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Old August 27th, 2006, 11:52 PM
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Angry I just can't say goodbye to my Draco

Draco was a 9 yr old all black German Shepard. We brought him home at the age of 7 weeks and I always said he chose us rather than us choosing him out of all the puppies there that day. He had the happiest & funniest personality, the more he made you laugh, the harder he would try. If he sensed that you were sad or hurting, he was right there at your side hurting with you. He has showed unconditional love and loyalty the entire 9 years he blessed our lives. At times I felt this dog was so special that I wondered what we did to deserve him.
On July 17th of this year, I woke up and had a very busy day ahead of me, I had to plan and prepare for my daughters 17th birthday party which was to be celebrated with family and friends that afternoon. I noticed Draco was laying in the downstairs bathroom and he didn't get up to go outside like he normally does every morning. The night before he was outside running and playing ball with dad like he always does, happy as could be, so I didn't think anything of him not going out. My kids began to get concerned because they were trying to coax him out of the bathroom and he just wouldn't get up. I asked them to stay in there with him because I had 2 hrs left to clean & prepare before the party. We called and got him a vet appointment but the soonest they could see him was dinner time. I continued to clean the house and would pop my head in once in awhile to ask the girls how he was. People started to arrive for the party and by this hour Draco wouldn't even respond to us talking to him, he was just staring off into the distance. My husband called the vet back and got him in on an emergency appt. I stayed behind because the guests were now here and we began to celebrate my daughters birthday. My husband returned home without Draco saying he was being kept because they discovered he was anemic and they needed to run an i.v for fluids and antibiotics. Exactly 2 hours after that the doctor called and said Draco had a massive heart attack and passed. He said it happened so fast by the time he got to him it was too late.
I can't forgive myself for not spending those last few hours with him at home.
I should have known the severity of it just by the look in his eyes. I put my housework and party preperations ahead of him and now he's gone. I never even had a chance to say goodbye when he left for the vet.
It has been a month and my heart is still in a million pieces. I went to the vet the next morning to say my goodbyes and I will take that hour I spent w/him to my grave. I dont know how to go on without him. Being a stay atr home mom, I spent the last 9 years, 24 hours a day with my Draco and now I feel as if I lost one of my kids. I have another black shepard that is Dracos nephew, he too is still mouning Dracos loss. Draco was so incredibly smart and loving that it's hard to imagine not ever waking to that happy face, or seeing him next to me every nite as I sit at my computer. I still feel the overwhelming need to comfort him when it storms outside and now all I cry for is him to be here comforting me. I know he's at peace and running around rainbow bridge, but I want to be selfish and have him here with me. I've lost other pets in the past but never have I had a connection like I did with my Draco. I have never known such sorrow. I love you Draco, my heart will ache until the day we meet again.
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Old August 28th, 2006, 12:26 AM
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He was a beautiful doggy. I can understand the regret- when my dobie was dying Christmas eve, I stayed up till 4AM with him and he just seemed stable. We had tons of people coming (family ) so I thought it would be better if I slept for a couple of hours... I told him to wait for me... My dad got up at 5AM to check on his plum pudding and my doggie had already died. I felt so bad (and still do) for him dying alone like that, but I'm convinced that he was staying alive just because I was there and he really had to go.

Your doggy had 9 great years with you. I'm sure if he remembers something it'll be that.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Old August 28th, 2006, 12:55 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

I, too, was so incredibly close to my last two huskies. The quote you posted with the picture, I have engraved on a locket in memory of them. They went to the bridge in 04/04 and 01/05 and I still cry over them.
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Old September 4th, 2006, 11:10 PM
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Unhappy I'm deeply sorry for your loss...

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

I, too, was so incredibly close to my last two huskies. The quote you posted with the picture, I have engraved on a locket in memory of them. They went to the bridge in 04/04 and 01/05 and I still cry over them.
That tribute was beatiful I was chocked to tears and beyond words when I saw & read it.
I am truly sorry for your loss :sad:
I know how that feels as well and I still mourn over my half siberian/half dobberman Kenny.

And I probably will up 'till we meet again in the place where shadows don't fall.
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Old September 5th, 2006, 05:55 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel bad,sometimes it's hard to know when it's time for them to go,they can't tell us,it would be so much easier on us :sad:
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Old September 5th, 2006, 07:46 PM
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It's amazing how much they leave behind when they die...they give so much;the purest of love. It's hard, and it will get easier, but the memories will be there and come to surface when you least expect them...and then you will get a smile that will make people wonder why are you smiling...draco
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Old September 5th, 2006, 09:09 PM
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What a wonderful gift it is to have been loved and to have loved so deeply. I hope you are able to draw strength and courage from Draco's gift to see you through your sorrow.
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Old September 6th, 2006, 12:46 AM
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What a wonderful gift it is to have been loved and to have loved so deeply. I hope you are able to draw strength and courage from Draco's gift to see you through your sorrow.
I quietly cry every night as I ask Draco to send me the strength to get through this My guilt and all around sorrow has been so great that I'm being medically treated for high bloodpressure until I can get past the worst of it. We had to take his pictures down around the house because when I see them my heart feels like it's going to explode. I loved this dog with every cell in my being, BECAUSE that was the love he showed us every day of his life.
The guilt is horrible and continues to get worse because I keep wondering
what he must have been thinking every time I peeked my head in that bathroom to ask the girls how he was. He was so weak he just layed there, couldn't raise his head, I keep thinking in his own mind, he was probably trying to tell me mommy come here and sit with me, I need you now,It is absolutley haunting me now knowing I went ahead w/ the party preperations when Draco layed there probably knowing it was his time but couldn't tell me.
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Old September 6th, 2006, 06:30 AM
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Fortunately animals are not like humans...they never want you to feel guilt. I doubt that Draco would want you to feel that way. It wasn't your fault, your girls were with him and he still knew the love was there.
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Old September 7th, 2006, 11:23 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, but cpietra is right, Draco would not want you to be so unhappy. You said when you were sad, he was there with you, being sad with you. You owe it to him now to honour his memory with tears of happiness and let his magic memories heal your heart. Don't make Draco sad by being sad - let him go with all your love. He understood mom was checking on him and his girls were with him. He knew he was and is still loved.

I had the same type of parting with my first dog Natasha. She started to stumble and we let her lay down at home for two hours until the vet could see her. She bravely walked out to the car and jumped in and when the vet took her in they said she was anemic. We left her overnight to be on an IV also and an hour later they called to say she had died. So I know what you feel with not getting to say goodbye. It never occurred to me that my girl would never come home. She had ruptured a heart valve and bled to death internally for no known reason. She was only 7 at the time and like your Draco was one of my kids.

It's heart breaking for sure, but we have to go on. We got another dog right away, it's what we had to do, some people have to wait. You already have another dog so that's good. Let your other pup work his wonders on you now. Draco would want that!
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Old September 7th, 2006, 08:05 PM
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Thankyou, I read your 1st post....

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I'm so sorry for your loss, but cpietra is right, Draco would not want you to be so unhappy. You said when you were sad, he was there with you, being sad with you. You owe it to him now to honour his memory with tears of happiness and let his magic memories heal your heart. Don't make Draco sad by being sad - let him go with all your love. He understood mom was checking on him and his girls were with him. He knew he was and is still loved.

I had the same type of parting with my first dog Natasha. She started to stumble and we let her lay down at home for two hours until the vet could see her. She bravely walked out to the car and jumped in and when the vet took her in they said she was anemic. We left her overnight to be on an IV also and an hour later they called to say she had died. So I know what you feel with not getting to say goodbye. It never occurred to me that my girl would never come home. She had ruptured a heart valve and bled to death internally for no known reason. She was only 7 at the time and like your Draco was one of my kids.

It's heart breaking for sure, but we have to go on. We got another dog right away, it's what we had to do, some people have to wait. You already have another dog so that's good. Let your other pup work his wonders on you now. Draco would want that!

I know you're right, Draco definately wouldn't want me this sad, I really am trying lately but I miss him so much I just cant help it. The whole thing happened so fast it still seems so wrong. After reading your comment about your dog passing from the same thing, I went and found your entry from the day you posted it. It's a little upsetting to hear this isn't uncommon. I was devestated by the fact I didn't say goodbye when he left for the vet, because like your dog, he had a physical 2 months before and the doctor said he was the healthiest 9 yr old Shepard he's ever seen, he still acted like a puppy. But after reading your story, I'm feeling that maybe it was a good thing it happened that fast. I don't know how I would have been able to get through holding him so limp the way you did, my husband did have to carry him out to the car because at that point he couldn't move and he was a 105 pd dog. But never in a million years did we think he would never come back.
He wasn't vomiting but his breathing was labored. I want to thank you for posting the story about your poor puppy, I'm now at least feeling grateful that God took him as quick as he did. I'm so sorry your dog had to suffer for those hours before the vet did any testing. We asked our doctor if we had gotten Draco in sooner if he would have been able to get help in time. He said unfortunenatley by the time they start showing the physical signs
like the stumbling and not being able to get up, the anemia has already progressed to the point where survival is very slim. What I'm still VERY unhappy about is being told by the doctor that he knew what was wrong with Draco the minute he was brought in, because he checked Draco's gums and they were white. Isn't that something vets should be telling dog owners?
That periodically through their growing, we should be peeking at their gums to make sure they are the proper color? I've taken Draco to the same vet for 9 yrs and my other for the 5 yrs we've had him & never once was I told the color of their gums could be a warning sign of anemia.
I have since latched onto my other dog as if every day could be his last. He doesn't seem to know how to handle the extra attention. He's acting very depressed lately and for the last 2 weeks started doing things that only Draco would do, things that are comepletely out of charactor for him. My husband just asked him today, as he did another one of Draco's habits, if he was turning into Draco. I told him it was Draco trying to let us know that he's okay. I really want to believe that.
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Old September 7th, 2006, 09:15 PM
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Im sorry but i do not know what to say, other than I am so sorry.

The pain never goes away. None of my dogs or cats ( at rainbow bridge) will ever be forgotten, and from time to time they all pop up in my head out of no where and I can feel the pain all over again.
However , the pain eases over time.

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Old September 8th, 2006, 08:01 AM
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Im sorry but i do not know what to say, other than I am so sorry.

The pain never goes away. None of my dogs or cats ( at rainbow bridge) will ever be forgotten, and from time to time they all pop up in my head out of no where and I can feel the pain all over again.
However , the pain eases over time.

For Draco
Thankyou, I know my pain will be with me for a very long time, he definately took a part of me with him. Draco wrapped himself around the heart of anyone who knew him, there were many members of my family and friends that took his passing badly. We had him cremated and now my daughters want him to be buried under his favorite tree where we camp, but I haven't been able to do it yet because I'm having so much trouble letting him go. I actually have 3 other pets, another Shepard and 2 kitties. I've had 2 pets in the past go to rainbow bridge but I always said they broke the mold when Draco was born, he was an incredible dog.
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Old September 8th, 2006, 11:22 AM
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I so understand how you feel.
I have had all my babies cremated and have asked my husband to put them in with me when I pass away...I know some people think I'm nuts, but I just don't want them to be lonely, so why not be with me
Ofcourse the other part is I don't want to part with them either.
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Old September 8th, 2006, 02:33 PM
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I so understand how you feel.
I have had all my babies cremated and have asked my husband to put them in with me when I pass away...I know some people think I'm nuts, but I just don't want them to be lonely, so why not be with me
Ofcourse the other part is I don't want to part with them either.
AWWWWW.....Actually I'm sure alot of people feel that way, I think that's why there are forums like this one out there!
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Old September 9th, 2006, 11:36 AM
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You are still in sooo much pain over your loss, I also have my animals cremated, I lost my last two one year apart on the same day:sad: Also being a SAHM I think things are different when you are the main care-giver, I have not 'put' their ashes anywhere as of yet because I'm not sure where I would like to see them go, I'm afraid that if I lay them to rest somewhere, should I dig them up when and if we plan to move 5,10,20 yrs down the road? This is a very hard topic to discuss with non-pet people as they just don't understand, I'm glad that this forum and members here are so caring and compassionate towards others and their pain in loss
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Old September 9th, 2006, 11:40 AM
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Ihave had all of mine burried at camp. They were always so happy there and I just felt that that is where they would have liked to spend eternity.

I go visit them when i go there.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something more I could say that would ease your pain.....
Draco was very fortunate to have such a caring family.
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Old September 28th, 2006, 03:39 PM
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I still cry for my dog Travis over two years later. He was a GSD x BMD and was such a big part of the family. I still have the picture I took of him a few days before he was pts on my fridge. He is burried at our cottage and my daughter made him a headstone. When we go up there I still go over and say hello, when we leave I say goodbye. He will always have a special place in my heart, even though I have another dog now. Tucker is completely different, and in a way I am thankful for he could never replace Travis.
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