Sending good wishes to you for a calmer time. I am a TTouch Practioner for companion animals but the technique works for people also. Breathing is the biggest thing, we hold our vreathe without even realizing what we are doing.
I am attaching a description of how to do Heart Hugs, these will help to calm you. Try it. Good luck and thank you for looking after this beautiful kitten.
http://en.tellington-ttouch.org/cont...hugs-step-step