After much thought and discussion with family, friends, and fellow dog lovers (including some ouf YOU!), I have made the difficult decision that Sassy is not the match for us. :sad:
I thought it over a lot and something just didn't feel right about adopting her. She is a sweet dog who will make an excellent pet for someone, but just not for us right now.
This has been a real learning experience for us, and I have learned some valuable lessons:
1. it is going to take a very special dog to fit in with our family: likely a submissive, lower energy male. And we will have to meet this dog beforehand and spend lots of time with it before deciding!
2. I LOVE Molly
and am so grateful everyday to have her in my life!! She may not be perfect but she has come a long ways, so I am proud of that!
Thanks everyone for your words of advice and encouragement.
And sorry this wasn't happy adopting news, but in the end I had to make the decision that was best for us.