Wow, just wow. Thank you so much. And thanks for the link to the cat scratching. I was coming here to ask a question about why Izzy is suddenly scratching a chair that I've had since she has been here. Very frustrating. Off to read the article.
I had to chuckle too when we brought Izzy home (it will be one year in March!!!) I told my DS (then 11) to leave her alone, let her come out of her crate in her own time, dont bug her, let her do her own things, etc etc etc
So I set her crate down in my bedroom, opened the crate door and walked out. It wasn't 5 mins later and she was on the couch in my DSs lap.