I moved your post into its own thread, hoping to make it more visible.
I have no advice, but know that you're in my thoughts and prayers and please keep us posted.
"We are--each of us--dying; it's how we live in the meantime that makes the difference."
"It's not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived!"
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."