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Bendyfoot

want4rain
October 3rd, 2007, 09:11 PM
i thought about you on and off all day yesterday and a fair bit of today. yesterday Jeffrey wiggled and smeared poo all over my MY side of the bed. he poked Mister in the butt with his finger... today he climbed into the door way to the house to come inside and as he crossed the threshold..... he puked all over the place. did that stop him?? not a single heart beat. walked right through it! today he said FOO (as in food) so emphatically that he spit FOO all over my face. *sigh* are you sure you want to do the baby thing?

all of the rest of you with new babies.... remember- this is right around the corner for you.

-ashley

mummummum
October 3rd, 2007, 10:57 PM
And you're loving every moment of it W4R !!!

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 07:28 AM
i probably could have done without the poo smearing part.... did i tell you i torched the dryer??? everythign has to be line dried and we are so humid its gotta be FULL sun.

the FOO! has me smiling all day though. he is a very.... robust.... eater. first he would say 'more' then it was 'p-p-p-wwweee' (please with the lips flapping on the P) then it was 'more please' then it 'brrrfooooss' (breakfast) and now its 'FOO!'

i need to get the FOO! on video. :)

-ashley

chico2
October 4th, 2007, 07:33 AM
W4R,at first I thought you were talking about a pup,until you came to the FOO part,talking pup???
No,don't think soo:laughing:Stepping in vomit?? Got to be a skinbaby:D

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 07:39 AM
y'all thought puppies were nasty....

-ash

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 08:36 AM
lol want4rain!

I figure with all the puppy housetraining accidents, double-dog-diarrhea-on-the-carpets-for-a-week episodes, those lovely half-hidden-until-you-step-on-them-with-bare-feet cat pukes full of mouse remnants, and being woken up at ungodly hours by a fussy crate-trainng puppy, I've been well trained for all the nasty kid stuff :D
I can't wait! (but I have to, to see a specialist). I'm obsessed, actually:D

Jim Hall
October 4th, 2007, 10:52 AM
belive me pets are nothing compared to toddlers not even in the same league.

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 11:23 AM
yep, Jim is right... imagine that puppy stage lasting 4 or 5 years... THEN they start to push your buttons!!!

i have all of Cailyns young pictures on FILM but all of Jeffreys are digital.

some words of advice for new parents:

babies/toddlers/children are there for your amusement. it doesnt harm them one bit!!-
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/BabyOnDrugs.jpg


caffeine is bad... this was taken WITHOUT caffine-
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/WhatAWeirdBaby.jpg


great age to predict career, Jeffrey is going to be the CEO of a big company??-
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/BathTheseAreMyDucks.jpg


ducks dont taste good-
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/YuckyDucky.jpg


he just found his weenie.... and pulled.
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/HolyCOW.jpg


maestro doesnt need a pincer move-
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/IMG_4853.jpg


stoogie face, made that for at least a month or so.
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/Jeffrey/StoogieFace.jpg

ive been looking everywhere for this picture!!!
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/Jeffrey/OOPSfallingbaby.jpg



ok now that we got the baby fix out of the way. you mind me asking abotu the specialist?

-ashley

happycats
October 4th, 2007, 12:01 PM
OMG he is gorgeous!!:lovestruck: What a cutie pie!!

As for babies, yes they are MUCH MORE work then pets. On the other hand you never really know "true, unconditional" Love until you've had a baby, your heart just beams at the mere thought of them, and there is nothing you wouldn't do for them.
I guess it's probably the same as a dogs love for it's owner, so true and pure.
So prepare to turn into a dog, when you have a baby, all drooly googley eyed, making funny sounds and faces just for attention!!! :laughing:

Frenchy
October 4th, 2007, 12:08 PM
Jeffrey wiggled and smeared poo all over my MY side of the bed.

ewwwwwwww :laughing:

note to self , buy condoms ......:p

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 12:09 PM
Happycats, those are the truest words ever. :)

-ash

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 12:47 PM
I know kids and pets aren't in the same league, but I have to laugh sometimes at pet-less people (like my sister in law who has a 4 month old) who FREAK at the slightest hint of poo anywhere other than in a diaper...I'm like, "poo goes in diapers? I thought it went on the new rugs???:confused::laughing:). I think it maybe has desensitized me a teeny tiny bit. But I'm ready for the big leagues now.

w4r, I can't see any of the pics!!! My stupid 'puter blocks anything photobucket-ey. But the captions are getting my imagination going strong. :laughing: And I don't mind sharing about the specialist. Since my sweetie is also a gal, unless there is divine intervention or I do something that our marriage vows would certainly not allow, we won't be having any children on our own. So we have selected a donor (he's a fire-fighter, whoo-hoo!), and we're waiting to see a reproductive specialist in January who's going to do "the procedure" for us (me). From my understanding it's going to involve a lot of blood tests (yuck), ultrasounds, and drugs that are going to make me :evil:and hot-flashy and :cry:and :yell:. But if it all ends up in a baby belly it'll be worth it!!! It's very hard to wait, but we've been on a waiting list for some time now, and we only have three months to go...(tick...tick...tick...I'm not sure if that's a countdown or my biological clock...probably both!)

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 01:04 PM
GOOD FOR YOU!!! i plan to possibly surrogate for a gay friend of mine and his sweetie. :) figure he has been to each of the deliveries of MY children... he should have one of this now. :D

keep us posted??? i love hearing abotu babies and pregnancies. :)

congrats!

-ashley

CyberKitten
October 4th, 2007, 01:09 PM
Awwwwwwwwww, but is=t is so much fun to watch them grow and develop!!! :)

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 01:13 PM
OMG, that's awesome that you would even consider being a surrogate...I know a few couples who would give their right arms to have a child, and have been searching for a surrogate for years....what a wonderful way to help a family come into being!

We are super-excited :D and hope everything works out :fingerscr

GOOD FOR YOU!!! i plan to possibly surrogate for a gay friend of mine and his sweetie. :) figure he has been to each of the deliveries of MY children... he should have one of this now. :D

keep us posted??? i love hearing abotu babies and pregnancies. :)

congrats!

-ashley

CyberKitten
October 4th, 2007, 01:22 PM
Bendy, if you make your browser accept what was the url (I am on a quick break..) oh yes, Photobucket, you may see it. Do you use Foxfire by any chance? if so, if there is a message at the top saying this has been blocked, look to the right and click on the Options tab and then add the site to the form that comes up. For IE, make it a list of the acceptable sites. I can't recall the Netscape option... sorry!! But I am guessing it COULD be one of those things and not your computer per se. Guessing being the operative term here.

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 01:24 PM
Thanks for the tips, CK, but it's because I'm using a *ahem* work computer. There's nothing I can do :sad:

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 01:27 PM
to surrogate was a hard decision to make but one i had thought of for years with my friend. we have been friends since high school so its been in the back of my head since before i had my first.

he may or may not take me up on the offer. somewhere between the next (MY last) and the time i turn 35 is their window.

im really interested in the process (ok, maybe not the DETAILS if you know what i mean, but the fundamentals) and most parents are up for giving out advice... so you know if you have any questions!!! pregnancy is scary but soooooooo cool!!

-ashley

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 01:38 PM
Thanks for the offer, ashley:thumbs up

I am very excited about the whole experience (I just hope it works...) I've been reading all the books I can get my hands on and harassing the multitudes of pregnant women in my office for all the juicy details (ok, so I'm living vicariously, but I'm calling it "research" :o) and doing all the temperature-taking and charting and trying to cut down on my beloved coffee :lovestruck: and looking at ridiculously overpriced but ridiculously adorable little tiny itty-bitty clothes and carseats and cribs and...siiiiggghhh:lovestruck:

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 03:30 PM
My sweetie's excited too...

she just called me from work to say "I'm thinking about our baby..."

Siiiiiiigggghhhhh.....:lovestruck:

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 03:55 PM
its one hell of a ride thats for sure!!! the first kick, heartbeat... 'mommy'....

this is the best ever baby gate or just like it.... the one i have is the same brand, same idea but it doesnt have the panel with the holes, its a solid panel-
Safety 1st Baby Gate (http://www.1st-quality-school-supplies.com/41823.html?zmam=5908402&zmas=4&zmac=28&zmap=41823)

and lap pads will save everything. i dont know how parents do without these. buy at least 20-
LapPads (http://cgi.ebay.com/NWT-Circo-Pack-of-Lap-Pads-GREAT-for-diaper-bag-NEW_W0QQitemZ290166346428QQihZ019QQcategoryZ66674Q QcmdZViewItem)

:cloud9:babies!

-ashley

bendyfoot
October 4th, 2007, 04:07 PM
Do the lap pads have plastic on one side or something to protect from wet stuff? Or are they like your basic receiving blanket (I plan on having about a zillion of those)?

chico2
October 4th, 2007, 04:11 PM
Awwww Bendyfoot,I hope you and your partner will get preggers very soon:pray:
Poop should not really bother you anymore,it does not me,between the cats and picking up Baileys poop,gosh I've never seen so much poop:laughing:
My babies(3 boys)did not poop or throw up half as much as my critters:laughing:

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 04:36 PM
so you have the changing table cover which covers the whole changing table... the lap pads are to cover that around the butt area. its great for changing on the floor, beds and covering pee from the wall... your shirt.... projectile pooping... you can use it and then toss it in the wash where as your sheets or your changing table cover are not only more expensive but have only one place you can use them. these guys fit anywhere, go anywhere and hold most anything. Jeffrey had a bad habit of pooping OUT his diaper, rocketing out the sides of it like little jets of yucky poo... lap pads saved our furniture soooo many times!!! the changing table and alarm clock and mirror, lamps... pants, shirts...

but yes, to answer your question, just like receiving blankets and feels similar (that felted feeling) but its about 3x as thick and a layer of thick woven material between the felted cotton. its hard to describe. get a pack and use it. if you are hooked, go get more. :D very cool stuff.

-ashley

ancientgirl
October 4th, 2007, 06:36 PM
Goodness, what beautiful blue eyes! LOL and it looks like he's got a bad case of the Cheeriopox!

Schwinn
October 4th, 2007, 09:53 PM
He's gorgeous, W4R!

I laughed when I read this earlier from work (procrastinating making my phone calls). Within 10 mins, Mrs. Schwinn called and was telling me how Gracie (who's potty training now) and filled a diaper and decided she should take it off...in her play room...then sit on her chair at her table...

I still can't change diapers without putting my shirt over my face. Oh, and if you don't believe that the universe has balance, next time you see a beautiful baby, take a whiff of the other end. I still marvel how something so evil can come out of something so sweet.

And when they're potty training, it gets better. Nothing like the bitter sweet moment of feeling pride that she learned to wipe her bum...but hoping she learns to use toilet paper soon:yuck:

Or the time I took her in the guys washroom and told her several times "don't touch ANYTHING" (which probably sounded really funny to everyone else who couldn't see, only hear), only to turn around and see her hanging both hands over the bowl (let's just say, when it comes to public washrooms, guys are disgusting). So, I figure, fine. I pick her up, and squat down to face level to hold her on the side of the seat. She looks at me, giggles, and plants both hands on my cheeks. I still haven't used enough soap to get my face to feel clean. I'm thinking of amputating my cheeks...

But it is all worth it. I live for those days when they come into the bank I work at, and when Gracie sees me from the front door, runs as fast as she can all the way to my office yelling, "Daddydaddydaddydaddy!"

I've been called a lot of things...that, by far, is my favourite.:goodvibes:

want4rain
October 4th, 2007, 10:11 PM
you remember that FIRST time she welcomed you so openly?? Chris just went through that a few months ago. came home from work and Jeffrey took one look at him walking through the door, yelled DADDY!!! ran over and hugged his knees. thats the third time ive ever seen my husband cry. the first time was when he found out he was a boy, second time was during the movie 'Bridge To Terabithia'.

:rolleyes:

all ewwie stories aside (why are they ALL about poop?! hey, Jeffrey once puked up my nose so it came back out my mouth!!!:yuck::o) its ALL THE REST of the moments that you hope to remember for the rest of your life.

Marko asked if NOT having children was selfish?? no, i think having babies is selfish... 2 or more, more so. the desire to perpetuate this beautiful thing has everything to do with being selfish.

-ashley

luckypenny
October 5th, 2007, 08:31 AM
What a happy, feel-good thread :goodvibes: . We can always count on you want4rain, to look at the best (and funniest) in life's little situations.

I just want to grab Jeffrey and squish him close :cloud9: ! Cheerios, goober, poop and all!

bendyfoot
October 5th, 2007, 08:59 AM
Nothing like the bitter sweet moment of feeling pride that she learned to wipe her bum...but hoping she learns to use toilet paper soon:yuck:

OMG, I just about peed my pants laughing over that one!:laughing:

I'm thinking of amputating my cheeks...

Ok, I DID pee my pants laughing over THIS one!!!:laughing::laughing::laughing:



Babies, babies, babies! :D:cloud9::lovestruck:

http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;10723;88/st/20080114/e/RE+consult%21%21/k/aa5e/event.png
(http://www.TickerFactory.com/)

Glad I can come here and obsess about non-fur-kids too :D

want4rain
October 5th, 2007, 11:27 AM
What a happy, feel-good thread :goodvibes: . We can always count on you want4rain, to look at the best (and funniest) in life's little situations.

I just want to grab Jeffrey and squish him close :cloud9: ! Cheerios, goober, poop and all!

you know, for all of our hectic schedules, busy work days, Cailyns attention needin issues.... it spills over, all that happiness. just floods that bad stuff all out the window. we have a hard time finding friends here because we are happy and realistic. the two cant seem to go hand in hand together because happy people are deluded and realistic people are cynical. ;)

my family, we make each other so happy. its hard not to share that.


Schwinn- i was still wiping Cailyns butt at 4yo. thats when i met Chris. i was outside frog wrangling when Cailyn had to take a poo. second time he ever met my kid right?? well she HAD to have someoone stand outside of the bathroom while she went potty. he was THAT person ALL DAY LONG for her. well after pooping, she says OK IM DONE!!! loudly! he looked at me through the door, i just shrugged and thought if he can make it through that... he MIGHT be a keeper... went in there and here is Cailyn, feet and hands planted on the floor, poopy butt in the air!!!

he says he looks at her now, all Miss Independence, and has a hard time remembering how little she was back then. :)


Crystal- just wait till your preggers. you dont know the meaning of 'laughed till you peed'!!!! and gawd talk baby to me. i wanted to be preggers months ago but my thyroid has issues so i need to get it checked out first.

-ash

CyberKitten
October 5th, 2007, 11:36 AM
There are so many neat items now for babies!! I am excited for you!!! You will have to post pix. Does your hospital do the 3d images in ultrasound? Some places charge for them (ugh!! - I thin we pay enough in taxes without forcing moms and dads to pay for that but that's just my humble opinion)

There are some excellent receiving blankets - some cute ones here:

http://babyheirlooms.com/department/baby_blankets.cfm

Take care of yourself and good luck!!!

bendyfoot
October 5th, 2007, 11:58 AM
:laughing: she says OK IM DONE!!! loudly! he looked at me through the door, i just shrugged and thought if he can make it through that... he MIGHT be a keeper... went in there and here is Cailyn, feet and hands planted on the floor, poopy butt in the air!!!



Ok, that is by FAR the best "date" story EVER!!!:laughing::laughing:

*sniff* *wipes tear*

Thanks for sharing that one!

want4rain
October 5th, 2007, 12:13 PM
Crystal, he MARRIED me after that. what a great guy huh??

we had a boat load of blankets. i found i really liked the just plain old inexpensive ones from Target. they had 'unfinished' edges on them so when you rolled them up to keep newborns in place they werent lumpy. sticking them in the drawers and handy places because they were THIN and easy to work with. also very soft brushed cotton.

if you get UNUSUAL looking blankets... ones that you can tell one from the other?? make sure you find the softest one and go out and buy 4 more. exchange them with a 'replacement' weekly so they wear the same.

we never got the 3D done but kinda wished we had. we didnt even get to keep ultrasound pics. :frustrated: i was pretty upset abotu that.

hearing the first heart beat made me cry with both children. that first real evidence that you are growing a life inside of your body was the most amaziing thing ever. my body took parts of what i ate, parts of itself and created soemthign with a heart beat. breath taking. that amazing thing came out of my body and grew on my love and attention and then asked me if boys poop just like girls cause you know, they have weenies in the way. :rolleyes:

-ash

bendyfoot
October 5th, 2007, 12:30 PM
I've seen those 3D ultrasounds before and I'm sure I could get one done around here, but I'm 99% certain you have to pay for it.

I hope I can get the plain ol' regular U/S pics at my OBGYN (once I get there, boy I think pretty far ahead)...I'm going to ask the specialist to refer us to a dr. next to where I work...my pg coworker goes there and loves it, and she's always bringing in these cute little cards with the latest U/S pics...it's so fun to try to figure out what part of the kid you're actually looking at!

I can't wait for all those milestones...especially the +ve pregnancy test! I think the most brutal part is going to be the two week wait after the insem procedure...I'm sure it's going to be the longest 14 days of our lives! I don't even want to think about what it will be like if the tests come back -ve:yell: And I know I'm going to be a nervous wreak, overanalysing every little twinge and pain...but I can't wait for that part too! Just to hear the heartbeat, and then see little hands and feet in the U/S, and to find out BOY OR GIRL???, and all the good stuff in between and after.

p.s. your kid stories are the best ever, did I mention that???:D

want4rain
October 5th, 2007, 12:45 PM
look forward to this, plan to your hearts content... daydream till your head is in the coulds but DONT STRESS IT. thats the first thing you can change that will have the most impact on your ability to get pregnant. if you are stressed abotu it, why would your body want to bring a life into stress right now??? ok? so let those 14 days and 15 pregnancy tests be something of peace and quiet anticipation. start now with meditation and stress reduction.

:)

-ashley

want4rain
October 5th, 2007, 12:47 PM
p.s. your kid stories are the best ever, did I mention that???:D

i have almost 10 years total of making them. :) they have a great habit of doing the darndest things. heh

-ash

bendyfoot
October 9th, 2007, 10:50 AM
Our little 4-month old nephew, Jacob, came to visit at our house for the first time this weekend...it was AWESOME to see the dogs with him!!! We've never been worried about the dogs with kids, but it was still nice to see. They were both so excited about this little person...all tail wags and licks and sniffs...Jaida was super-gentle, and settled really quickly, but Gracie was OUT OF HER MIND with excitement. Up on her back feet trying to get a better look, TREMBLING, and CRYING when she was told to lie down (she never cries!), even if she was only a few feet away from Jacob! She couldn't get enough of him! When she got close enough to lick/sniff, she did these really cute little gentle licks through pursed lips :-) Later Jake's mom put him in his stroller for a nap, and even though we were all enjoying our turkey dinner Gracie plopped herself down next to the stroller and stared at it the whole time...I've never seen ANYTHING distract her from people eating before! My partner got up from the table at one point, and Gracie leapt to her feet...it was like she was saying "this is MY kid, I'm not sharing!" It was sooo cute! The girls made us so proud! The only cat who came down was Boo (our Sr. Matriarch), and she just laid there while Jake played with her fur...it didn't phase her in the slightest...and she gave him big head-butt rubs!
It was fun to watch my partner with the baby too...she is about as infatuated with Jacob as Gracie is! I don't think the little guy was out of her arms for more than five seconds, except at nap time. She's gonna be a good mommy :-)

want4rain
October 9th, 2007, 06:19 PM
:lovestruck::cloud9: babies are so cool. :) mommies are cooler though. :laughing:

Jeffrey is done with FOO!! and now he says BITE!. this is the 4th?? in a long line of words to demand food. it started out with MORE! and then PP-PPLEASE! and then the FOO! now BITE!

this is the first concept he has found new words for other than the initial word.

:cool:thats MY smart baby.


the one dog who ever reacted like that about either of my kids was with Cailyn. i put her carrier on the floor to let Rosie sniff her... she took one look at her and growled at ME. i had to growl back LOL!!! she never tried to bite me but man, if she didnt guard her against DUST with her life. little dachshund.... funny huh? :) she stayed in exactly the same spot at the foot of the carrier sniffing her toes until i lifted her up and took off with her. even then i thought she was going to jump up and leave with us. guess she liked babies?? :D

-ashley

bendyfoot
March 17th, 2008, 01:51 PM
I'm resurrecting this thread, for entirely selfish reasons.

For those of you who wouldn't mind, could you all send some fertile and conception-ey -type thoughts/good vibes/prayers in my direction this week? Our long (LONG) wait is finally over...we had our first IUI procedure this morning, and will have another one tomorrow. We'll be testing in 14 days. Eeek. This has been a huge process leading up to today, lots of tests and doctor's visits and preparations and expenses. We're really hoping hard for a good outcome.

Thanks guys!

want4rain
March 17th, 2008, 02:17 PM
i almost started a thread about someone 'annon' going therough this in case you werent ready to tell everyone!!!! im glad i waited thought. :D:D:D

im soooo super excited!!!!

here is a great list of some to pray to!!!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_goddess

-ashley

chico2
March 17th, 2008, 04:00 PM
Bendyfoot,although I don't know what IUI stands for,I am guessing fertility treatment,hope everything goes ok and you will get preggers:pray:

Ford Girl
March 18th, 2008, 03:45 PM
:goodvibes::goodvibes::goodvibes::goodvibes: From me!! I hope it turns out exactly as you want it to, I understand the long road and the bumps along the way, the little disappointments and the little victories....:)

How long in total has the process been from the day you looked in to it until today? If you don't mind me asking? I'm on the baby making train too, dealing with a specilists after a very very long road, poked, prodded, ups and downs, meds, blood work...so I'm right there with you...:grouphug:

want4rain
March 18th, 2008, 05:49 PM
this is going to sound reallt crass but here goes-

it always SLAYS me when i hear of good, intelligent, loving people having a hard time getting preggers. for all the stupid people breeding in the world, why does it have to be so hard for happy loving people to make babies sometimes??

Ford Girl, ill throw you in there too when im praying to all 50 million fertility deities.

-ashley

chico2
March 19th, 2008, 07:15 AM
W4R,I agree,but I believe it could have to do with women waiting to have babies later,waiting until they can offer the best for their babies or maybe just the environment we live in today.
Not like me,having a baby at 18,22 and 26,definetly not financially ready,but everything somehow worked out anyway.
I wish for success for anyone going through this right now and that we will soon have good news:stork-baby:

bendyfoot
March 19th, 2008, 09:55 AM
Thanks for the good vibes, folks...

Fordgirl, I sent you a PM with all the gory details:D

krdahmer
March 19th, 2008, 10:55 AM
You have my :pray: and :goodvibes: too Bendyfoot! And Fordgirl! :grouphug:

(We are planning to try again end of summer-ish too... )

And man, W4R... did you ever say what I am often thinking.... after a miscarriage, as if that isn't hard enough, it seems that you notice all of the terrible, unfit parents everywhere you go... and end up asking 'why them and not me?' It's terribly frustrating some days. :shrug:

bendyfoot
March 19th, 2008, 01:17 PM
:sad:I hear you. Or when you hear about babies being tossed into stairwells or dumpsters in the middle of winter...:yell: It's enough to make you nutty!

Ford Girl
March 19th, 2008, 02:59 PM
this is going to sound reallt crass but here goes-

it always SLAYS me when i hear of good, intelligent, loving people having a hard time getting preggers. for all the stupid people breeding in the world, why does it have to be so hard for happy loving people to make babies sometimes??

Ford Girl, ill throw you in there too when im praying to all 50 million fertility deities.

-ashley

I agree. Its sad. We have friends who are financially poor, 2 kids already, always falling on hard times...decent people who make BAD choices...they told us recently they aborted twins..:sad:..I didn't know what to say, so I hugged her so she couldn't see my face...what I was really thinking is that I would have adopted them and given them such a good home :angel: :angel:. This is not ment to be a poke at abortion - just the fact that we have been trying and wanting and people who should be on birth control aren't, and then make a desicion thats probably the best one for them but one that affected me non the less.

(they also just had a litter of kittens cuz they let their cats roam free unfixed :frustrated:)

DH and I wish it would have happened by mistake when we were 18 and 20 rather then go thru this now...


And man, W4R... did you ever say what I am often thinking.... after a miscarriage, as if that isn't hard enough, it seems that you notice all of the terrible, unfit parents everywhere you go... and end up asking 'why them and not me?' It's terribly frustrating some days. :shrug:

I notice it too, kids on the bus or train with babies. And if you look up the Alberta Adoption program you can browse the kids for adoption. :sad:

Things happen for a reason, I truely belive that, I've lived thru some extremely tough times and looking back things have happened because of it that brought great joy to my life. :)

:sad:I hear you. Or when you hear about babies being tossed into stairwells or dumpsters in the middle of winter...:yell: It's enough to make you nutty!

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

want4rain
March 19th, 2008, 06:56 PM
I agree. Its sad. We have friends who are financially poor, 2 kids already, always falling on hard times...decent people who make BAD choices...they told us recently they aborted twins..:sad:..I didn't know what to say, so I hugged her so she couldn't see my face...what I was really thinking is that I would have adopted them and given them such a good home :angel: :angel:. This is not ment to be a poke at abortion - just the fact that we have been trying and wanting and people who should be on birth control aren't, and then make a desicion thats probably the best one for them but one that affected me non the less.


let me start off by saying im quite pro choice but it makes me hug my babies just a little tighter at bed time. i have two friends who either can not or will likely not ever have children of which the offer stands. my first two children were the 'against all odds' kids. Cailyn was a Depo Provera baby, Jeffrey was ONE SINGLE try on our wedding night. this one we are working on now is taking its sweet time coming. :) i should send you guys clothes from my first two kids for good luck. along with those ill send you guys some pictures to make you run for the hills before bringing a child into your home. like the one where Jeffrey smeared boogers ALL OVER HIS FACE. right now.... *all* he has on are shoes and socks. Cailyn at 8 months old smeared a blue popsicle all over her face and chest.... Jeffrey just decided to play on his Rody, a rubber horse. boy i wish i had the film rolling.... of which wasnt good enough. he ran aross the room, sat down on the floor, held his weenie down and peed on the floor. :rolleyes:

here he found his weener-
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/waqnt4rain/HolyCOW.jpg
and im guessing it hurt.

anyways, im rubbing the baby bellies hoping things work out for you guys in a timely manner.

-ashley

Ford Girl
March 19th, 2008, 07:07 PM
let me start off by saying im quite pro choice but it makes me hug my babies just a little tighter at bed time. i have two friends who either can not or will likely not ever have children of which the offer stands. my first two children were the 'against all odds' kids. Cailyn was a Depo Provera baby, Jeffrey was ONE SINGLE try on our wedding night. this one we are working on now is taking its sweet time coming. :)



For sure, me too. Good to hear about your depo success, thats part of what I'm dealing with.

We are all waiting with you Crystal..:goodvibes: :goodvibes: :goodvibes:

want4rain
March 19th, 2008, 07:43 PM
For sure, me too. Good to hear about your depo success, thats part of what I'm dealing with.

Depo Provera the BIRTH CONTROL!!! *chuckles* it was quite the failure (of which i wouldnt change for the world :cloud9:)

-ash

bendyfoot
March 20th, 2008, 08:59 AM
Sometimes I truly wish that we could just have one of those "oops" babies, a surprise. But, since (as FordGirl so eloquently puts it:D), we have no in-house...*ahem*...that ain't gonna happen, and it makes me a bit sad. Feeling pretty calm but optimistic about things today.

Ford Girl
March 20th, 2008, 12:47 PM
Depo Provera the BIRTH CONTROL!!! *chuckles* it was quite the failure (of which i wouldnt change for the world :cloud9:)

-ash


OOOOOOOOOOh! I'm the opposite, its delayed thigns for years after I went off it....its so bad for you...and they just shot Pubert with it!! LOL!

Your babies so cute. :cloud9::cloud9:


Sometimes I truly wish that we could just have one of those "oops" babies, a surprise. But, since (as FordGirl so eloquently puts it:D), we have no in-house...*ahem*...that ain't gonna happen, and it makes me a bit sad. Feeling pretty calm but optimistic about things today.

:laughing: :laughing: Yes, an in house P*N*S helps alot!! hahah! But at least there are options and ways for you to try to start a fmaily without it...

want4rain
March 20th, 2008, 12:50 PM
shameless!!!!!

that depo stuff is some heavy stuff!! ill never get it again. they are using it for the deranged now. is that why Pubert got some?? (just kidding!!!!)

-ashley

bendyfoot
March 20th, 2008, 01:42 PM
Did I say earlier that I was feeling "calm" today???

:laughing::laughing::laughing::laughing::laughing: :laughing:

Nope, I'm :crazy:

Frenchy
March 20th, 2008, 07:45 PM
Good luck to you and your partner bendyfoot :goodvibes: :fingerscr :pray: and if you ever need eggs , I won't need mine :laughing:

14+kitties
March 20th, 2008, 08:26 PM
Bendyfoot - let me add my :goodvibes: and :fingerscr to the list. There is no feeling like holding your newborn child for the first time. I did it three times. And W4R is right - totally selfish on my part. :D My "baby" is 25 this year. YIKES!!!!!!! Course, I have the 2 stepsons too - 16 and 18.
Best of luck. I will add you to my prayers.

want4rain
March 20th, 2008, 09:04 PM
Jeffrey is done with FOO!! and now he says BITE!. this is the 4th?? in a long line of words to demand food. it started out with MORE! and then PP-PPLEASE! and then the FOO!

yeah so i just realized how long its been since i updated HIM... the FOO thing specifically. he says fooDuh. and he has names for all of the thigns he eats. he calls a drink GNA. just try to SAY gna. the guh-n-aaah. seriously. bra-fee (breakfast), ba-na-nuh-nuh (banana), eareal (cereal), SNACK (yeah), nunnies (bunnies, specifically Annies Cheddar Bunnies), in-nah (dinner), ease (cheese)... the list goes on!

he also went peepee in the potty for the the first time today, then he pooped on the couch for the first time ever today and he peepeed in the potty AGAIN.

i think im going to bed early tonight.

-ash

Ford Girl
March 24th, 2008, 12:36 PM
shameless!!!!!

that depo stuff is some heavy stuff!! ill never get it again. they are using it for the deranged now. is that why Pubert got some?? (just kidding!!!!)

-ashley

Yes. Thats exactly it. He needs something to balance his raging hormones...they give it to senior male cats to calm them. :eek: I was shocked!!
:laughing:

One week to Bendy...one whole week...:goodvibes: :goodvibes: :goodvibes:

bendyfoot
March 25th, 2008, 09:37 AM
One down, one to go, Fordgirl. :D

I already broke down and peed on a stick. :loser: Twice. :loser::loser:

want4rain
March 25th, 2008, 09:58 AM
WOMAN!! i told you to get stock in EPT!!! you guys are still in my thoughts. :)

-ashley

bendyfoot
March 25th, 2008, 10:59 AM
No worries, they sell them at the Dollarama of all crazy places. I can POAS and not feel too guilty about the cost :-)