I completely agree with Happycats. With all the threads I have read that turned "nasty", it was generally either because the poster got defensive, or it wasn't really nasty at all, but somebody (generally somebody who had not offered any advice to the OP themselves) comes in and starts lecturing about being nice. I have very rarely seen somebody actually be rude. Blunt, yes, but when giving advice, that is one's perogative. The truth can hurt and appears to offend a lot on here. I was really suprised when i joined this site to see so much going back and forth about "being nice". Everyone is either looking to help or be helped with their animals, and as long as there are no direct insults or harrassment and a basic respect is upheld, I don't think there's any sense in getting offended by somebody's tone or an attitute you think somebody has. I mean, this is a pets forum on the internet, not junior high. Just my opinion
