Chihuahua screams when she is told no... HELP!!

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I have a 1 year old female chihuahua who I got when she was 9 months old. Most of the time she is fine and she loves to cuddle, but she has a problem when she knows she is in trouble or when you tell her no. If I call her name when I want to take her for a walk or to go in her crate she will sometimes listen and sometimes won't. When she doesn't come after I call her name a few times and I try to approach her she will start crying as if someone was hurting her, and if I try to pet her or pick her up while she is like this she will try to bite me. I usually need to really calmly talk to her and sweet talk her into coming towards me and calming down. I have another chihuahua who is 3 years old and has never had this issue. Coco (1year old) also pees when she is too excited. I have never hit her and I am wondering if she was abused before? How can I stop this behaviour?
Thanks
Dianna