SW, I'm sorry this isn't getting any easier for you and Timber.
No advice, just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.
"We are--each of us--dying; it's how we live in the meantime that makes the difference."
"It's not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived!"
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."