thank you for the links... during my research before I started this I did see most of those.
the last link was a good read but not much I had not already thought about. My toilet is too hard for the cat to flush so I can still monitor her. she also comes with us on weekends to the cabin and uses a litter box there so she will always remember how to use one.
ya its too bad no forums are around for this because the general practice for teaching is what I have been doing, she just for some reason wont do the full last step.
thank you for the links