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Old September 27th, 2006, 09:59 PM
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Unhappy kitty died tonight

About 8:30(pm) I was on my way out for a coke-we were out-and a man was parked across the street and was walking over. I wasn't scared b/c he had a little girl in his hands (she was about 2). She was upset. He asked if we owned an orange tabby cat, I said yes, and he began to apologize. He took me to her and she was bleeding-out both ends(BAD) and was lying in her own...well. She was choking on her blood, and was struggling to breathe. Soon she was dead. They (DH and a family friend) buried her behind the building (outside the fence-dogs). My son doesn't know (he was asleep) and I prob. wont tell him. The story is 'She prob. wondered off'.

This is the second death since me and Rocky (DH) have had animals. I don't count Cosmo (JTR we had to rehome)-he wasn't w/ us, so we were very sad (also didn't tell Seth!) but we didn't 'experience' it. Also I don't think catapillars or walmart goldfish count...(OMG! Come to think of we are mass murders! Jeeze I didn't realize so many pets have came and went!) I hate to compare deaths, but Joe (our 1st boxer) was by far the worse! I'm just glad Seth was asleep. At least this time we can 'shield' him. He STILL takes flowers to that puppys grave! Anyway I'm upset and wanted to let you guys in on the info. Thanks for 'listening'.
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BTW-we vowed not to own any more cats, not to discriminate, but we couldn't handle her inside... she would get on the counters, she shed TERRIBLY, she liked to use beside the litterbox, and she LOVED being outside she would dart out and wouldn't come when called. We didn't know how to keep a cat outdoors (apparently you CAN'T). We thought she'd be ok, she didn't seem to wander off and she was spayed...anyway ignorance played a large part and I don't want to go thru this again. And since we are cat-ignorant:sad: then cats are not right for us.

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Catapillar Family (THE WHOLE FRIGGIN' FAMILY-10 total!)
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Cosmo (our fiesty JTR that no one could tame!)
and the newest-Honey (the sweetest Honey Bun kitty)
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Old September 27th, 2006, 10:04 PM
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I am not a kitty person, but I do love animals. I am very sorry about your loss. I think kitty knew you were there, so I hope that is some consolation.
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Old September 27th, 2006, 10:46 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. You must be so upset.
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Old September 27th, 2006, 10:49 PM
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sorry you had to see that :sad:

hope the kitty finds her way home
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Old September 27th, 2006, 11:16 PM
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Poor kitty ! I'm so sorry for your loss. It's very upsetting. I hope your son is not too upset when you tell him that she has "wandered off."
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Old September 27th, 2006, 11:30 PM
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I am so sorry that would be so hard to bear.

Hard as it is - I would consider telling him the truth - no sure how old he is but everytime he sees a kitty like yours he might keep wondering if its him.

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Old September 28th, 2006, 06:40 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss.

I too would think it best to tell your son the truth. He doesn't need gory details but perhaps something along the lines that the cat had an accident last night and she has gone to heaven. Even little children need closure.
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Old September 28th, 2006, 08:31 AM
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I am sorry for your loss. But I agree if he is old enough tell him the truth he will be better off knowing that kitty is not coming back.
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Old September 28th, 2006, 09:17 AM
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We have had 3 pets pass since my children have been born, our oldest now 4yrs was able to say bye to the last two, (IMO) I think children need closure as do adults, there are wonderful books that you can borrow from the library pertaining to children and grief and loss of a beloved pet. I think you should reconsider telling him 'she wondered off', and what ever you do don't tell him she went to sleep. My daughter says Carly and Jasmine 'are running in the fields and fields eating ham and tuna sandwiches all day', and I'm happy with that, we picked up the books and I read them for acouple days, explained that that's where our pets had gone and she's okay with that, she asked questions and I listened and answered with truth Honey
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Old September 28th, 2006, 08:21 PM
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He is 5 (6 in Oct.). He had such a hard time when Joe died. (and we only had him about 4 months!) Honey was 'his' cat and I KNOW he will be upset. He still grieves for Joe. This past June was the 1yr anniv. of his death and we set out a picture w/ a candle to 'remember' him. That was the first time we had to deal w/ death, and he took it hard. I thank you for your concerns but I feel that shielding him is best-for now.

BTW-Seth was the one to find Joe after he passed.
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Old September 28th, 2006, 09:46 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with the others though....maybe you could tell Seth that Honey had an accident and went to be with Joe.
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Old September 28th, 2006, 10:09 PM
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I agree. Children need to learn about death and shouldn't be completely shielded from it.
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Old October 1st, 2006, 02:12 PM
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rest in peace.

you should tell them the truth........i just did. its not easy but will help them understand the life cycle.
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Old October 5th, 2006, 03:56 PM
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I might get kicked off the Forum for saying this,but this Thread has really bothered me.
The cat sheds(cats do),has accidents(unloved,stressed cats do),jumps on counters(cats do) and gets kicked(not literally)outside only to end up under the wheels of a car...the only one I feel sorry for is the poor cat and the little boy who will forever look for his cat.
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Old October 5th, 2006, 04:09 PM
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I agree with you Chico.
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Old October 5th, 2006, 05:32 PM
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I also agree with you Chico2. Well said indeed.
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Old October 5th, 2006, 09:56 PM
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Old October 5th, 2006, 10:07 PM
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thanks Marco...

As I said we aren't 'cat people' and we learned the hard way. And to say our cat was 'unloved' is misinformed and rather rude. and futher more I am my childs mother, what I choose to tell him-or NOT-is my decision. I know my child and what he can handle...Thanks for the input on THAT subject-however its not wanted.
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Old October 31st, 2006, 05:27 PM
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No matter what you decide to do, there will always be those among us who will disagree. Only you know how your child will react to the sad news, so deal with it as only you can. I feel for you and your family.
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Old November 1st, 2006, 02:37 AM
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Very sad. :sad: Honey
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