ancientgirl
April 22nd, 2009, 02:48 PM
I was supposed to meet a guy tonight I met on one of the dating sites I’m on. He sent me a message Sunday. I emailed him saying I was interested in meeting him and maybe we could have coffee one day this week. Half an hour later he emails me saying the day wasn’t over yet to call him and we could meet then. I ignored his email, since I was already doing stuff. So I decided to give him a call on Tuesday afternoon. We talked for a bit and I gave him my number. I hung up with him pretty fast since I had some stuff to do. But he texted me about 10 minutes later asking to meet me for coffee.
Him: Hi how about Wednesday after work? or later. Any time is good after 5. time/place?
Me: That sounds good. We can meet at borders around 6. is that okay with you?
Him: Yes. 6 at borders on wed
Me: great. I look forward to meeting you.
Okay, that should have been really the end of it, except for maybe a confirmation text the following day.
No. he called me at 8:30 yesterday evening. We talked for a bit. That conversation produced some warning flags for me.
1. Tells me I shouldn’t have so many cats with asthma and I have too many cats.
2. Tells me he had a cat once that always hid under the bed when it lived with him, yet the cat loves his dad.
3. Tells me his mother who lives with him has a dog, but he doesn’t concern himself with it because it’s not his dog.
Then his phone died. So I called him back out of courtesy. At 8:42 he texts me.
Him: sorry my phone died.
Me: I figured. That’s ok.
Him: I’m at the hospital at a lawyer recovery meeting (he’s a paralegal). I will explain later if you are awake at 9:30.
Me: That’s my bedtime actually.
Him: Ok tomorrow at 6.
Me: Yes. Have a good night.
Now I’m thinking, okay that’s it until tomorrow when we meet.
No. He called me at 9:30 this morning. I couldn’t get my phone because my boss was here and I needed to do something for him.
I get a text at 9:42.
Him: I hope you are having a great day. Looking forward to seeing you later.
Me: So far so good today.
Then 10: 10 he calls me 2 times within 5 minutes and leaves me two messages. The first message sounded like he was talking to someone else and the second message he asked if I'd called him. At 10:16 he texts me this:
Him: I was not sure if you called me. By the way, how do you spell your name? I did not get your facebook invite. (That’s because I was creeped out by you and I not only did not invite you but I blocked you). Do you like flowers, not sure if you are allergic.
Me: I called you yesterday after we got disconnected. My name is Nuria. I deactivated my account. I got hacked. (Obviously a lie) A few of my friends also got hacked. Not sure what that’s about. I like flowers but don’t buy them. Some are toxic to cats so I just don’t bother.
Him: I was going to bring you flowers but I guess I will wait to know you better and find out what you like.
Me: That’s nice of you, but even though I think they are lovely, I’ve never been much of a flower person. I buy them rarely if ever. I like chocolate though.
Him: What’s your name. (Um I believe I just told you not only when we first talked but in this freaking text conversation we are having!)
Him: There’s choco at starbucks? (We were set to meet at Borders)
Me: I’m not sure. You don’t need to buy me anything.
The texts ended there. But, that’s not the last I heard from him. He called me AGAIN at 12:04 and left me a message saying he wanted to see how my day was going and he’s looking forward to seeing me later.
I’m sorry, but I haven’t even met this man in person and I already feel like he’s smothering me.
I told him in our conversation last night, when he asked me what I was looking for, I was not looking for someone who needed to be with me 24/7. That since I’ve been on my own for so long I was comfortable being on my own, so I was cool with spending time doing my own thing, but I was looking for someone to go out to dinner with or the movies or go to events with now and then. That I was looking for someone who was comfortable doing his own thing too.
This man is really scaring the crap out of me. I kept thinking, “What if I meet him get REALLY creeped out be nice and say we’ll see each other soon and he winds up following me home?”
I hate that I gave him my cell number, but at this point I can't take it back. I can always just add him to my address book and put him on mute. I'm texting him saying I need to reschedule and then just not get back with him.
I've never had such a bad feeling about a person I've never met in my life and there is no way I'm meeting him. He's divorced so my only guess is he's really desperate to meet someone, but he's going about it all the wrong ways.
Him: Hi how about Wednesday after work? or later. Any time is good after 5. time/place?
Me: That sounds good. We can meet at borders around 6. is that okay with you?
Him: Yes. 6 at borders on wed
Me: great. I look forward to meeting you.
Okay, that should have been really the end of it, except for maybe a confirmation text the following day.
No. he called me at 8:30 yesterday evening. We talked for a bit. That conversation produced some warning flags for me.
1. Tells me I shouldn’t have so many cats with asthma and I have too many cats.
2. Tells me he had a cat once that always hid under the bed when it lived with him, yet the cat loves his dad.
3. Tells me his mother who lives with him has a dog, but he doesn’t concern himself with it because it’s not his dog.
Then his phone died. So I called him back out of courtesy. At 8:42 he texts me.
Him: sorry my phone died.
Me: I figured. That’s ok.
Him: I’m at the hospital at a lawyer recovery meeting (he’s a paralegal). I will explain later if you are awake at 9:30.
Me: That’s my bedtime actually.
Him: Ok tomorrow at 6.
Me: Yes. Have a good night.
Now I’m thinking, okay that’s it until tomorrow when we meet.
No. He called me at 9:30 this morning. I couldn’t get my phone because my boss was here and I needed to do something for him.
I get a text at 9:42.
Him: I hope you are having a great day. Looking forward to seeing you later.
Me: So far so good today.
Then 10: 10 he calls me 2 times within 5 minutes and leaves me two messages. The first message sounded like he was talking to someone else and the second message he asked if I'd called him. At 10:16 he texts me this:
Him: I was not sure if you called me. By the way, how do you spell your name? I did not get your facebook invite. (That’s because I was creeped out by you and I not only did not invite you but I blocked you). Do you like flowers, not sure if you are allergic.
Me: I called you yesterday after we got disconnected. My name is Nuria. I deactivated my account. I got hacked. (Obviously a lie) A few of my friends also got hacked. Not sure what that’s about. I like flowers but don’t buy them. Some are toxic to cats so I just don’t bother.
Him: I was going to bring you flowers but I guess I will wait to know you better and find out what you like.
Me: That’s nice of you, but even though I think they are lovely, I’ve never been much of a flower person. I buy them rarely if ever. I like chocolate though.
Him: What’s your name. (Um I believe I just told you not only when we first talked but in this freaking text conversation we are having!)
Him: There’s choco at starbucks? (We were set to meet at Borders)
Me: I’m not sure. You don’t need to buy me anything.
The texts ended there. But, that’s not the last I heard from him. He called me AGAIN at 12:04 and left me a message saying he wanted to see how my day was going and he’s looking forward to seeing me later.
I’m sorry, but I haven’t even met this man in person and I already feel like he’s smothering me.
I told him in our conversation last night, when he asked me what I was looking for, I was not looking for someone who needed to be with me 24/7. That since I’ve been on my own for so long I was comfortable being on my own, so I was cool with spending time doing my own thing, but I was looking for someone to go out to dinner with or the movies or go to events with now and then. That I was looking for someone who was comfortable doing his own thing too.
This man is really scaring the crap out of me. I kept thinking, “What if I meet him get REALLY creeped out be nice and say we’ll see each other soon and he winds up following me home?”
I hate that I gave him my cell number, but at this point I can't take it back. I can always just add him to my address book and put him on mute. I'm texting him saying I need to reschedule and then just not get back with him.
I've never had such a bad feeling about a person I've never met in my life and there is no way I'm meeting him. He's divorced so my only guess is he's really desperate to meet someone, but he's going about it all the wrong ways.