Well just an update, he is doing a little better, the favorite toy in the car did not work btw....
so I tried ignoring him, this works!!! However he has gotten use to where he lives by turns we make.... and the whining starts because he knows he close to home I guess.
I thought about his behaviour and our last GSD
use to do the exact same thing when we'd pick her up from the groomers, she would whine and cry the hole way home, not a moments peace, then as soon as we got here she would jump out of the truck and strut her stuff! So maybe it is just the excitement that they are coming home! That they ain't going to be abandoned