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Euthanizing Your Pet When It's Frightened of the Vet

smithduke
March 28th, 2009, 04:55 PM
It's a day we all dread and we wish it could happen peacefully at home when it comes time for our beloved pet to pass on. My cat is terrified of the vet and I sadly have to make the decision, very soon, to euthanize her. Knowing realistically it's the kindest way for her to go, I still hate the fact that her last moments will be spent in fear....:cry: I'd truly appreciate any suggestions on how others have made it easier on their pet. You'd think I'd know what's best for my cat since I'm the one who loves her but for some reason I'm at a loss on this one. Thanks.

happycats
March 28th, 2009, 05:19 PM
My heart goes out to you, I know how hard it is and how hurt you must be making this very difficult decision.

When my cat Lucky :rip: was getting ill, I called around and found there are quite a few vets that will come to your home to euthanize.

I wish you strength, during this difficult time.

JennieV
March 28th, 2009, 05:25 PM
Firstly, sorry to hear about it, its never an easy choice to make.

As Happycats suggested, why not try to find a vet who would agree to come to your place to do this?
That way your beloved pet could just fall asleep in its home, in your arms, not petrified and nervous.

Good luck in your search and be strong.

chico2
March 28th, 2009, 05:43 PM
Smithduke,I was just reading your other post and I am very sorry about your kitty,you obviously love her very much
Like Happy-Cats says,there are many vets that will come to your home,if your own vet does not,but I am sure he will if your kitty is a long-time patient of his.
It's a very,very difficult decision to make,but I hope you can find a peaceful solution for your little girl:pray:

smithduke
March 28th, 2009, 08:01 PM
It's been a rough month for us. My daughter's favorite guinea pig died on March 18th three weeks after surgery for a tooth abscess and the week before that we found out my other cat, who is 21, has terminal cancer. Yes, I know we're lucky to have had them for so long but for me it makes it that much harder to say goodbye. 20 years is longer than some marriages! Thanks for your advice. We have a neighbor who is a vet and maybe I"ll ask her to come over. I'd rather be holding my Dillon in my arms, sitting outside in the sunshine when she passes on. :angel: :pray:

This is a recent photo of Dillon. Doesn't she look wonderful for a 20 year old cat??

http://i257.photobucket.com/albums/hh204/smithduke/dillion.jpg

Bina
March 28th, 2009, 08:15 PM
What a handsome cat.....I have found that many vets will make house calls, it just costs a bit extra.
If that doesn't work out, maybe they would let you go and pick up a tranquilizer to give him before the vet trip.
Best wishes during this hard time.

Mat&Murph
March 28th, 2009, 10:48 PM
My Thoughts are with you through the terrible time...Hopefully you will be able to get a vet come to you. Be strong.

hazelrunpack
March 28th, 2009, 10:57 PM
I'm so sorry you're faced with making the decision so soon :grouphug: I hope your neighbor can help you out--especially if your cat knows her.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Love4himies
March 28th, 2009, 11:10 PM
Absolutely, she does look like a wonderful cat :lovestruck:. My heart feels for you :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:.

Can you find a vet that will come to your home? I think that would be better for your kitty and you. I had that done for Snowball and it was well worth the extra money.

Bailey_
March 28th, 2009, 11:28 PM
So sorry to hear about your kitty. :grouphug:

cell
March 28th, 2009, 11:38 PM
You could also see if the vet would do it in your vehicle if your cat is more comfortable with the car/carrier then the actual vets office.

smithduke
March 29th, 2009, 12:39 AM
This is my problem...tonight she's seems a little bit better. She's eating well, peeing, but I haven't seen her poo. Right now she's next to me on the sofa, laying on a chenille throw (the one in her photo above), purring and curled up as if she's so, so comfortable. Every so often she stretches out her legs (both front and back) like she's any healthy kitty. Her mind is clear and there's nothing wrong with her except for her hind end weakness. Thank you all for listening to me go on and on about my Dillon but I just can't seem to let go just yet. By the way...and I don't mean to bore anyone, but this is how I found Dillon: I was at work (in 1988) and an employee came rushing into the office telling us that a cat was stuck in his engine. He had driven 20 miles to work, in the rain, and as he got close to our office, he heard a wailing sound. The cries sounded like it was an adult cat that was stuck in his car. We opened his drivers side door and saw a tail sticking out from the right front panel. Thinking the SPCA could help us, we called them but they never showed. After about an hour of hearing this cat scream, she suddenly went silent. We used a crow bar to pry open the front panel and out popped this little, teeny, tiny kitten. She was no more than 5 weeks old and covered in so much grease that we had no idea what color she was. The only thing I saw were these HUGE green eyes staring back at me. I rushed her off to the vet and as they say, the rest is history. Dillon and I bonded immediately! I remember when my Mom died and I was crying, Dillon jumped onto my chest and touched my face with her paws as if to stop me from crying. She would always get upset whenever I raised my voice, or seemed sad or angry. So... that's it. I thought it would be nice for you to know the Dillon that I've come to love so dearly. Everyone has a "Dillon" in their lives and I thank you for all your support. I'll keep you updated. Thanks again! :grouphug:

TeriM
March 29th, 2009, 12:52 AM
Dillon is beautiful :lovestruck:.

Euthanizing is never an easy decision :sad:. I wish you and Dillon peace and an easy journey when the time is right.

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

smithduke
March 29th, 2009, 12:55 AM
Thank you! That means a lot to me! :lovestruck::cry:

Love4himies
March 29th, 2009, 08:58 AM
What a wonderful story. It seems that cats pick us, not the other way around.

What does your vet suggest?

If Dillon's bad days outnumber his good days, then it is time, you will know.

angeldogs
March 29th, 2009, 09:24 AM
Dillon is a beautiful cat and does look good for 20 years old.i agree with happycats and find a vet that will come to your home.

It's a very hard desicion to let our beloved pets go to the bridge.my thoughts and prayers go out to you.

chico2
March 29th, 2009, 09:30 AM
What a great story,Dillon was a lucky kitty,she was just meant to be yours:lovestruck:
I would not be in a hurry to euthanize and I am sure you are not,as long as she has a good quality life.
It's often said,they will tell you,when it's time,but that's mostly not the case.
Animals have the strength to endure pain the way no human can,but usually you can tell by behavior when things get too hard to live with for them.
She's a beautiful old girl:lovestruck:

smithduke
March 29th, 2009, 06:45 PM
Chico, you're right. Dillon seems happy so we're not in a rush and just enjoying spending time with her. One thing I noticed is that her drinking has increased dramatically and in turn causes her to urinate a lot. Maybe I'm grasping at straws but I'm wondering (hoping :fingerscr) that for some reason her blood work showed a false negative for diabetes and Dillon is experiencing diabetic neuropathy. I'm going to call the vet tomorrow to see what he thinks.

Love4himies
March 29th, 2009, 06:51 PM
I absolutely agree with Chico, do not be in a hurry to euthanize. Your kitty may have some health issues that can be controlled with meds.

cpietra16
March 29th, 2009, 09:34 PM
I too agree with Chico....your cat has a way of letting you know when its time. When I lost my cat who was 22 years old...he was fine and painfree and had a good life...but when it was time to go..He really let me know. He did not want his favorite food, sleep in his favorite bed..he just went to hide..and sleep in private...I knew...if your baby still has a good quality of life don;t feel to rushed.
He is beautiful his eyes are those of a very old wise cat...I love the eyes of old cats..they have so much to say.

Tundra_Queen
March 30th, 2009, 01:51 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your sweet Dillian.

Drinking a lot and peeing alot is a sure sign in people that they might have diabeties. I hope the vet can give u good news. And like the others said here, you will know when it is time to let her go.She sounds like she is still having a good life though.

We had our vet come to our house to put asleep one of our dogs, we just had to pay a bit extra. I hope u can find a vet to do a house call when the time comes.

Debbie

chico2
March 30th, 2009, 08:43 AM
Let's :pray:this is something that can be successfully treated and Dillon will have plenty of time left with you.
Maybe the vet did not check out all the options because of her age:confused:

kiara
March 30th, 2009, 01:04 PM
So sorry that your kitty will soon be euthanized. It is such a sad time for any family. You could ask your vet for an oral tranquilizer that you could give her before you bring her in, to make her relax. I am surprised that your vet has not offered this, since he knows that your cat is terrified. This is what they do for people before surgery.

BMDLuver
March 30th, 2009, 02:37 PM
So sorry that your kitty will soon be euthanized. It is such a sad time for any family. You could ask your vet for an oral tranquilizer that you could give her before you bring her in, to make her relax. I am surprised that your vet has not offered this, since he knows that your cat is terrified. This is what they do for people before surgery.

Just a word of caution on this suggestion..... animals are very different than humans when it comes to tranquilizers..... they can have an adverse affect and result in the opposite of what you wished for meaning a cat that is going nuts and hyper instead of quietly calm. We experienced this adverse reaction with our abysinian.

smithduke
March 30th, 2009, 06:15 PM
We're still unable to go forward with euthanizing her. The vet suggested that we see if thyroid medication will help Dillon's weakness. Thanks for all your prayers and hugs! :thankyou: I'll keep you updated.

rainbow
March 30th, 2009, 08:52 PM
Good luck with the thyroid medication. :pray: :fingerscr :goodvibes:

smithduke
March 31st, 2009, 12:24 AM
To everyone who gave hugs, kisses and prayers...thank you for all your support!!!!

My little Doobies is not doing well. She hasn't had a substantial BM in days and she's not able to urinate well. Her abdomen looks distended and she seems very uncomfortable. My hubby and I both agree that it's time to send her to a more peaceful place.:cloud9: She's been my best friend for 20 years and I'll always treasure that!! Rest in peace my Dilly Beans!! I love you so much!!! :cry:

growler~GateKeeper
March 31st, 2009, 01:11 AM
I'm sorry to hear Dillion is not doing well :grouphug: just a thought ~ perhaps she just has a blockage in her colon that needs some help cleaning out. Also has she been checked for urinary tract infection?

smithduke
March 31st, 2009, 07:37 AM
I thought the same thing. Would that cause her to lose strength that much?

chico2
March 31st, 2009, 08:06 AM
Smithduke,I am a little confused,is Dillon already gone to the bridge:confused:
You know her better than anyone here,whatever you and your husband decide,it will be out of love for Dillon:grouphug:

In answer to your earlier question,my Rocky is doing good on his Hyper T meds,but he never lost his ability to move his legs,I really don't think it's related to Hyper T.

smithduke
March 31st, 2009, 09:06 AM
Sorry for the confusion. My husband is on his way to the vet right now. I was up all night with Dillon. She didn't sleep at all last night and hasn't had a BM in days. It was obvious how uncomfortable she was and her stomach has become distended. We felt is was best to take her as soon as possible to ease her pain. Right after I answered the post by growler I asked my husband to ask the vet if her problem could be due to a bowel or intestinal problem but he said he didn't want to put her through anymore. It was my last attempt to save her!!

I'm so, so sad right now and I'm going to miss her dearly!! She's been my best friend for 20 years and I love her so much :lovestruck: :lovestruck:!! Whenever I was upset, Dillon would jump up on me and touch my face with her paws as if to make me feel better. I can't believe she's gone. She's a beautiful soul! :cry::angel2:

I want to thank everyone for your support!! You've been such a comfort to me and a shoulder to lean on.

smithduke
March 31st, 2009, 04:30 PM
Dillon went very peacefully and wasn't afraid at all. My hubby carried her in wrapped in her favorite blanket which ended up being the best thing to do. We also didn't put her in the carrier but instead let her lay on the car seat while being petted the whole time. I guess I knew after all what was best for her. Dillon ended up being very ill and the vet said she was "filled with stool". I don't know if she had a blockage that caused the weakness or she couldn't go to the bathroom due to her muscle weakness. Either way, she's at peace and I can't look back and ask "What if..?" I can only take solace in the fact that she's no longer in pain or scared wondering why her legs didn't work. Her ashes are being returned back to us. I'm sending hugs to all of you who helped me through this..:grouphug::grouphug:

Bina
March 31st, 2009, 04:49 PM
I share your sadness......losing a fur buddy is so painful.
Take comfort from the fact that your sweet Dillon had a long life as a cherished pet and she was able to pass away safely and in peace.
Her systems were shutting down.....she tried her best and so did you......

chico2
March 31st, 2009, 05:03 PM
Smithduke,I have taken all my sick kitties myself,my husband just could not and if you have a very sick animal,the passing is peaceful,it's like they go to sleep.
It of course does not make it easier,you lose your cherished kitty and they leave a huge empty space in your heart,but you can take solace in knowing,there is no more pain or suffering.
:rip:beautiful little Dillon.

14+kitties
March 31st, 2009, 05:44 PM
:candle::rip: sweet Dillon :candle:
:grouphug: to you smithduke. I feel your pain. You know where we are..... :grouphug:

glasslass
March 31st, 2009, 08:46 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I held my Den-Den2 when he passed and I can tell you it's very peaceful. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I wish I could give you a :grouphug:

happycats
March 31st, 2009, 09:17 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. May you find peace during this difficult time.

RIP Dillon :candle:

smithduke
March 31st, 2009, 10:15 PM
Ohh..I'm crying right now as I read your kind thoughts!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! It's so comforting to know how much you understand! I know that my Dilly Beans is at peace but I'm sad I waited the extra day, knowing how uncomfortable she was last night. My dear, wonderful husband was willing to take her and he's just as sad as I am! I started this thread because I was so upset at the thought of Dillon being afraid but I think when it came down to it, I knew what was best for her. Dillon was calm and felt very loved. That's all I ever wanted when her time came. Each and everyone who responded to me are here because you care about others and I know your pets are very, very lucky to have such wonderful people who love them. When their time comes, I have no doubt you'll do exactly what's right for them too!

growler~GateKeeper
April 1st, 2009, 12:03 AM
:rip: sweet :angel2: Dillon :candle: She is playing at the Rainbow Bridge (http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html) with those who've gone before :candle:

smithduke
April 1st, 2009, 01:22 AM
Growler, thanks for The Rainbow Bridge.:cry: I still can't believe my Dillon is gone. I'm going to miss her body against my leg when we sleep in bed. She used to climb on me when I was laying on my side and mould herself into my hip. Whenever I cried she would come up to my face and pat it as if to tell me to stop crying. Dillon was extremely sensitive to my emotions and we were really in sync with each other! At times I"m "OK" and then I break down. I knew it wouldn't last forever but I'm so thankful that I had her in my life at all! :lovestruck::lovestruck::lovestruck::lovestruck::l ovestruck:

smithduke
April 1st, 2009, 01:26 AM
happycats, I love your "signature"! It's so true and we would be nothing without our animal friends!!

"What is man without beasts? If all the beasts were gone, men would die from great loneliness of spirit. For whatever happens to the beasts, soon happens to man. All things are connected."

rhartjr
April 1st, 2009, 01:44 AM
So very sorry for your loss.

The Last Battle

If it should be that I grow frail and weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
then you must do what must be done
For this, the last battle, can't be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let the grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest
Your love and friendship stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so;
When the time comes, please let me go.

Take me where my needs they'll tend
And stay with me, if you can, to the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time, you will see,
It is a kindness you do for me.
Although my tail its last was waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Don't grieve that it should be you,
Who must decide this thing to do,
We've been so close, we two, these years;
Don't let your heart hold any tears.

Smile, for we walked together for a little while.

- Author Unknown

Magicwildwolf69
April 1st, 2009, 01:47 AM
i'm so sorry for your lost. i remember losing my little one when she was just a year. she had leukemia and her systems started shutting down. I still miss her and its been almost two years. Hope your memories bring you comfort and remember all the good times you have with her.

:candle: dillon

Love4himies
April 1st, 2009, 08:14 AM
Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your precious baby :cry: :grouphug: :grouphug:. Some animals have a soul connection to us and it sounds like Dillon did to you. She wouldn't want you to be sad, but to rejoice in the years that she had with you.

:rip: Dillon :candle:

Nagini
April 1st, 2009, 03:46 PM
I shed a tear reading your posts all the way through. I feel for you, but we are blessed to have our beloved pets by the cost of knowing they will have to pass one day. You spent every moment with your cat cherising and loving each other. Thats all you can ask for.

I have one cat of my own, my very first pet. He is with my parents now, so I do not live with him any longer. I miss him dearly every day, and I know when the day comes when he passes away, it will be difficult.

All my loves and hugs and strenght goes to you!! You are not alone!

rainbow
April 1st, 2009, 03:54 PM
My deepest condolences to you and your husband. :grouphug:


:rip: Sweet Dillon :candle:

catlover2
April 1st, 2009, 04:15 PM
I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. You did the best for "Dillon"....gave her a peaceful passing in the arms of her love.

"No heaven will not ever Heaven be; unless my cats are there to welcome me." ~ Unknown

smithduke
April 1st, 2009, 05:05 PM
So very sorry for your loss.

The Last Battle

If it should be that I grow frail and weak,
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
then you must do what must be done
For this, the last battle, can't be won.

You will be sad, I understand,
Don't let the grief then stay your hand,
For this day more than all the rest
Your love and friendship stand the test.

We've had so many happy years,
What is to come can hold no fears.
You'd not want me to suffer so;
When the time comes, please let me go.

Take me where my needs they'll tend
And stay with me, if you can, to the end.
Hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time, you will see,
It is a kindness you do for me.
Although my tail its last was waved,
From pain and suffering I've been saved.

Don't grieve that it should be you,
Who must decide this thing to do,
We've been so close, we two, these years;
Don't let your heart hold any tears.

Smile, for we walked together for a little while.

- Author Unknown

So beautiful! Thank you! :cry:

Margo Kram
April 1st, 2009, 11:41 PM
What a terrible time to be going through. I cant' even bear the thought of putting any cat or dog to sleep let alone my own. If your cat is afraid of the vet, do you have a traveling vet service where it can be done at your home? We have one here where I live although I'm not sure if it's any good. Some vets will also do home visits especially if you are a long time client. I'm sure you'll make the right decision when the time comes.

Murton
April 2nd, 2009, 03:40 AM
Your post is so moving...and I understand how hard it must be for you when she seems fine for the moment. There is nothing harder than parting with a loved one, human or animal, and I am sure that many of us share in your time of sadness...but know that the love and the warmth and comfort of your home that you have given Dillon are a wonderful way to honor her...my heart goes out to you.

smithduke
April 2nd, 2009, 08:25 PM
:grouphug: I'm doing better and I take great comfort that Dillon is at peace and not in pain. Everyone here is so kind. It's odd how some people that I talk to (not here) just can't understand how sad I am about losing Dillon. My experience on pets.ca has been wonderful and it's great to know how much others care!:) I was wondering, are most of you from Canada? I'm from New Jersey.

rainbow
April 2nd, 2009, 08:36 PM
Most memebers are from both Canada and the U.S. but there are folks from all over the world on this site :thumbs up ......it is a great place for animal lovers. :cloud9:

I am glad to hear that you are doing better .....Dillon would like that. :grouphug: :candle:

smithduke
April 2nd, 2009, 09:22 PM
I just thought I'd let you know that last week I left a very tearful message on my neighbor's answering machine, who is a Veterinarian, to ask her to come over and help Dillon pass peacefully. She just called back today. Granted she's a part-time vet and has 5 kids under the age of 6. :eek: but I was a bit disappointed she waited so long. I called three other vets in the area and no one would come over because they hadn't seen Dillon before. We agreed carrying her in her favorite blanket to our regular vet, who is a 45 minute drive away, and who we've been taking her to since she was a teeny baby, was the best decision. It turned out being very peaceful and calm. Putting her in the carrier is what really freaked her out in the past so that's how we came to the decision to put her on the blanket. It was actually a blessing in disguise (if she had to go) that she couldn't jump or walk because she laid on the seat of the car and she was very comfortable and surprisingly not afraid. Because we've been going to the same vet for 21 years, he's very attached to us and our pets and was very sympathetic. Like I said before, when it, sadly, comes time for your pets to leave you, I know that you will make the right decision about what's best for them. Even if you, at the time, don't feel it's right, because it came from your heart, it will be what was best for your pet. Sorry if I'm babbling on and on.....:o

Jim Hall
April 2nd, 2009, 09:30 PM
babble away my condolences to all your family

smithduke
April 2nd, 2009, 09:34 PM
Awww...thanks Jim.

hazelrunpack
April 3rd, 2009, 12:29 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss, smithduke. :grouphug: It's so hard to let them go, but it's our best last gift to our little ones, to ease them across.

:candle: Dillon

smithduke
April 3rd, 2009, 12:55 AM
It's so hard to let them go, but it's our best last gift to our little ones, to ease them across.

:candle: Dillon

So true!! :candle:

TeriM
April 3rd, 2009, 03:55 AM
Lots of hugs for you and your family :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:.

It is obvious that Dillon was well loved and you honored that with the best gift you could have given her :angel:.

Love4himies
April 3rd, 2009, 08:03 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss, smithduke. :grouphug: It's so hard to let them go, but it's our best last gift to our little ones, to ease them across.

:candle: Dillon

Amen!

Babble away smithduke, we are here to listen. :grouphug:

chico2
April 3rd, 2009, 08:31 AM
Smithduke,like others say,babble all you want,although I don't see it as babble:grouphug:

smithduke
April 3rd, 2009, 12:06 PM
Chico, I love your cat's names! Cool cats! :cat:

chico2
April 3rd, 2009, 05:08 PM
Smithduke,My tabby Rocky,came to us as a kitten with huge paws,hence the name Rocky,Chico was blackish brown as a baby,like Chicory and little(big)Vinnie was found on Winston Churchill street,he should have been called Winnie,but Vinnie was easier to say:cat: