Originally Posted by elseesmom
(Apologies in advance for the length of my rambles)
My partner and I adopted Elsee about 5 weeks ago. She is a 3 year old, female, English bulldog x beagle. She was rescued from a puppy mill in the States and lived in a great foster home from about Dec 2012-Feb 2013. She has a very calm and loveable demeanor. She has come SUCH a long way since we've had her but I am still facing 2 main issues (both stemming from not being able to trust anyone in the past, I believe):
1. She became attached to me quite quickly but she is still uncertain of J. I am the primary care-giver (this was a conscious decision) and she is becoming more and more playful and affectionate with me every day(well....she has always given non-stop kisses!), especially when we are on the couch cuddling/play wrestling or when we are outside (chasing each other, play bows, etc.). But around J (or any stranger) she is skittish even though he gives her tons of love. She hardly moves around the condo at all but she doesn't hide either. Once she's in her bed or on the couch, she will not move unless we pick her up (see issue no. 2!) so he can approach her and pet her or pick her up with no reaction (and recently she has started giving him little kisses because he leaves his face in front of her for long enough lol) but if he moves too quickly or if she has to pass by him to get from one room to another, she gets afraid and scrambles to get away. Any loud noise or large object she's not used to frightens her. She is mostly a "bolter" but if she can't get away (ie: on the leash outside or on the elevator) she will freeze and cower. She shows zero aggression and does not "fear pee" She will let him lie on the couch with her but if he wants her to come closer for kisses he has to pick her up or drag her over. J loves Elsee soooo much but after 5 weeks of being patient and letting her adjust to her new home I can tell that it is starting to get to him. What can we change or try to get Elsee to attach more to J?
2. She will not come when she is called. Her nick name is "concrete ass" because she won't get up for anything! And she is not food motivated so I don't know how to encourage her to "come". She doesn't ask to go outside (which is fine because we have her on a regular schedule for taking her out) so I will put the leash on her (while she is lying down) but she will NOT jump off the couch or step out of her bed. She's not scared of the leash at all either because she's fine when she sees J or I approach her with it or once she's up (ie: leaving the "doggy business" area or walking from the condo to the elevators and through the lobby). We have to pick her up and put her on her feet to go outside and carry her to the bedroom when we go to sleep at night. And she is an awkward 45 lbs to carry! I will say, however, that the one instance she will "come" is after she's done her business. It's become a habit now that when she's finished, I will crouch down and call her and clap and get very animated and she charges at me with excitement and then we play and run around a bit. Any thoughts or advice on either issue would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for your replies.
If i can offer some comfort to you. I have a yorkie that was rescued from an animal hoarder and i am seeing some of the same behaviours. he won't come when i call him. he got attached to me on the drive home from niagara falls to toronto. he went through crazy separation anxiety for about 6 months. he trusts me but others. no. it does get better. it took jobi about 2 years to lick me. and i took him to pet smart for beginner obedience 2 months ago and he came out of his shell alot. i did not go for the training, i went for the socialization. and it helped. try going to the dog park and walk him every day so he can see other dogs and noises daily. give lots of treats. high value treats like bacon or chicken. he may not eat it outside. jobi did not for two years, then started this year. jobi still does not poo on his walks, just pee. he will poo in the back yard only. jobi did not play when he came, i guess it took about a year for him to play, but only with me. after another year he will play with some other people. he still won't play with toys though, like he does not know what they are.it will take your dog alot of consistent sameness to trust and see nothing will happen to him. jobi wasn't food motivated either, but he is now
he resists grooming and water touching him anywhere. if i can suggest something though, i would not leave him at doggy daycare at this stage. i would expose him to other dogs at the dog park or stay with him at the doggy day care. i don't know, that is just me.it also took him 2 years to feel comfortable with my brother in law, 2 months ago he started greeting him when he came home. before this it was barking at him, and before that it was just running and hiding.he also tries to nip at my brothers legs. my brother has a defensive attitude and kind of stands over him and says get away or what do you want..not helpful. but he runs from everyone else.including other dogs.but he is sniffing other dogs now since obedience and the dog park and walks.