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Response to the anonymous person that emailed me

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 12:38 AM
I've mentioned my email address in a post or two, and I don't regret that.
However, someone from here who withheld their name just sent me a nasty email, and when I replied I received a notice back saying that it could not be delivered because I am not on this person's "allow" list. Okey dokey.
Forgive me for pasting my response here, as it's not going to make sense to anyone else reading. But it's all I could think to do.

To the person who sent me the email:

I am sorry you feel that way about me. I can't imagine how I gave you the impression that I think I "know it all". I came to pets.ca looking for information, which I would think indicates that I realize I don't have all the answers.

Yes, I do have children- I have one son. And yes I do spoil him "as much as Raja". In fact, he's got 13 years of "spoiling" on Raj. I'm flattered that you've taken such an interest in my personal life. You must really like me.

I do not know Luba or Moontamara in "the real world". I developed my sentiments for them through reading their posts. I don't need to "drag my friends" onto the boards to "back me up" (you might notice that Luba was here LONG before I was). These are people that I only know from the site. "MoonDarlin" is an affectionate term, but not the type of affection you so descriptively referred to.

Your last paragraph was incomprehensible. It is difficult to cipher out anything that makes sense amidst the deluge of foul language. If you have such a hard time communicating, perhaps the people who teach monkeys sign language could help you.

Affectionately,
Cactus Flower

Lucky Rescue
August 20th, 2004, 12:42 AM
That's terrible, CF!! And the worst part is that this person is too gutless to give a name.

You should just ignore anonymous and stupid drivel like that. It really doesn't merit a reply.

And of all the people to pick on!! Must be someone jealous of your good looks. ;)

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 12:47 AM
You're right, LuckyRescue. I probably should have let an hour or two pass before deciding what to do. I likely would have thought it wasn't even worth the bother.


Good looks? LOL....aw shucks.... :o

melanie
August 20th, 2004, 01:10 AM
well that is no good, you have never given me any indication that you think you know it all, in fact from what i read you are a caring pet owner with a genuine interest in yours and other animals welfare. oh but dont you love the way they do it anonomously, havent got the balls to say anything in front of the rest of us, just pathetic that approach.
sadly cactus, they have no life, please ignore the rednecks and jerks. and dont ever be afraid to tell the rest of us what is going on, we hate bullies around here and when they surface we fix em fast. down with the stupid boring bullies i say, horrrah

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 01:19 AM
By the way, thank you LuckyRescue (I should have said that first, sorry!).

Melanie- Thank you as well! Kind words, and much appreciated.

You two have warmed this night for me.

moontamara
August 20th, 2004, 01:29 AM
Cactus Flower, (afraid to support you for fear it will cause more trouble :( ) it shocks me that someone would send YOU a hurtful e-mail. I have never noticed you offer anything but help and support to people here and never in a preachy way. I think I do recall defending you once, but I meant what I said!!!

And that's my last post in the month of August! By all!!!!!!

Sneaky2006
August 20th, 2004, 02:25 AM
I'm sorry that happened to you, and I hope this doesn't cause you any more trouble either.
I think you are wonderful, and I too think this person must be missing something in his/her life to waste their time and send you such a nasty email.
It's probably someone who doesn't make friends easily and who is jealous of such friendships whether it be online or not.
Please don't let them get to ya! :)

trescanis
August 20th, 2004, 03:11 AM
. If you have such a hard time communicating, perhaps the people who teach monkeys sign language could help you.

BAHAHAHA!!!!

I haven't been here too long, but what I have noticed is that you are calm, cool,collected and succint!

I know you have shook the whole crap off by now, but just wanted to let you know that I personally feel that you are one of the cooler heads that prevail here.

Give yourself a hug lady! You deserve it!!

iRONKNiGHT
August 20th, 2004, 04:45 AM
Cactus Flower you should know by now how too "IGNORE THEM"
they win when you "pay attention" to them!
that's what they want "attention"

IGNORE THEM!!

i've always lived by this motto:
Stick's and Stone's may break my bones but Words will never hurt me..

as for me i at the time i was with "WaGGiE" :D lol
sharing uhh uhhhh pet stories ... yeah that's it..

Iggette
August 20th, 2004, 06:54 AM
Sorry you got such an Ignorent letter (by the sounds of your reply) perhaps you can forward it to lucky rescue arn't there ways of finding out if this person is a member of our board like an IP addy or something? Just a thought that way said person can be banned for life......lol :D

Cactus flower we all wuv ya and we all have been known to give advice to help out and thats all it is help that we can offer an upset pet owner that is awaiting a responce.........O well some people have to much time and no intelligence to spread around so they make nasty letters :confused:

chico2
August 20th, 2004, 08:26 AM
CactusFlower,I know I've,unlike you, gone off the deep end a few times at some callous pet-owners,but have never been rewarded with a sicko e-mail :D But it takes all kinds to make the world go around,if an endearing word,like Moondarling will get this person going,I can just imagine what kind of red-neck idiot this is :eek:
I am sure he/she did this because you are certainly a"looker",maybe just jealosy...ignoring is the best remedy to erase jerks.

Goldenmom
August 20th, 2004, 08:54 AM
I'm sorry that you received a nasty email. I would be so upset if that had happened to me.

Is there not some way that you can find out this persons name? Post it here and let us try and figure it out???

I just think that some people are gutless and have to hide after saying something they know is not right.

Chin up!
Heather

Princesss04
August 20th, 2004, 11:41 AM
Cactus Flower I am so sorry that some one sent that Email to you. You have been so helpful to me through many things. And you have never struck me as a know it all. You do spoil your pets but who does not the DESERVE it and so do our children. You have a very pretty dog as I have told you before and you are a very pretty lady and have very cute children so I mean why would they not be jealous. People are dumb and have nothing better to do. So do not let it bother you, you have done nothing wrong you are a wonderful person with a wonderful family. You have been so helpful and an encouragement to all the people here. Thank you and keep up the good work! :D

Luba
August 20th, 2004, 12:08 PM
CF all I have to say is IGNORE

Think about how pathetic it is for someone to actually go through the emotions of being upset at someone on a message board so they have to send them hate mail. LMFHO

I'm flatted my name was mentioned :p

Seriously, ask me how much I care when I get this type of crap like you do??
You didn't have to respond to this pathetic person, and I think you should just drop it! I get hate mail from time to time and now I just enjoy the read because I realize how foolish and desperate they are for attention.

By the way, you know that this thread is only fueling them even more.
If I were you , I'd delete the entire thread ;) so they don't go back and read it over and over again giggling laughing in their pathetic little world because they upset you and now everybody on the board knows it!

wAggie
August 20th, 2004, 12:26 PM
ya... luba's absolutely right.

this is the net, and that means anything goes. that's why u'r name's CACTUS FLOWER :p

heck, my dad still asks me if I'm interested in viagra, since he gets all that "informative" spam... hehehe

he's jokes. :)


don't take everything seriously once u log into the WWW. ;)

now go give those of "kids" of urs a bigggg hug, ThAt's the ReAL world. :D

wAggie
August 20th, 2004, 12:28 PM
delete it, this is completely unnecessary.. how credible is this person if they're left anonymous anyways?

what if they log on here every 17 days (lol), they don't need to see you've DEDICATED a thread and your time to this load of ... chocolate. ;)


but hey, this is all simply my opinion... and Luba's (she's gotta get credit) :p :p

Luba
August 20th, 2004, 12:28 PM
Oh my goodness your dad talks to you about viagra LOL @ that!

Lucky Rescue
August 20th, 2004, 12:33 PM
CF, highlight whatever name showed up on the email, right click it and choose "Properties". That should give you the email addy of whatever worm sent this.

Luba
August 20th, 2004, 12:36 PM
OHhhh thats right LOL LOL LOL LOL

Probably a hotmail acct

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 01:05 PM
Are you kidding? Delete this thread? I think I'm going to print it out and have it framed!!!!! LOL :D

WOW did this ever end up being a pick-me-up! I should get hate mail more often!

You all are so sweet! "Thank you" just sounds repetitive at this point, and somehow falls short. I don't really know what to say, except I'm sitting here grinning like an idiot and so full of warm fuzzies I probably need a shave by now.

MoonDarlin - Don't be afraid to support anyone out here. You've certainly caused me no worries. Go get married and make some memories!

Sneaky - Interesting point about "making friends". Hadn't thought of that!

Trescanis - Likewise! I honestly have thought the same things about you.

IronKnight - Ignore, indeed. I know I really should have collected myself before posting, and I probably would have decided to just blow it off. Now what exactly were you sharing with wAggie?....was it chocolate, perhaps?.... :D

Iggette - Good advice, and I thank you. I think I'll just leave it lie. Maybe I'll leave it up to LuckyRescue whether or not to just pull the thread.

Chico - You flatter me :) . I assure you I look like a ragamuffin most days. And God help the person who wants to take my picture then :D Loved your choice of words that you've never been "rewarded" by a sicko email...

Goldenmom - Thank you :) . I can copy it into a pm if you like. I couldn't post it here without half of it being bleeped out for profanity.

Princess - You should be renting yourself out as a self-esteem fix :D Can I call you when I'm feeling particularly worthless? lol. Thank you for your lovely comments. And I agree about the spoiling!

Luba - Good thing they didn't know I call you 'GREAT SWAMI' huh? HAhahahahaaaaaa...... Ignore, ignore....*ok I got it* :)

wAggie - Duly noted! Your Dad sounds like a funny guy!

If anyone else posted while I was writing this, I'm sorry I missed you.
LuckyRescue, I'll leave it up to you whether to pull this thread or not. You have more experience with what is best in a situation like this.
I'm not upset anymore (how could I be, after reading these responses), although I was when I wrote my reply. You all are absolutely right about ignoring the author of that email. I don't want to perpetuate this "FIFTH GRADE" (indeed!) behavior or add any fuel to the fire.

Thanks again, everyone- I really appreciate it.

SSAC
August 20th, 2004, 01:06 PM
Yes, let us all know who it was, so maybe we can shut them off this site?
What a wanker, not giving his or her name.....how gutless. (can I say wanker? oh well). :D

People do realize that this site is meant for people's personal opinions, don't they? :confused: and if they don't like it, don't visit :eek:

There are many threads that I haven't replied to because you guys seem to have it covered and covered well and that's great! :)

Luba
August 20th, 2004, 01:17 PM
Good to know CF!
You're a barrel of laughs, giggles and now shaving cream!!

glasslass
August 20th, 2004, 03:04 PM
Cactus Flower, I missed this whole thread yesterday. Just catching up. Ignore this sicko, we all luv ya. He's afraid to face the pack cause he knows we'd tear him apart! :mad:

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 03:29 PM
Thank you, GlassLass :)

mastifflover
August 20th, 2004, 03:52 PM
Cactus Flower if they don't have the nerve or integrity to sign the email, they really don't deserve the effort that it took to post your reply. I feel that if you have something to say you should at least have the common decency to sign your name. If I have a complaint I would sign my name because I would want that person to be able to respond. Ignore this person you are much better than that.

GsdDiamond
August 20th, 2004, 04:18 PM
I might be new here, but that kind of behaviour is intollerable in any circle. Corrtect in saying they should be IP traced and banned.

CF, as I said, I'm new here but from what I've seen of your postings, you're a very caring individual. The peron who attacked you is heartless and has no morals. Not to mention a coward!

Luba
August 20th, 2004, 04:27 PM
Very true Laura, only share your email with whom u want to have it!

You know how to block them now right CF?

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 04:36 PM
Laura- "poopy head" lol lol lol! Good advice about pm'ing it.

Mastiff- you are absolutely right, I should have ignored

Diamond- Thank you. New or not, your opinions are always welcome here

Luba- I reported the email as spam so they can't send any more. Is that what you meant?

Catt31
August 20th, 2004, 06:07 PM
:eek: I'm appalled!! You of all people getting crap like that!!! man oh man!!! I could understand ME getting a "what for" after I've been on a rampage, but come on people!!! We all have our moments eh?? LOL But hey, that spineless dingdong deserves a dope slap!!! :rolleyes:

Chin up girl!!! Go give Raja a hug, she will make ya feel better!!! Dogs always do!!! Brick and I love ya!!!! :D

Cactus Flower
August 20th, 2004, 09:47 PM
that spineless dingdong deserves a dope slap!!

LOL LOL LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wAggie
August 20th, 2004, 11:11 PM
post the email addy! :cool:


:D