Why Ask If You Don't (Rant)

[shannon1233A]

Okay, I'm relatively new to the forum and maybe a bit sensitive BUT, why do people ask the questions when they don't want the answers? People, pet lovers come here because, I take it, they love their pets and want the best for them and want input on certain issues bothering them. Then when the majority don't agree with them, after much consideration and taking the time to answer, and in some cases research, if they don't like what they hear, they just take off without so much as a thank you. I understand people come and go...but to come, ask for input then take off without any consideration of the time others have given their problem, and of course, with only the best of intentions and thinking of the best for their pet, boom, we never hear from them again. This leaves me wondering, of course, what happened with that poor pet. Case in point: a regular poster asked for help regarding a problem with his dog escaping his kennel and destructive behaviour . Guess he didn't like the responses cause he hasn't been back since. I think alot of people gave his problem alot of thought, took the time to respond, and even suggested alternative measures to curb the problem The whole point is, I thought people came here because they loved their pets, wanted the best for them, but I guess THEIR own feelings come first and are more important than the well being of their "beloved" pet. Kind of frustrating to be left hanging forever, wondering if a certain pet is doing okay, and living the good life he/she deserves.

Sorry for the rant, but I've spent many sleepless nights, wondering how a certain dog or cat is doing after reading about a problem, solution then left hanging to wonder I PROMISE, WHEN I POST ASKING FOR HELP WITH SOMETHING, I WILL RESPOND AND KEEP ALL OF YOU PET LOVING PEOPLE KNOW WHAT'S HAPPENING. I MAY NOT AGREE WITH EVERYTHING, BUT I WON'T LEAVE YOU HANGING AND WONDERING WHAT'S HAPPENED CONCERNING THE PROBLEM I'VE ASKED ABOUT

[Mockingcat]

Honestly, people don't like being told that they're irresponsible and cruel, even if their behaviour says otherwise.

It is always cruel to not seek treatment for a wounded animal. Full stop. No ifs ands or buts. (Ok, well obviously if there's a natural disaster or some such that prevents you from physically doing so.) "I don't have money", "I don't have a ride", or "My last dog got better and I didn't" are not excuses, and some people don't believe that.

I'm out of work right now. But my guinea pig wheezed a little, and both of the little buggers went to the vet. That meant that we get another lovely week of eaten ramen and hamburger helper.

Some people just don't seem to realize that animals are not a right, they are a privledge, and having them means denying yourself other things sometimes.

(*jumps down off the soapbox*. :P)

[JDG]

I'm still pretty new too. . . .but, Wow! You know, I've contemplated writing pretty much the same thread, verbatim!!

I would have added:
- the people who post health questions about their pet VOMITTING, BLEEDING or having DIARRHEA on the board that says right it the board title 'if your pet is vomitting, bleeding or has diarrhea take them to the vet' grrrrr!

-People who give their life stories. We here to talk pets (a little teeny weenie tiny bit of personal information is nice - but no one really wants a novel about a trip to the grocery store, that time you went to the mall or 'that one time, at band camp') I like 'knowing' people by their pets. . .

anyways - I feel better too, hahahahahahhahhahaa. . . . .

[Eleni]

Originally Posted by JDG

-People who give their life stories. We here to talk pets (a little teeny weenie tiny bit of personal information is nice - but no one really wants a novel about a trip to the grocery store, that time you went to the mall or 'that one time, at band camp') I like 'knowing' people by their pets. . .
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I personally like to get to know people.

And I do agree if people are asking questions about their pets they should be prepared to hear the answer good, bad or indifferent.


Eleni

[kandy]

I think that sharing some personal information helps us to feel more 'connected'. I also think that it is sometimes necessary to give personal information in order to get the most appropriate advice on whatever issue you want advice on. And I like hearing about new babies and new jobs and new houses, etc., etc. I like to think that this forum is not just about the pets, its about the people who own them too. You never know, you could forge some lifelong friendships with people here.

I do agree that some posters want to have their actions or their thoughts validated, and get ruffled when people don't agree. I wonder if some of those are people who think it's funny to get us all riled up by telling us about their fictitious cat bleeding from every orifice and that they think it'll clear up on its own but just want to know how to get rid of the blood stains.

[Beaglemom]

It would be nice to get a quick update to a problem an OP was having. I do wonder what happened to the pet in question and if the proper medical treatment/advice was seeked and what the outcome was. I think that it would also help anybody else who is experiencing something similar.

About the personal information. I have no problem with that. I don't think people get way too personal here. I like to know that there are people out there experiencing some of the same life issues/stages that I may be going through. It is nice to be able to get advice and/or support for many different things.

[iRONKNiGHT]

Originally Posted by JDG

-People who give their life stories. We here to talk pets (a little teeny weenie tiny bit of personal information is nice - but no one really wants a novel about a trip to the grocery store, that time you went to the mall or 'that one time, at band camp') I like 'knowing' people by their pets. . .

Yea but this one time at band camp LOL.... You're RIGHT ON JDG!
but lately when i see personal issues i just ignore them.. people seem to complain about everything... and they know who they are..as for me..