IM sorry but I found your post abit confusing.
You say you can handle the kittens. Does that mean you are able to care for their eyes and their mother will let you touch them.
You say the mother cat is a different story ,I dont know what you mean by that. Is it that her eyes are alot worse or that she wont let you touch her . Maybe if you could make your post more clear someone could help you.
Please dont be upset with me its just I am not sure exactly what you are asking.