April 12th, 2009, 05:27 PM
We had a girlfriend of mine here for easter-dinner.
The subject of Vinnie and his $900 vet-bill came up.
There was no way in the world,we could explain to her,why we would spend $900 on a mere cat:yell:
I got upset,trying to explain to her how we love Vinnie,how he is family,but she just could not understand.
She even told me the Toronto Humane has 600 cats and giving them away for free this weekend,as if Vinnie or any of my cats would be replaceable:frustrated:
OMG,I just do not understand how some people view pets,cats especially,Vinnie is the sweetest,smartest little angel,how anyone could even think I would I would get rid of him for $900,is just beyond me.
April 12th, 2009, 06:13 PM
Awww chico! :grouphug: I feel your pain.
I have a "friend" I met through a site I belong to who lives in a few provinces away. We have been talking for quite some time and seemed to click. You know sometimes you just have a feeling about someone? She could be a great friend? A few years ago we met half way between our homes for a few days. The meeting was great! She was all I thought she was from talking to her on the site. She was a wonderful person. A good friend.
This gal spends time "babysitting" her brothers' dogs when they go out of town. She says she loves doing it. The dogs are just like part of the family.
But........ last year when I was going through getting the catty cats fixed and it was costing quite a bit we were talking one night in a chat room. She made a comment that shocked me. When I was grouching about the costs of s/n she said "I would NEVER spend that much on an animal!"
I was to say the least shocked! I knew she didn't like cats. She has a fear of them since years ago when one attacked her head from around a corner. I had no idea she felt the same about all animals!
This is the same woman who would not think twice while dropping thousands of dollars in a casino or on a two week long trip. Let me tell you. When she said that my opinion of her changed. She can't understand why I don't go into the site as often and talk. We used to do that every night. I just can't bring myself to be as friendly with her as I was before. I find it hard to talk to her now.
Sorry. I guess I went on a rant too! :o I have never told anyone this before. Long story long... don't worry about it. Some people will never understand. Unfortunately it does change our feelings toward them. Their loss.
April 12th, 2009, 06:26 PM
Some people hey ? :frustrated: People who know me , know better than to tell me things like that , if they want to avoid a very , very , long lecture from me on "responsabilities" .....
14+ , your story reminds me of a friend of mine. She has a gambling problem , been like this for a couple years now. She has been to "rehab" , still consults , and had me as a friend who tried to help. But she still does it, and looses a lot of money. So now , I tell her to not talk to me about it anymore , I told her many times :
do you know how much I could have done with the money you just lost ????? :wall:
money spent at casino : waste
money spent to care for your pets : well worth it !!!
April 12th, 2009, 06:51 PM
It's frustrating. We would think nothing of going into hock to look after our pets to the best of our ability. This person has a second mortgage on her home to pay her gambling expenses. You would think she would learn! :wall: I could have built a new home and catuary with what she has blown! I really can't understand some people.
April 12th, 2009, 07:16 PM
I know these people all too well...
where I am from it is very much a farming community and animals here are seen as disposable. people shoot dogs on a regular basis. there are few that see animals the way I do, but we are making more people like me.. you can ask L4H she has read what people from here have said about animals. Gosh you try telling someone what food is better for their dog and they rip my head off!!! I was told if purina sponserd sporting dog trials then it must be a good food... yeah ok..
I have cats in my house as i speak because people don't want to pay vet bills and sign over the cat... grrr... I would be MORE than Happy to spend anything to save any of my pets.. I have spent $300 on hamster tumor removal!!.. and it died anyway... People told me i was a nutcase..
April 12th, 2009, 07:19 PM
I spent three hundred dollars at the vet for Liz's rat when he had a skin infection,then an abcess,followed by an inner ear problem.Every living being has value and deserves our care if we choose to bring them in to our lives.If someone can't understand this don't waste your time or energy trying to explain it to them.
April 12th, 2009, 07:45 PM
If I told anyone in my family or group of friends the amount of money I've spend on my cats. They'd have a heart attack. They would never understand.
Some people just don't get that these aren't "just cats" or "just dogs". They are so much more. But, to me if you can't understand why someone would spend that kind of money trying to make your pet better then that's not the kind of person I would feel comfortable spending a lot of time with.
Chico, I hope she didn't ruin your day. I find that it's not worth telling some people what you spend on your pets. There is no way to make them understand.
When I found Maks and Kiska I spent over $500 getting them better. And I wasn't even planning on keeping them! I've never told anyone in my family or any of my friends outside of the net how much money I've spent on them or the others. It's not worth it.
April 12th, 2009, 08:07 PM
I know where you're coming from...my one sister has no idea what I paid for 2 of my cats, just to get them from the breeder. She's got a barn full of cats and other than feeding them the cheapest food she can get, takes no other care of them. Now she doesn't think twice about paying 5000.00 for an alpaca..can make $$ off them. I don't discuss what I do for my animals with her, as they make me no money!!
April 12th, 2009, 08:37 PM
chico, when people make comments about our vet bills I just point out to them that our 8 dogs are a heck of a lot cheaper than just one child, we don't have to worry about them becoming juvenile delinquents, and they never ask for the car keys. :o Sounds like a good deal to us! :laughing:
Some people just don't understand. :shrug: If they don't get it the first time, I don't bother to continue to try to enlighten them...I just laugh and change the subject. :thumbs up
Don't let it bother you :grouphug: Vinnie is grateful that you want him healthy and that's all that matters! :cat:
April 12th, 2009, 09:00 PM
My two will have been with me 3 mths tomorrow and I have spent approx. $1000 on them already! :eek: (with no assistance from the rescue I got them from...I knew the risks, but some of it, they came to me with...I won't start down that road)
Anyway, pets cost a lot of $$$ and yes, they are certainly cheaper than kids...not necessarily better behaved :D , but cheaper. I have taken on the responsibility and love every moment of seeing their furry little faces...I guess it takes a certain type of person to see the logic in that and I am happy to be that kind of person. :)
To those who don't understand :whistle:
April 12th, 2009, 10:37 PM
I have never sat down and figured out the total that I have gone through for my furries. I don't think I want to. :eek:
chico - We all know how important your kitties are to you. It does not matter one iota what non-pet people think. Just be glad she doesn't have a pet of her own.
:offtopic: Is she right about THS giving away all those cats? What kind of message are they sending by doing this? :sad:
April 12th, 2009, 11:46 PM
I could have put a down-payment on a house (or 2) with the amount of money I've spent on my kitties over the years. And I'd do it over and over again, because you can't put a price on love. To those that don't understand that, I say: your loss. I actually feel sorry for people that have never shared unconditional love with another being. If someone thinks animals are so easily disposable and interchangeable, then they are missing out on the best part of being alive. They can have all the money in the world to go spend on "stuff", I'll still be richer, in my heart and in my soul.
April 12th, 2009, 11:52 PM
We stopped tallying up the bills when we hit $10,000 :o And that was 10 dogs ago! :eek: We could probably have paid off your two houses by now, SCM! :laughing: But what a waste that would be--we've never regretted one penny spent on our furbabies... :cloud9:
April 12th, 2009, 11:55 PM
I've been pretty lucky over the years with my critters, spread out over the years the vet bills aren't that bad. touching wood here that continues!! It's not the money though...I really can't imagine my house without something on 4 legs in it!!
April 13th, 2009, 01:37 AM
People who feel that way are a waste of time to me. I'll be polite and not confrontational (mostly because I'd be wasting my breath) but I avoid them at all costs. I can't be bothered spending my time with people who don't get it.
April 13th, 2009, 07:53 AM
I, like SCM, feel sorry for these people who have never felt the love that a pet can bring.
Everybody has their priorities in what they spend their money on, it is what they "get" in return. I get unconditional love for my money, what do people get when they waste their money on gambling, regularly going out for dinner, etc???
April 13th, 2009, 08:39 AM
OMG,thank's for the great response:grouphug:
I usually never discuss money and my cats,but hubby made a joke of it,saying we could get a new PC for what we are spending on Vinnie,that's how it came up.
I've been friends with this lady for 20yrs and she knows very well how I feel..
I did really not let it bother me too much,did not cause an argument or anything,but it certainly put a damper on things.
I actually don't know many people who feel the same as I,other than all you guys:grouphug:
14+yes,the Toronto Humane had a free weekend:evil:accepted donations,but the animals,many dogs and 600 cats were free,hopefully already altered:fingerscr
April 13th, 2009, 09:00 AM
You really can't put a price on the love they give you. As much as I struggle, and as bad as I feel sometimes, at night, when I go to bed, I have these warm little purring bodies snuggled up against me, and that makes all the difficulties worth it.
April 13th, 2009, 11:41 AM
When you said $900 my first thought was, "OK, that's not too bad. Could be worse." Not that I have a spare grand lying around :laughing: but if Cooper needed medical attention I would find 900.
We spent a lot more than that when Joey was sick and it took us a long time to pay it off. (Charge cards, care credit--you do what you have to do) Our only regret was that he didn't make it but if we had it to do over again we wouldn't think twice. We'd spend whatever we needed to. We even had a chiropractor coming to the house just because he seemed to get some relief from the adjustments. People think we're crazy for doing that. But I'll bet that almost everyone here understands.
And this isn't medical but if you could see Cooper's toy box....LOL!! He has a toy box in the family room full of stuffies because getting a new one makes him so happy! Sometimes I go through and take out the ones that aren't favorites and donate them to a shelter, but it always fills up again.
April 13th, 2009, 12:09 PM
When Puddles got ill from getting into toxins back in the spring of 1997, we paid over $700 to save her life and yes, we got a lot of eye rollings and head shakes, but she is my sweet, sweet gentle girl who has provided me with a lot of smiles and lovins'.
Maybe a good retort, is to ask them if they think the hospitals should be a limit on health care because you can always have another child :rolleyes:.
April 13th, 2009, 12:25 PM
It's frustrating when people don't understand why we care so much for our furkids. I don't mind spending for them; they are my priority. When Arielle had pneumonia last December, it cost over $1000 ( meds, x-rays, etc., etc.). I look at what some people spend on clothes, cigarettes, booze or whatever and frankly I am proud of my way of thinking: I am "investing" in a living and loving creature who is part of my family. You can't put a price on that! And I am very happy to see I'm not the only one!!!:thumbs up
April 13th, 2009, 03:37 PM
lol i dont even bother anymore if someone cant figure spending money on your pets well they never had a love and thats too bad for them
April 13th, 2009, 03:48 PM
I remember a time when one of my dogs became ill, seriously ill, and money was tight because we had just bought a new wheelchair for our son and a new furnace for our house (the old one up and died during a minus 42 cold spell).
I sold my beloved lil 190E Mercedes, that my husband bought me for our 10th anniversary. That more than paid for her surgery, and the rest went back into our savings to help cover the cost of the expenditures we had no choice but to make.
I would rob a bank if it would help one of my pets :laughing:, but luckily and thankfully hubby makes enough income that we now have a "pet fund" in savings as well. Every month we stash some cash in our pet fund, sometimes it's only 20 bucks, and other times much much more.
Of course I hope I never have to use it, but at least if there's an emergency or one of our pets becomes ill, we know we're covered.
April 13th, 2009, 04:47 PM
We were lucky too,expecting to pay a few thousands$ in Taxes,but our smart Tax-Lady,who digs for every possible deduction,gave us the good news,we get a refund,so that was great:thumbs up
We are not poor,but certainly not rich,we hardly ever go out to eat,if I don't feel like cooking,hubby cooks,something French and delicious.
Also I cut down on buying clothes I don't need and other things that are not really important,I think as the cats get older,there will be more expences in the future.
April 13th, 2009, 05:46 PM
Chico, what do you think my family and friends think about my pup? I own the world's most expensive jrt, LOL - last time I added it up, which was months and months ago, we had spent almost $20,000 on Tommy - and he's not even 3 years old!
I just tell everybody that we don't question how they spend their money, and they don't have the right to question how we spend ours. We were in a position to be able to do it at the time, and we did it, and we don't regret it - we just thank our lucky stars it was then, and not now when we wouldn't be able to afford it. We never borrowed from anybody and we never whined about being broke, so they can think what they want but I don't want to hear about it. I know they all think it was ridiculous, but it's not their pet and it's not their money - I might think it's ridiculous how much money they waste on video games or dinners out, but it's not my business either. I'm perfectly happy to have them talk behind my back about it, but I refuse to listen to it.
Hopefully as he ages and gets healthier we can maintain his health rather than treat emergencies... but he'll always be a slightly more expensive pup than others. That's why I keep an entire credit card reserved just for him, just in case. He's my first baby, and as far as I'm concerned he's worth every cent - I'm just very, very blessed to have a husband who feels the same as I do:lovestruck:.
April 13th, 2009, 06:17 PM
the only two things that get me about spending that much on any of my pets- the impact missing that money would have on my children and if the sum gets to the point where i could be saving several shelter cats/dogs with it... though i suspect i would pay it if i had it anywhere to be found.
April 13th, 2009, 07:56 PM
I would increase my credit card as to much as I could and then max it out all for my cat.
April 13th, 2009, 09:01 PM
Several years ago our cat Felix was sick with heart disease and we had a small chance that he could be saved. We spent $1,000 on emergency care but he did not make it. We are lucky that our friends are all animal lovers, so no comments there. Actually my mother made unwelcomed comments "Why are you spending so much money on a cat?" People always have an opinion. It is my money and I spend it on what I want! My cat is my family.
April 13th, 2009, 09:09 PM
Well as corny as this may sound....I think of our pets as an investment. The longer we have them, the more healty and prosperous we are with our every day lives.
A day of comfort
Another day of happiness
My Pets loves....
PRICELESS :thumbs up
April 14th, 2009, 08:52 AM
Tommysmom,I clearly remember your struggles with little Tommy,he was certainly lucky to be your pup and not someone who'd trade him in for another,healthy pup.
W4R,there was a time in our life when our 3 boys were little,2 of them very sick,when we would have no money for pets,but we did not have any,we were new to Canada and in those days $1.000 would have been a fortune.
We never,ever had anyone to help us,what we had was us and hubbys ambition to make it,I had to be a stay-at-home-mom,to care for the kids.
To this day,I am very proud of we have accomplished,without anyones help.
I was actually surprised,hubby did not flinch at the vet-bill,I know he loves our kitties,I just did not know how much:lovestruck:
April 14th, 2009, 03:12 PM
I am lucky that my animals are healthy and I have not had to try to explain expenses to someone. Although my mother in law did fuss at me for what I was paying on good quality dog food, in fact I remember her saying to me "You know pedigree is much cheaper" and I think I said something along the lines of "yes it's VERY cheap" :rolleyes: .
I heard a phrase not too long ago that I think really hits the nail on the head for this thread(It was about dogs but it can go for cats too in my opinion). It was..
"If you, too, think it's 'Just a dog,' you will probably understand phrases like 'Just a friend,' 'Just a sunrise,'
or 'Just a promise.'"
April 14th, 2009, 03:31 PM
Chico2 - don't even let it bother you at all. Some people do not 'get it' nor ever will. I went through the same with trying to save Ben. Yes I spent the money because I loved him more than any amount. When I was 'told' by a certain :loser: to stop spending MY money on him - someone got kicked to the curb that day....and it was not me nor Ben.
Don't even bother trying to validate nor explain. Let them brew in their own thoughts.:grouphug:. We get it!