Hi
snugsy01 and welcome to the forum!
snugsy01, I have personal experience with a kitty's leukemia, and some of what you are now seeing I have dealt with as well. For me, that was seven years ago and, back then, I wasn't aware of the information and help that existed online....it is a huge regret for me. If only I had known, I am sure things would have turned out differently.
Here is some of what I have learned since then: first, these general forums, like this one, can be helpful. For the major chronic diseases/conditions, however, there exist online specialized information/support groups made up of people experienced in dealing with these issues. There are often thousands of members whose experience spans many years. They are also aware of the very latest treatments.
If I had the opportunity to do it over again, I would be sure to join and participate there.
The original leukemia group can be found here
http://felineleukemia.org/mailman/li...neleukemia.org You'll need to sign up for it first. The format/design/look of it is different from these forums, but not difficult to get used to.
The people who set up that group also have a leukemia information site - it's here
http://www.felineleukemia.org/
I believe you'll get the very best advice there.
I hope you can also be able to keep us updated, although I know just how consuming your situation is presently.
(You're going to have to continue assist-feed him if there's going to be any chance of his survival. I would be using a special food - available from your Vet - it's Hill's a/d
http://www.hillspet.com/products/pd-...re-canned.html There's all kinds of info about assist-feeding here
http://www.assistfeed.com/ You'll need to use a syringe with a large barrel - something like like this
http://www.longridersgear.com/catalo...roducts_id=536 (ask your Vet or druggist) Then, if you want, there's an online group for all this here
http://pets.groups.yahoo.com/group/F...isted-Feeding/ ,,,,,hope I haven't drowned you!!!)
One more thing.....again, from my experience...you already had two offers/suggestions from your Vet to send him off. I would not choose that until, at least, I had a chance to speak with some more experienced people...try that group.