Elaina, welcome to the forum. Get your post count up and I believe we can PM you and you can post photos of your pets.
In the meantime, I realize posters often don't read anything other than the OP so I'd like to suggest you take a look at the same link I provided for the OP. Much recent research by accredited Vets in peer reviewed articles points to at least as many risks with spay/neuter as benefits as far as health alone is concerned. Some behavioural advantages of spay/neuter are also questionned, some confirmed. Take a look, I think you will find some surprises. I think there is no one hard answer either way. It's not the best thing ever, nor is it the worst. As many of the articles say themselves, more work needs to be done.