sell yourself short and give up on finding that big love of your life - he's still out there.. I'm not saying don't hang out with this guy, but don't decide to settle just for the sake of settling. You've got a lot going for you, so just remember that!

[ancientgirl]

I'll certainly go out with him again. I know many people who have not really been crazy about their current husband/boyfriend but later as they got to know them better they really fell for them.

But I am keeping my options open.

[chico2]

AG,my middle son,now 42yrs old,met his girl on a chat-line,he went to Alberta to see her,came back home in love.
A couple of months later he packed up and moved to her and that was about 6 yrs ago,he's very happy.
She is 11yrs older than him,but loves my son very much and she is a great lady,no grandkids though:sad:

[ancientgirl]

Chico, I'm keeping an open mind. I know these days many people meet online. It's hard to get out there and harder when most people these days are already married or with someone.

I'm still going to look into taking an art class or something on the weekend, or maybe a vegetarian cooking course.

[krdahmer]

Glad it went well. And I have to say that when I met my hubby (a gay mutual friend brought him out for 80's night at the bar, i was dressed in 80's garb and sporting a poofy side ponytail! ), I knew there was something right away, but it's not like there were sparks flying or harps or anything, just a little curiousity. Of course by the end of the night we were drunk and making plans to travel already... Drinking first dates are never a good idea.... you end up married!!!

[ancientgirl]

LOL, well I get the feeling things worked out for you after that date!

[onster]

Glad it went well ancient!

Hope the next meeting goes even better

[hazelrunpack]

How cool, ancientgirl! A great improvement over that last you had to deal with.

This guy sounds really super! I hope the relationship blossoms!

[ancientgirl]

Yeah, a big improvement. I didn't feel a major attraction, but I liked that he was a decent person, interested in nature and saving things. Maybe that's enough, maybe not. I am seeing him again so we'll see.

[Shaykeija]

the first time I saw my husband. I thought to myself, " Who is little sawed off fart and what is he doing in my office?" He was my new boss LOL. We have been married 17 years and no fights, not one argument and we work together. I am truly either a saint or an to live with. Good luck..

[Masha]

Originally Posted by Shaykeija

We have been married 17 years and no fights, not one argument and we work together.

OMG are you serious?? 17 years, you work together and not one argument? Wow.. you two must have nerves of steel...

[JennieV]

AG, I am very happy to hear that your meeting went well. I wrote you a whole big message in response to your other problem ( ) but it somehow never got posted.. and since i was at work, i didn't really have the time to re-type the whole thing.
So i will just say it here and now.. I met my husband online. It was a weird thing, we both somehow ended up in a WWF chat and NEITHER one of us is a WWF fan! LOL we talked, then exchanged emails...Then emails turned to phone calls with HUGE long distance bills (I lived in Toronto, he in Montreal). Then, we planned to meet, but I chickened out and cancelled on him. The following month, I made up my mind that I needed to know if he and I are as great in person as we are online. He drove down through a huge snowstorm to meet me and the rest was history. We have been together for 8 years and married for 5.

There are creeps out there , but don't let them get you discouraged. I met a couple in my time...Its no fun, I know . But once you realize you met one - move on, don't let him affect your life.

There are also many wonderful men out there, who for the lack of time, or confidence or whatever else go online to look for someone. It doesn't have to be serious right away, just have fun for now, and see where things go. You never know what you may find.
The fact that you like certain traits in him is good, because youth, beauty, money... that all can be taken away, and if that is all that makes a person - theres not much left. But if the person is nice to you, makes you laugh, appreciates your opinion and you enjoy being around him - that is great!
So good luck and keep us posted!

[ancientgirl]

Thanks for all of teh support.

I've almost forgotten about that bone head that insulted me. I realized he's just not worth my time so why keep thinking about it. I'm not the one sitting at home on the internet insulting people, so my life isn't as crappy as his.

At the very least, I've found a friend.

[aslan]

Ag glad to hear all went smoothly, you know sounds like when i met grace, wasn't exactly what i was attracted to, but what a personality, and here we are several years later

[ancientgirl]

Yeah that's it, I'm not attracted to him. But he's got a nice personality and he loves animals. I'm going to give it a chance and see what happens.

[joeysmama]

I wasn't attracted to my husband when I met him. I was thinking that I was wasting too much time on one guy and it would be good to date other people. So we went out a few times and a relationship grew.

But I can tell you this. Even though that physical spark was missing in the beginning it's been 27 years of marriage, 29 years together. Right now he's sitting at the desk behind me and if our grown kids weren't both here today I'd be on him like white on rice. I know him pretty well now and he's so smart and has such strong character. It just gets better and better !!

(And by "it" I mean IT !! )

[ancientgirl]

LOL, you know my friend tells me the same thing.

The biggest thing he's got going for him in my eyes is he loves animals and is very much into conservation. It's hard to find people like that these days, at least where I live.

[joeysmama]

Tom is like that too and it's not just a matter of being interested in the same things. It just says so much about a man's character when he loves animals and cares about the environment too.