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Rescue dogs : how to say goodbye?

ashtoreth
June 21st, 2009, 11:26 PM
I haven't written here since ages... But yea, I guess it took me something "big" to get me to write.

3 months ago, I was asked by a rescue from Montreal, to foster a trouble case dog that we affectionately named "Andy" (his name was Henderson, but he responded more to Andy)

Andy was found, from what I was told, in a dumpster by the SPCA then was put on death row (for no reason really, just lack of place) but the rescue took him in. Then started his not so great journey from one foster to another until he turned out with major separation anxiety, destructive behaviours, problems to trust anyone, insane fear of everything (cars, getting in the car, train, strange people in the street...etc) When I got him he was so overweight and out of shape, I had no idea what to expect since I never had a real rescue before and started with a "last chance" case.

But after a lot of time, love and above all, patience. Andy became well behaved, more active, his coat is shinier and he even have some muscle definition now :)

He's still prone to some discomfort when we leave the house, but it resumes at whining for 15 minutes then stopping.

But he finally found a home, which I'm glad since he really can't stay with us, he's a mellow, very low energy level dog, we need a very active dog in our family.
He's going to be with a family with kids and another dog, perfect for him who loves kids :)

But I'm so afraid for tomorrow, he's going to leave. Hell I'm already feeling like crying already hehe. But he'll be so happy there.

So anyway, just though i'd shared, writing it helped me anyway! :)

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most recent :)

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Tundra_Queen
June 22nd, 2009, 12:09 AM
Aww Andy is a sweetie! U did such a wonderful thing!

Has Andy met his new people yet? If your worried about him having trouble adjusting maybe the people could take him for an couple of hours, then bring him back to your place. Then they could come and get him the next day and take him for a longer time, until he is comfortable with them. That way he is getting slowly use to them and slowly use to not being around u.

Just a thought.

Debbie

ashtoreth
June 22nd, 2009, 12:35 AM
Aww Andy is a sweetie! U did such a wonderful thing!

Has Andy met his new people yet? If your worried about him having trouble adjusting maybe the people could take him for an couple of hours, then bring him back to your place. Then they could come and get him the next day and take him for a longer time, until he is comfortable with them. That way he is getting slowly use to them and slowly use to not being around u.

Just a thought.

Debbie

we're going to spend a couple of hours together to check if everything goes well with them, their dog and andy

Andy is really mellow and likes everyone. I'm sure he'll have very little trouble adjusting at first, however unfortunately tomorrow was the limit for him :S we're moving soon after and I'm leaving for work for 3 days. I tried to get him a family way before that, technically I wasn't supposed to have him more than the 5th of June.(because of work and the move and all) but it's really the best we can do.

But I'll have the time to check everything and ask them tones of questions more than the adoption paper did ;) as well as show them what he can do, likes, dislikes and everything else I know about him

TeriM
June 22nd, 2009, 12:56 AM
Sounds like you have done a wonderful job with Andy and helped him to have a good chance for a forever home :thumbs up. I'm sure you will miss him terribly :grouphug: but hopefully the adopters will keep you updated lots :goodvibes:.

Corrie
June 22nd, 2009, 12:46 PM
Ashtoreth, I just have to add my love and thanks to you as well. I do Westie Rescue in Canada and foster homes are sometimes hard to find...so thanks so much for opening your heart and your home to him.

Fostering is hard...very emotional at times...saying goodby is hard, but necessary!

Here is a little poem just for you and your family from your sweet Andy....


There I sat, alone and afraid.
You got a call and came right to my aid.

You bundled me up with blankets and love.
And, when I needed it most, you gave me a hug.

I learned that the world was not all that scary and cold.
That sometimes there is someone to have and to hold.

You taught me what love is, you helped me to mend.
You loved me and healed me and became my first friend.

And just when I thought you’d done all you do,
There came along not one new lesson, but two.

First you said, “Sweetheart, you’re ready to go.
I’ve done all I can, and you’ve learned all I know.”

Then you bundled me up with a blanket and kiss.
Along came a new family, they even have kids!

They took me to their home, forever to stay.
At first I thought you sent me away.

Then that second lesson became perfectly clear.
No matter how far, you will always be near.

And so, Foster Mom, you know I’ve moved on.
I have a new home, with toys and a lawn.

But I’ll never forget what I learned that first day.
You never really give your fosters away.

You gave me these thoughts to remember you by.
We may never meet again, and now I know why.

You’ll remember I lived with you for a time.
I may not be yours, but you’ll always be mine.

babymomma
June 22nd, 2009, 01:35 PM
:sorry::offtopic:Corrie, The last line of that poem made me tear up:cry:



And Astoreth, I too want to thank you for doing all you can for this boy!

BenMax
June 22nd, 2009, 02:33 PM
Thus far I am now a foster mom to 72 dogs (1 foster failure) and for cats, I lost count and countless times a foster failure.:cat:

Fostering is the easy part, saying good bye is very difficult. The way I 'manouver' it in my head is by saying that if not for rescue and fostering - he or she would not 'be'. I know that my home is secure and I provide alot of love, time and care - and I only hope that people who adopt provide that and more.

I hear you and commend you for fostering.:grouphug:

chico2
June 22nd, 2009, 05:36 PM
I think everyone who loves animals enough to foster,will have a really hard time when the fosters leave to another home,I just could not imagine.
You've done a great thing,Andy is now well adjusted and ready for a permanent home,thank's to your love:grouphug:
Beautiful tear-jerker poem:cry:

ashtoreth
June 22nd, 2009, 10:37 PM
well this is it

Andy finally left for his forever home. It was definitely the hardest thing I ever had to do with him. The family is perfect for him too :)

That poem made me cry hehe.

:grouphug:

Sylvie
June 22nd, 2009, 11:52 PM
I too have had to say goodbye to a quite a few fosters.:sad: No where near as many as Ben Max.

The thing that keeps me going is that I think of the dog and how much love and attention they will receive in their new home. I have had one foster failure and she is with us now. Every single one of them I felt I should keep but in the end it was a good thing that they went to their forever home.

Thank you for helping to save Andy's life:thumbs up and your reward is knowing that he is in a good family.:D and will be a very happy :dog:

Frenchy
June 23rd, 2009, 07:47 PM
The thing that keeps me going is that I think of the dog and how much love and attention they will receive in their new home.

Ditto Sylvie :thumbs up

ashtoreth , you did a great job with Andy :thumbs up I'm hoping you'll hear from his new family , it will make you feel so much better about everything. And if you miss him too much , well , get another foster asap :D