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Poll of the night! Do you hug your dog?

August 24th, 2006, 11:10 PM
I'm just wondering what the stats are on this subject...

I have always hugged my doggies- to me, that's what doggies are for.

Do you hug your doggies?

(wait, I'll add a poll)

August 24th, 2006, 11:18 PM
no i don;t

August 24th, 2006, 11:24 PM
Yes!! And I kiss her, especially in the car when we're stopped at a red light :p

August 24th, 2006, 11:25 PM
I had to vote about the not having an opinion...

I don't have a dog....but I do hug my cats....if I had a dog I would hug him/her though....


August 24th, 2006, 11:33 PM
no i don;t
Uhh... not even your future doggy?

August 24th, 2006, 11:35 PM
Yes!! And I kiss her, especially in the car when we're stopped at a red light :p
Me too!!! I grab her and pull her to my chest in the middle of the car and then let go and drive on.:D Boo just gets a head hug because he's in the back seat.

My doggies even do a group hug. You grab one dog and then say "group!" and the other dog comes and joins in. :love:

August 24th, 2006, 11:38 PM
hehe of course i will:dog:

even my kitties get plenty of hugs and kisses even though at times i get meows of protest
and my piggy gets lots of hugs too :love:

Twiggy actually hugs me back with her tail

August 24th, 2006, 11:38 PM
all the time, everyday, a million times a day....not sure he's had all that much love until he came to us, so I make up for it by giving him TONS!

Buster will even beg for a hug. If I'm sitting on the couch and I haven't paid attention to him in a while, he'll get half up on the couch (like his 2 front paws on either side of me) and put his head on my lap. He's too cute. *runs off to hug Buster*

August 24th, 2006, 11:39 PM
Yes I hug Joey and he hugs me back to - gets right up on me and puts his paws around me. :D Then he closes in for the big wet kiss. :D

August 24th, 2006, 11:41 PM
I didn't vote cuz I couldn't pick just one choice. I would have to pick choice number 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5. :p

August 24th, 2006, 11:44 PM
lol they're pretty well all the same... Except hugging other people's dogs. Sometimes you can hug yours without hugging others.

August 24th, 2006, 11:47 PM
i hug other people's dogs.

I used to be those pesty little kids who'd just sneak up on big dogs and hug them. ANd they were giant stray or sheep dogs too. My mom would freak out everytime hehe

August 24th, 2006, 11:52 PM
I am the one who doesn't hug her dog. My little guy doesn't much like it, so I don't do it. I don't allow others to hug him either.

August 24th, 2006, 11:55 PM
How do you NOT hug your dog ??? I actually hug my dog to get the people germs off me. He's a canine eraser.

He had a bath tonight and he was so soft and huggable that he was in danger of a squishing by any one of us. And we think that floss was invented to get the dog fur out from between your teeth after you smooch them.:dog:

August 24th, 2006, 11:56 PM
Oh Lavendar Rott--if your dog doesn't like to be hugged then NOT hugging him is sort of like hugging him then. I mean, it's a way of showing love when you don't aggravate someone isn't it?:)

August 24th, 2006, 11:58 PM
Oh Lavendar Rott--if your dog doesn't like to be hugged then NOT hugging him is sort of like hugging him then. I mean, it's a way of showing love when you don't aggravate someone isn't it?:)

Ok. I'll buy that. :D

August 25th, 2006, 12:00 AM
Jemma didn't like hugs when we got her... After a trial weekend of her dodging my arms the whole time (like Dr Evil with Scott in Austin Powers :D), I asked her why Jemma didn't hug and she answered, "Why would you hug a dog?" (hence the option in the poll ;))

Now, she asks for hugs and kisses. She'll actually get on the sofa and put her head against your chest looking for a hug. And she'll put her muzzle on your lips to get a kiss. She just needed to be shown the love.:love:

August 25th, 2006, 12:04 AM
Phoebe gets lots of hugs from all of us, and she hugs us back, too (puts her paws on our shoulders and pulls us in for some smooches). :D I hug my sister's dog and my brothers' dogs. I also hug the neighbours' dogs. Most of them hug me back in their own ways. My sister's dog will bury his head in your lap, that's his way of hugging you. :dog: Gee, I guess I picked the wrong answer. I said I hug my dog and she hugs me back, but I suppose I should have picked that I hug everyone's dog. :D :love:

August 25th, 2006, 12:07 AM
"Why would you hug a dog?" And the answer to that would be, "Why the heck wouldn't you hug a dog?!?!" :shrug: :confused:

August 25th, 2006, 12:08 AM
lol THAT was my answer, exactly! lol That's so funny.

August 25th, 2006, 01:14 AM
I've always hugged dogs-mine and anyone else's (if the dog leaned into me and seemed OK with it!). I had no idea there was another school of thought.

Both puppies lean in and ask for hugs, or put their head on your knee and look up at you. Fingal gets up and puts his paws on my shoulders and his head under my chin if I'm sitting on the footstool, which is low enough for him to do that. Or he lays his head on my chest and looks up at me. How could I ever resist that kind of cuteness?

I hug the cat, too, but she's not so much for being held. :o She will hold your hand while she's sleeping, though. It's very comforting!

jesse's mommy
August 25th, 2006, 05:44 AM
Hugs, kisses, loves, cuddles -- anything Jesse wants, Jesse gets. :D I even give her raspberries on her tummy. :)

Golden Girls
August 25th, 2006, 07:13 AM
Absolutely 1,2,3,4+5 :)
My doggies even do a group hug. You grab one dog and then say "group!" and the other dog comes and joins in. :love:LOL - that's so funny! I don't have to say "group" I can't even sneak a kiss, hug or even look at one without the other one running for her share :cloud9:

They'll also put their head on my lap :love: but only when they've been really neglected, deprived and starved for affection :D

August 25th, 2006, 07:37 AM
Everyday I hug Hunter, and he gets a kiss everytime I go out and he doesn't get to come along, which is usually work, or bowling :o

August 25th, 2006, 07:55 AM
Tron gets hugged every single day...And also from my daughter.And he loves it.When you hug him,he rests his head right on your shoulder...And he must love it,he comes back for more....:D

And when you are laying on the couch,he will jump up and lay right on top of you and snuggle and lay his head on your chest...He is such a suckie boy..:D

August 25th, 2006, 08:07 AM
Yes!! And I kiss her, especially in the car when we're stopped at a red light :p

I'm the same way with Peaches, since she tries to sit on the arm rest (Simon just lays in his spot on the back seat). She also will stick her head out the sunroof when we're stopped, if it's open of course! But yes, I hug my dogs multiple times a day, and they do hug me back, and ALWAYS when I'm having an off one!

Dog Mom
August 25th, 2006, 08:28 AM
My dogs know when I say "momma needs love" that I need a hug!:o I give all 5 a hug and a kiss when i go to work in the morning!

August 25th, 2006, 09:01 AM

oh god yes, do i ever hug my beanies... and they hug back, with lots of slurpy kisses! hugs... it's a way of life :love:

August 25th, 2006, 09:45 AM
Aww techno you guys make such a cute couple :D

That is how Joey hugs too - but I am usually sitting on the floor or the couch cause hes a shorty. :D :dog:

August 25th, 2006, 10:12 AM
I hug my kitties, and give kisses.

If I had a dog I'd hug them too, and teach them how to hug back!

August 25th, 2006, 10:29 AM
I hug him

and I hug all my friends dogs too! This is jack

August 25th, 2006, 11:41 AM
Eskimos LOVE to hug and be hugged - but by their special people only - better be ready though with that goalie equipment - especially around eyes and lips - those toe nails - but wouldn't give up those hugs for anyone. Jack the Boxer looks very much like my guy's Boxer girlfriend. Her much older Boxer sister who died last year was very tolerant of my dog's hugs - she would actually cover her eyes when she saw him coming at a fast run - smart dog! And because he weighs ohly 21.5 lbs. (weighed yesterday - has lost the required 5 lbs. - I knew "he" could do it) he is much shorter than she was so he added an Eskie jump to the hug.

August 25th, 2006, 11:57 AM
Marie-eve- it's so funny how you look completely different in every pic you post. :D I love Buster's face though. He's lovin' the love!

I'm glad everybody hugs their dogs... In the "who shouldn't have a dog" thread I was feeling a little nuts for hugging my doggies.:o

August 25th, 2006, 11:59 AM
Jack the Boxer looks very much like my guy's Boxer girlfriend.

ooops, I guess my post wasn't claer :o the boxer is Buster (he's my little prince) Jack is the basset hound he's my friends dog)

August 25th, 2006, 12:01 PM
lol Buster's got a boyyyyfriend...:D

August 25th, 2006, 12:10 PM
Ebony never really liked to be hugged, so I didn't. She would come up and lean the top of her head against my knees whenever I got home, which I took to be a "doggy hug." ;)

Dog Dancer
August 25th, 2006, 02:21 PM
Shadow loves a hug, so long as you don't hold her feet when she puts them up on you. She hates having her feet held and will actually yelp (although it doesn't actually hurt, she just doesn't like it). But she will hug you back so long as you only hug her around the neck or shoulders - no touching feet. Halo prefers just a face snuggle to a full out hug. She seems to slide backwards when she gets up and it makes her nervous (we only have tile flooring). My girls love their snuggles and we love it back.

August 25th, 2006, 04:42 PM
I hugs my dogs all the time,and if one gets a kiss,I make sure the other two gets a kiss too,do not want anybody to feel left out! Funny how I don't even hug family members :shrug:

August 25th, 2006, 06:06 PM
With Callie there was absolutely no way she wanted hugs, I ended up with a black eye and fat lip and bloody nose from one hug.

Nikki is another that does not enjoy hugs to her they are intimidating, if I force on her it will just cause her to revert to submissive urinating

Sunny trolerates a hug but does not enjoy, so I do not do often and only very briefly.

Maya is the huggy girl she see this as part of playful behaviour unless she is at the time feeling stressed and worried about something else and then it is view more as an aggressive dominat behaviour, so with her timing is everything on when hugs are okay

A lot of dogs do not enjoy hugs and in my opinion it should be respected and unless you know a dog well you should not be hugging it, if a child or even an adult had walked up and hugged Callie it could have ended possibly in disaster with her going for someones face to defend herself as she was very fearful at one point of people, had some stranger decided to hug her as she was starting to learn to trust it would have been a long and devastating traumatic set back for her even if she did not bite. This is the main reason I avoid children with Maya, I have already spent 2 1/2 years trying to get her to the point of accepting a stranger touching her, one hug could scare her enough to wipe out all that training

In the case where a dog bites because they are uncomfortable or scared by hugs from strangers the matter could end up in court with a judge ordering the dog euthanized.

So please everyone here do not go walking up to strange dogs and go hugging them.

We, as primates, have arms with which to hug one another, and hugging is found in all primate species (ape, chimp, etc.) as an expression of love, endearment, support, or as a gesture of mutual fear or sadness. So humans naturally think of hugging as an expression of positive or supportive emotions.

Canines, on the other hand, being quadrupeds, do not have free "arms" and thus have evolved to have no understanding of a "hug." However, the closest gestures or body language that dogs have to a hug would be either mounting or placing a paw or head on top of another dog's neck or back. Aside from true sexual mounting, (which is indeed a rare occurrence with most dogs since, in America at least, most pet owners have their pets spayed or neutered, and even a fertile bitch's estrus occurs only two times a year), the great majority of mounting is dominance-seeking behavior. Placing a head or paws on top of another dog are also often assertions of dominance, which, if not accept submissively by the other dog, can turn into ritualized aggression. There are other common canine expressions of dominance that resemble aspects of a human hug, such as leaning, where an assertive or dominating dog will lean on another dog to make it move.

(An important and frequent exception to all of the above, however, is when dogs, especially puppies, are playing or play fighting. In these cases, the gestures still ultimately mean the same, but you can think of "playing" as being "rehearsal" or "pretend practice" for later when a dog may need to understand and use these communicative gestures in a real situation.)

The point that McConnell discusses very well and clearly in her new book is that to a dog, a hug (arm OVER its back or neck, leaning on it, confining it, etc.) most closely resembles several gestures of dominance. So we might expect that a dog that is not used to being hugged, or a dog who gets a hug from a stranger (or from a child who may take it a bit too far) might interpret the gesture as one of dominance or aggression and react accordingly.

As Jerri mentioned, there is also the "leaning over" part, where when we come into close contact with a dog, or go to pet or feed it from a standing position, we tend to place part of our bodies over and above the dog's body, which again can be viewed as an attempt to dominate.

Here comes the HOWEVER.

Since dogs are amazingly adaptable and trainable creatures, once a dog trusts a human (or a well socialized dog trusts all or most humans in most situations), it may well allow and enjoy a hug or close body contact from a human--the same type of contact that coming from a rival dog would be a signal to prepare for fight or flight. So the behavioral analysis I described above does not mean that you should not hug your own dogs.

I like to think of it in this way: When I hug my dogs or grab them or pick them up, I am a play partner, just like another friendly dog or sibling would be. So, as in play fighting, my gestures are accepted as play and not as real dominance-seeking or as a prelude to aggression.

(I said, "I like to think of it in this way..." but from the dog's point of view, it may be more a matter of acquiescing and submitting to me, the "boss" or "alpha" of the household, and of the continued reinforcements that seduce the dog into compliance. Although less satisfying to my romantic human view of bonding with and being loved by my dog, this interpretation is more in line with a scientific analysis of the behavior, and simplifies the picture by making our human hugs--from the dog's point of view-- no different in essence than the analogous dog body language. Those who insist on viewing their dogs as furry humans may disregard the above and go on making believe--as I will!--that our dogs stand by us out of sheer love and loyalty.)

I can tell you, though, that most of my five dogs, who I regard as thoroughly civil and well-trained, will show signs of discomfort and anxiety if I throw an arm around them and hug them--without letting go--for more than a few seconds. All animals have a "safety zone" or "social distance" which they normally require and demand. (Imagine your boss at work giving you instructions while standing an inch away from your body with his mouth only inches from yours.) Dogs need this same courtesy of social distance, but we humans often intrude into the dog's zone of safety without a thought. Have you ever tried lying close to your dog on the floor or in bed and had it push against you with its paws and straighten its legs? I think you are seeing in this action an automatic reflex that is the dog's attempt to regain some space.

I believe that allowing close "affectionate" human contact is an adaptation that the domesticated dog has made over the thousands of years of its evolution with humankind, and my best guess is that it is "a work in progress" and a behavior that many breeds and many individual dogs are still not 100% comfortable with.

So my list of Hugging Rules goes like this:

Never try to hug or make close contact with a strange dog or one that is not fully accepting and trusting of you. Be particularly aware of the propensity of young children to hug "any" dog. (It is no coincidence that the majority of dog bites reported involve a child!)
With newly made canine friends, avoid petting on the back and neck and head, as so many humans seem to like to do, and start by petting them on their chest, their bellies, or under their chins, as awkward as this may seem from a human point of view.
Even with your own dogs that are accepting of close human contact, limit your "hugging" to what your dog will tolerate, and always look for the subtle signals that the "love of your life" may be getting a bit uncomfortable... and respect the dog's "space" by being satisfied with a shorter hug or by letting the dog take the lead in initiating and controlling the nature and length of the contact.
Most importantly, for all dogs, realize that their toleration for hugging and the social distance they require changes from moment to moment, situation to situation. A dog that may enjoy a ten second squeeze at one time may react with extreme agitation after a two second hug at a different time.
Eve is quite cuddly... She likes to spoon in bed with us at bedtime and she initiates petting and cuddling sessions by poking her nose under my hand and/or arm. She's a big leaner. As cute and soft as she is, it would be rather tragic if she didn't enjoy huggles.

I am sure Eve thoroughly enjoys huggles, and I don't think your experience with her is contradictory to what I last posted. As I said, if the dog trusts you and you respect the dog's willingness to participate and initiate affectionate contact, hugs work fine for both of you.

August 25th, 2006, 06:14 PM
Rocky has learned a "command" for lack of a better word, when I say hug and open my arms he bows his head into my chest and I hug him and pat him, hes so angelic when he does that:cloud9:

jesse's mommy
August 25th, 2006, 08:05 PM
If I say the word hug, Jesse climbs into Daddy's lap and wraps her paws around his neck, rests her head on his shoulder, then sits up and starts kissing her daddy all over his face. :D

August 28th, 2006, 12:23 PM folks are so sweet ~ it's no wonder you all have such wonderful dawgies and kitties. If my raggamuffins weren't having their midday snooze I'd hug 'em all. It's funny how they can be so different though. Ceili doesn't miss an opportunity to give a face full of sloppy but I think I've only ever had one kiss from Bridie. She'll kiss other people ~ specially her two-legged cousin Sarah or her four-legged boyfriend Riley but not her ol' Mum. Declan likes kisses on the top of his nose but doesn't kiss back. Loves sideways hugs and is a major cuddlemonster in bed. He has recently learned how to do Ceili's "Love My Tummy Mummy" tickle roll. It's funny Ceili taught Bridie that one too !!

August 28th, 2006, 01:30 PM
Yeah, Boo kisses men, usually on the ears, but Jemma never licks.:shrug: I'm afraid of saliva, so it all works out for me.:cool:

August 28th, 2006, 06:28 PM
She's my daughter, why wouldn't I give her hugs? She gets kisses too. Oh, and she sleeps on my bed and flops across my lap. Also, she hugs back and kisses back too. :love:

August 28th, 2006, 06:44 PM
I'm afraid of saliva, so it all works out for me.:cool:

Uhhhhmmmmm...two dawgs and a man...and no saliva? I'm not even gonna ask how that works but, it'll be air kisses all the way at the next Quebec hoedown we promise.

August 28th, 2006, 07:00 PM
Lex ALWAYS wants to be hugged :crazy: He sits on me on a small chair (he's 80 pounds of muscles!!!!!:eek: ) and put his head in my neck, pushing hard! He doesnt get stand up hugs, because he actually makes me fall on my..hum..behind! :o Since I sleep alone and my boygfriend will never come back, he is now allowed to sleep in bed with me and to cuddle like crazy!

He would put his "arm" around my shoulder and his head in my hair, all softly (well, as softly as it can be with him :o )

I love him, hehe!!! Can't stop lovin' him, now it's MY dog, since my boyfriend don't give a sh*** about us anymore! He's sweeter than ever (Lex!!!!)


August 28th, 2006, 08:00 PM
Uhhhhmmmmm...two dawgs and a man...and no saliva? I'm not even gonna ask how that works but, it'll be air kisses all the way at the next Quebec hoedown we promise.Ok, I should clarify. It's COLD saliva that freaks me out... **shudder** A lick from the doggies every now and then doesn't bug me but I have to dry it off before the air hits it...

Angies Man
August 30th, 2006, 11:31 AM
Sure I hug my dog, she sits on the floor and I bend over and put my arms around her, pet her, and talk softly. Very calming for both of us. Hug my brothers GSD, too, she rather likes it. Never understood kissing a pet, tho.

Angie loves to plant wet ones on the nose, btw. :eek: Especially she can catch me asleep.