To All My Friends … I thank you.

[14+kitties]

I just wanted to say a huge thank you to all of you who have befriended me here. These past few weeks have been exceptionally hard on me. My mom was diagnosed last Oct with a non aggressive lung cancer. We were told at that time she had 2 ½ to 5 years with us. We could accept that. She had already been through breast cancer three other times and beat it. Every day we had with her was one more we hadn’t thought we would have.

Up till the first week of June she was still in her own apartment. This was quite a feat for her considering what she had been through. She persevered through everything; losing her breasts, having her chest opened a month after losing the last one to have the bones scraped again because they missed some cancer cells. She came through it stronger than ever. And we were so proud.

In June she moved into my sister’s so she could be watched closer. She was getting weaker but still saying “Just wait. I will get over this.” July 9th she went into the hospital. By this point the meds she was on were making her very disoriented. She was tending to ramble but she still had her sense of humour, she still had her smile. July 12th she had a stroke. She was no longer able to talk, to make us understand what she was trying to say. I kissed her on the forehead when I went to see her on that Wednesday. (I am three hours away) and told her I loved her. I heard her whisper I love you back. I thought “Wow mom, you’re still in there fighting!”

I went up to see her on the 19th. Mostly I sat beside her holding her hand, looking at her, crying. She only opened her eyes a few times and that was with great difficulty.

July 20th , 9:30 PM I lost my mom. She would have been 82 this Oct. She was my rock, my centre, my confidant. I miss her.

I wanted everyone to know how much their friendship, their humour, even their ohhhhss and awwwws over my babies have helped me to cope with one of the hardest things I have had to cope with in my life. Not many people here knew what was going on. Frenchy did. I can’t tell you how much help she has been to me! So thank you all!! Especially Frenchy!

Treasure the time you have left with your parents if you are lucky enough to still have them.

[Chris21711]

My heart goes out to you Geri, I know how you are feeling, I too lived through the same scenario with my own Mum in l999, seeing one's mother fade away day by day is heartbreaking and it makes one feel so helpless. Big Hugs to you and your family........Chris

[mona_b]

Ohhhhh 14+.....

You have me bawling.I am SOOOOOOOO very sorry for your loss.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Treasure the memories you have.They will never die.They will last forever.

We are here for you.


"mom"

[sugarcatmom]

Oh sweetie, I'm so so sorry. There is no greater pain than losing those we love. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

[Frenchy]

Originally Posted by mona_b

You have me bawling.

Me too I'm so sorry about the loss of your mom

[Winston]

14+ My heart goes out to you today! I went through losing my rock about 9 yrs ago! My DAD! I was Daddy's little girl! really! but we had the best relationship! I could tell him anything! honestly even girl stuff..

When I lost him it was immediate. He had a heart attack and died instantly. There was no time for anything to be done! no time for anything to be said! and I am so thankful that I told him I loved him the day before he left us!! SOme people never get that chance! So I am sooo glad that you had the opportunity to stand by your mom during her valiant fight! that means alot! You will be stronger for that! I wish I could say its going to be easy but it wont be!

To this day little things will get to me and I will have a good cry, then a good laugh and remember all of those special memories I have tucked away! I am sure you have lots of those! You are a strong women and this will make you even stronger!

You are right though! the kindness of strangers on this site is wonderful! it really is!

CIndy

[hazelrunpack]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Geri. Your mom sounds like a wonderful woman and the world will miss her presence.

[14+kitties]

Thank you ladies.
Do you guys know the story about if you find a penny it means someone in heaven is thinking about you?
On Friday, the day after we buried Mom's ashes, I went outside to feed the kitties. I called Stormy and she came running. I put down the food I was carrying and bent down to pick her up and guess what. Right at that same exact spot where Stormy was was a bright, shiny penny. I picked it up, looked up and said Thanks Mom.