thank you for all your advice and reassurance. She came out last night to eat twice while we were both sitting nearby so thats a good sign. I will try reading next to her, hopefully she wont run at me. I am glad that all the responses were positive, I had one response on another forum tell me to give her straight back, that they had not heard of an adult cat acting out like this, but everyone else has been really positive so I am going to be patient, I do like how I need to earn her trust, I think that if and when she does come around she will have a very strong bond with me.
These are some photos off of her ad that her previous owner took, she is the prettiest little girl!
Thanks again guys I will try to keep u posted!