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Old March 29th, 2011, 02:35 PM
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Jealousy and acceptance question

I have a HUGE MONSTER male husky and a sweet cuddle bug smaller husky that seems to crave affection more than the beast (though I cuddle him tons too) My question is, is it all right to allow the small one on the couch while the monster one that clearly wishes he was smaller, not to be?

It's so nice to cuddle with the little one and my heart goes out to her cause she has to fend for herself all day. The monster play fights with her a lot and he would never hurt her on purpose but it is a lot for her to deal with just the same, always being outweighed, so when she wants affection it's hard to resist.

But the monster is WAY TOO HUGE to get on the couch, he would take up the whole thing. But he's incredibly smart and I'm not sure he can just accept it or will hold it against the smaller one. Am I setting her up for his jealousy? Or do you think he can get used to it and sorta not notice...(wince).
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Old March 29th, 2011, 02:37 PM
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I have a feeling I'm not gonna like the collective answer
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Old March 29th, 2011, 02:54 PM
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I have a rather pushy siberian husky and a 100 lb woosy lab that are both allowed on the couch. The lab is a total suck that loves to cuddle and the sibe is rather aloof and only cuddles on his terms. Even though he knows he can come on the couch, he very seldom does so.
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Old March 29th, 2011, 07:15 PM
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I have a rather pushy siberian husky and a 100 lb woosy lab that are both allowed on the couch. The lab is a total suck that loves to cuddle and the sibe is rather aloof and only cuddles on his terms. Even though he knows he can come on the couch, he very seldom does so.
You must have a HUGE couch!!!

Plus the large one is obsessed with digging up moles in the back yard, he carries 5x the dirt that the little one does. He's more independent but I can tell he still wishes he was the size he used to be, to be cuddled like he was when he was a pup...about the size of just his HEAD now.

poor pup
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Old March 29th, 2011, 07:23 PM
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If the male is the more dominant dog, the one who usually comes out on top in the play-fights, promoting her to couch-privilege and leaving him on the floor will cause confusion between the two and encourage him to challenge her more often out there where he wins. Might be better to give them equal couch privileges, both off or both on.
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Old March 29th, 2011, 07:34 PM
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Well I am going to disagree. I have 2 large, 1 XLarge, 1 small, 1 tiny. All dogs know that there is a difference based on their sizes. The small ones are allowed on the couch and the beds, and the big ones are not. There is an understanding and there is never any debates nor jealousy.
We treat all our dogs relatively the same, but this is one exception. Is it right? It's the way of this household and we have no issues with the dogs argueing over who gets to sit or sleep where. It's accepted and they find their relevant spots to lay.
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Old March 29th, 2011, 03:08 PM
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I have a feeling I'm not gonna like the collective answer

You mean the one where we advise you to buy a bigger couch???
Or the one about how to get a big pillow and sit on the floor with them?
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Old March 29th, 2011, 07:11 PM
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You mean the one where we advise you to buy a bigger couch???
Or the one about how to get a big pillow and sit on the floor with them?
thanks (whew) I thought I'd get chewed out...
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