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Im so ashamed!

January 3rd, 2009, 10:06 AM
14+, growler, L4H, and other catty cat lovers, Your going to be so ashamed of me:sad: Im scared to death of cats and didnt know it:eek:

I love kitties. I love reading about them, and admiring outdoor cats from affar. 3 of my family members have and have had multiple cats. They were not social cats and wouldnt come around much when I was there, and if you got to pet them for 5 seconds they'd run away and do whast ever cats do.
But I was at my cousins BF's house yesterday and he has a very large VERY social cat, and I was on edge the whoooole time. I was very interested in him, and didnt want him to leave my side, and I even stayed down on the floor with him to pet him. But my heart was pounding out of my chest the whoooole time. He has no claws (Former owners decision) so he couldnt really hurt me unless he bit. So cousins BF took out some treats for him and i was giving him some, and everytimes his mouth would reach towards my hand to get a treat I would pull away very fast. I was scared to death! And to make matters worse, he bit me:sad: (My fault completly, i kept pulling the treat away so ohe snatched it, along with my finger) .. Hes the sweetest kitty ever. I feel soo soo , weird?? Im such a loser, afraid of the kitty mccats:sad: I dont wanna be scared of them, what do i doo??! :confused::confused:

Im sorry, I just had to share that. Iwanna kitty someday, but i dont wanna be afraid of it.:rolleyes: Seriously, I feel like such a :loser: right now.

January 3rd, 2009, 10:38 AM
So what's wrong with that? I see nothing wrong with having a healthy cautiousness about animals. I LOVE horses; as long as they are far away or I am absolutely positive that they will not nip! I think they are one of the most majestic animals out there. I LOVE dogs. Same thing! If I am not sure of one, don't know it's temperment, have not been assured it is gently, even then, I treat it with respect. It's the best way to be.
Do you think I just walk up to cats I don't know and expect them to fall over in abject admiration of me? Not on your life! KittyMcCat still gets my hand pulled back quickly when he starts getting owly. MiniMo lashed out and bit me hard the other day because I was holding her when she wanted down. It's part of dealing with animals. You have to watch and learn to recognize their habits. And believe me, every one of their habits are different.
When you were giving him treats and got bit were you holding the treats between your finger tips? That is not giving him enough room to get the treat and not your fingers. The next time, and I know there will be a next time, try putting the treat on your flattened palm and offering it that way.
Just one more thing......... animals can sense your fear/nervousous. But to me you did a good job of hiding it. Just try not to pull your fingers back next time. It won't hurt nearly as much when he gets your fingers. :D

January 3rd, 2009, 10:50 AM
I'm with 14+....You can be an animal lover without being 100% comfortable with all of them. I love horses from a very safe distance...if one nudges or nibbles on me I'm outta there! And I will never touch a reptile of any kind. Ever. And rabbits are adorable but I think they're kind of evil with all the scratching and biting they do. Plus I'm TERRIFIED of birds!

All things that I don't feel bad about and you shouldn't either. Everyone is more comfortable with certain types of animals I think. They all deserve good homes and someone to love just won't be in my home!

January 3rd, 2009, 11:02 AM
Babymomma,I LOVE dogs,but am really scared of strange dogs running towards me.
I actually got whip-lash once climbing over a fence with a large dog at my heels.
It turned out he was a wonderful dog,just wanted to say Hi:laughing:
I would not suggest you get a cat,until you are comfortable around one,you can practise with your families cats:laughing:

January 3rd, 2009, 11:08 AM
Seriously, you did GREAT! You sat there with the cat, you fed treats to the cat... that's more than somebody who is truly terrified of them would do. Who knows, in time you'd probably get more comfortable with them - and if not, so what? You like them and you try, not everybody is good with every animal. My mother in law is scared of cats - and I mean SCARED. If one comes near her she jumps, shrieks and moves to avoid it completely, even if it's just sauntering through the middle of the room completely ignoring her.

Besides, the way you've described yourself is almost like how I am with one of my mother's cats, lol. She's beautiful but kind of mean and unpredictable sometimes - often reaches out and bites or scratches somebody nearby with absolutely no justification at all. So, I'm really wary around her and my heart pounds every time she comes near me... but for some reason she's decided she likes me and loves to head butt me and reach in for scritchy scratchies, lol. Every time she does it I'm expecting a bite... but I can't stop petting her because I love her, even though she's a scary beast!!

Don't feel bad. You treated a furry one with love even though it scared you. That to me says you're truly an animal lover.

January 3rd, 2009, 11:18 AM
At the emergency clinic near me, I once had a vet treating my cat, Egypt, that admitted she was scared of cats. She said she could treat the biggest meanest dog with no problem because she could read dogs and knew how to deal with their behaviour, but cats were a whole different ballgame to her. She had to get one of the vet techs to come in and take Egypt into the back for a blood draw, and he wasn't even behaving badly. I did appreciate her honesty, though.

It seems to me that a number of people (usually men) that say they hate cats, actually just fear them, but it's much more macho to say you hate them instead.

I also knew someone that had a therapy cat for people with cat phobias. These were people that couldn't even look at pictures of cats without sweating, never mind being in the same room with them. Her cat exuded a contagious sense of calm around everyone and seemed to know just how far she could go with the person being treated. It was quite amazing.

January 3rd, 2009, 12:01 PM
Im sorry, I just had to share that. Iwanna kitty someday, but i dont wanna be afraid of it.:rolleyes: Seriously, I feel like such a :loser: right now.

You know what? Before I got Basil and Streets I was pretty scared of dogs. My parents had a GSD when I was little, but after that I somehow developed a fear of dogs :shrug:

But hey, then I met my two and ended up with two pit bull mixes (oh, the irony..... :laughing:) and became a crazy dog lady, though pugs still freak me out a little :D

January 3rd, 2009, 04:11 PM
14+, growler, L4H, and other catty cat lovers, Your going to be so ashamed of me:sad: Im scared to death of cats and didnt know it:eek:

I dont wanna be scared of them, what do i doo??! :confused::confused:

No one is ashamed of you or thinks you are a loser. :)

For someone who never had a pet you've done great. :grouphug: You are more comfortable around dogs because you've had past friendly contact & good experiences with them.

Cats do have a tendendacy to be a little more unpredictable at times than dogs, and they will let you know when they've had enough attention sometimes with a swat, so your nervousness is not unusual.

To help overcome the fears you have, you could to go to your local shelter & explain you'd like to learn to be more comfortable around cats, ask if you can just play with a couple of kittens. Who could resist playing with kittens :cloud9: :lovestruck:. One of the shelter workers may be able stay with you & explain some of their behaviours. Then when you feel more comfortable, maybe a couple of days/weeks later, ask them to bring out a nice relaxed friendly cat to pet & play with a bit.

January 3rd, 2009, 04:35 PM
Great advise growler!

January 3rd, 2009, 04:53 PM
though pugs still freak me out a little :D

Little pugs ? Really ? :laughing:

babymomma , my mom never really liked cats , was a bit scared. But every time she would come to my house , she would get a little closer to them. And now , has no problem with them cuddling with her on the couch !

So with time and practice , you'll get use to them , don't worry about it.

and hey , I have a great dane and I'm terrified of mice ! :laughing:

January 3rd, 2009, 05:16 PM
No worries, babymomma, there are very few of us that are comfortable with all animals. With as many cats as I have been around, I am always cautious when I first met one. Animals are never 100% predictable.

Kitties don't respond well to those they don't like so you must have made a great impression on your cousin's cat ;).

I am like Chico, I love dogs but am not comfortable with loose dogs (big or small) coming towards me. Even Tigger, the pitbull I transported, I wasn't totally comfy with until a bit into the drive and she almost drowned me with kisses :lovestruck:

January 4th, 2009, 07:46 AM
L4H,I sincerely hope no neighbor saw this crazy lady falling over the fence:laughing:
Fates owner(the girlfriend)already had a hold on the dog and together we brought him to her backyard,called the owner and he was picked up:thumbs up A big suck of a dog,my neck is still sore:yell::laughing:

January 4th, 2009, 11:27 AM
I think as others have said its all about "reading" the animal. I've been a cat person all my life and couldn't conceive of being afraid of one. BUT until I had Dracko I'd never been around dog (esp big dogs) and I didn't trust them at all. I never knew how to read the signs of how they were feeling or about to do. I suppose it's like that with people who haven't had cats around forever.

I know someone who is so afraid of cats that she wouldn't leave her apartment once cuz there was a cat in the hallway. She called a friend and had the friend come over to move the cat so she could leave. While I have to sort of chuckle to myself a bit given the size difference between the cat and a human, fear is fear. It's not always rational, of course.

I learned to get over my fear of dogs by reading books like "Puppy Training for Dummies," "How to Speak Dog," etc so I could learn to interpret the signs of what Dracko was going to do. I would suggest maybe you do the same. Honestly you can usually tell/sense when a cat is gonna bite/scratch/etc. They give off signs with their face, ears, tail, etc just like a dog does. Plus some cats are just ornery and pissy all the time. :p

January 5th, 2009, 08:37 AM
Hey, don't feel bad. I've got 5 and even I'm cautious with them on certain occasions. Just yesterday when I was giving them treats, Maks bit down on my finger. I pulled it back and it was bleeding. (I've really got to learn to hold the treat differently :rolleyes:)

They do tend to be a little unpredictable, and if you don't know the signs can catch you off guard.

I remember when I first moved into my current place, I had my computer under the stairs. My brother came over one day and was looking for something on the internet and Vlad jumped from the stairs to the monitor. My brother froze! He called to me and said "Look" and he pointed to Vlad, who was just sitting on the monitor looking at him. I told him he just wanted to be closet to him because he liked him and wanted to socialize with him. LOL, my brother said "What he if attacks me?" I told him unless he made any sudden moves he wouldn't :laughing: I was kidding of course, but wound up just picking up Vlad and putting him on the floor.

Some people just feel more comfortable around other types of animals, there's nothing wrong with that. At least you faced your fear and played with the kitty. That's great.

Jim Hall
January 5th, 2009, 08:55 AM
se you palyed and socialised with him fed hm treats and he didnt rip your face off i think he likes you ;)

cats are easy they usually let you know if your not liked

if a cats ears are up and tail is still they happy and feel safe

if the ears are down or the tail starts twitcining they are un comfortable

im afraid of dobiermans and pit bulls my self

January 5th, 2009, 11:39 AM
babymomma, don't feel bad.
1) You said this was the something you havn't had a chance to do before. It isn't bad to feel nervous when doing something you haven't done often.
2)Being cautious around animals you don't know much about is quite sensible. Even animals you know quite well can be unpredictable sometimes. Even if they don't intend to they can sometimes hurt you by accident. I bet Keely nipped you a few times before you taught her not to. I know my cats have occasionally grabbed my fingers when I went to retrieve a toy for chasing (they aren't too good at bringing toys back)
3) If you aren't comfortable close up, why not try something that let's you interact at a medium distance for a while? Try playing with a friendly cat with a fishing rod toy (long pole, with string on end and toy at end of string). this way you can get used to the way a cat moves, and keep you and your fingers safely out of reach of accidental scratches. :thumbs up

January 5th, 2009, 12:23 PM
Hey it took me a long time to learn how to 'read' cats... and yes I'm still also cautious with mine at times... I've had two teeth punctures up the nose (OUCH!), a few scratches near and around the face (scary every time) and countless bites and scratches (mostly from strays/ferals but also some from my guys, once Palomine bit right through my hand and Fagan right through my finger at the vets). The majority of these injuries though were when the cat was cornered/on alert (Palomine was growling at a stray through the door and I like an idiot used my hand to try to back him away from the door :loser:) or very scared and in a strange environment (Fagan was when I was visiting him when he had to spend a week at the vets). Luckily for us animals in general have some very telltale signs of aggression though and once you know how to read them, those incidents happen less and less.... I mean Kitty McKat over there at 14+'s gave me a nice deep couple a punctures when I was trying to coax him into the carrier for the trip! But it was because I wasn't paying attention and missed his ears go back. :rolleyes:

Feeding that cat treats was great:thumbs up, next time though just put them on the ground in front of him, he still gets to know you are nice, and you don't have to worry about an accidental nip.

And as for getting cats.... man when I got my first one, I was soooo unprepared but I did the very best I could and she is one very beautiful, healthy and happy girl now. Should you ever get a cat, you have a leg up on most... you have! I so wish I had this place back then, I could have done so much better for my pets!