never thought i would say this but im with Happycats. we feed raw supplemented with the occasional Evo or Felidae (cause we go out of town once or twice a year.... babysitters and raw?? 'ew' they say).
Shadow is our... stubborn cat. i can imagine if he had company as... troublesome as he is, it would only get worse over time but since he has no cohorts, its manageable. sounds to me like you guys have a handful of stubborn cats and they feed off of each other.
Ssscat is a great product, coupled with squirt bottles, free fed Evo(or other grain free kibble) and some double sided tape... i bet you guys can have some pleasant cats shortly.
Chris- Husband, 04/30/77
Cailyn- Daughter, 07/05/99
Jeffrey- Son, 03/24/06
Alex- Son, 03/25/09
Mister- Black LabX, M, 08/06(?)
The Shadow Stalker- Gray Tux DSH, M, 04/04
The Mighty Hunter- Black Tux DSH, M, 04/04
Baby Girl- Tabby DMH, F, 12/03(?)
Frances- Tortie, DSH, F, 2007(?)