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Easter Rant -- Lazy Relatives, Ugh!!!

jesse's mommy
April 16th, 2006, 04:08 PM
So it's Easter and I'm cooking dinner. The way it's always been with my family is that we have big dinners on holidays and don't go out to eat. It's one of the few times a year where we can get together as a family and enjoy time together.

Well I cooked dinner -- basically a Thanksgiving dinner on Easter (we don't eat ham). So I have turkey, mashed potatoes, green beans, corn, stuffing, gravy, apple pie, rolls, etc. I cooked everything from start to finish by myself (Honey basted the turkey a few times for me). His parents get here an hour before they were supposed to be here so I had to rush the rest of the food. Kind of got me annoyed. If I say three, I mean three, I don't mean two!!! So they plop their fat butts on the sofa and the recliner.

Honey sees I'm a little preturbed and is just occupying them so I don't have to talk to them (he saw the look and reacted right away, I love that we connect that way). So I took the turkey out of the pan myself and put it on the serving dish. I go into the dining room and start bringing out the bowls and stuff like that to fill up with food (I preset the table to make sure everything would fit -- I seriously had a plan). They didn't bother to ask if I needed help bringing the dishes to fill up or bring them back in the dining room -- they just sat there. Jim helped me fill up the food in the bowls and carved the turkey. We sit down to eat and everything is fine, but I'm annoyed in the back of my mind so I'm just keeping as quiet as possible so nothing slips out of my mouth.

We finish dinner and they just sit there. THEY DIDN'T EVEN CLEAR THEIR PLATES, THEY JUST LEFT THEM ON THE TABLE!!! Honey and I cleared everything and brought them into the kitchen. We brought the apple pie in and we all ate dessert and they got up and went back to our sofa and recliner and LEFT THEIR PLATES AGAIN!!! So Jim offers to help me clean, but I tell him no because I want to be away from them as much as possible. So I clean everything up. The entire kitchen, all the dishes, all the pots and pans -- EVERYTHING BY MYSELF!!! His parents are still here sitting on their fat butts. His mom is on the recliner with it leaned back, she took her shoes off and has no socks on, but is rubbing her nasty feet on my recliner. I find this rude. I'm exhausted and they are just sitting here watching slot machine videos.

Now I know I can't compare families, but my family is so much different. Everyone chips in to help serve the meal and everyone helps clear, everyone helps clean, then we sit down for dessert and everyone cleans up the last of the dishes. His parents are the laziest people in the world. It bugs the ***** out of me. They expect us to do everything for them. They are lazy, they are dirty (don't get me started on the month I had to live with them before we moved here), and they are annoying as h*ll. And they don't drink so we can't drink in front of them and I can't even relax with a beer!!!! I want them to leave so bad.

Any suggestions on getting rid of your inlaws on a holiday after they've overstayed their welcome?

badger
April 16th, 2006, 04:17 PM
Oh, man, that is not a pretty picture you just painted. Maybe you could tell them you have plans, and then get out the car keys? It's a bit early for jammies.
What are slot machine videos?

jesse's mommy
April 16th, 2006, 04:19 PM
The slot machine videos they are watching is the "ins and outs" of the game. Basically a tutorial on how to beat the casino. Trust me it's not interesting at all. I seriously want them out of my house!!!

rainbow
April 16th, 2006, 05:41 PM
If I were you, I`d sit down and have a beer to relax....YOU deserve it!!! :thumbs up

And, as a side note, I`m having company like that next month that I know will be here for two weeks:eek: I`m definitely not looking forward to it:yuck:

Frenchy
April 16th, 2006, 05:51 PM
Get a beer,a good book and lock yourself in the bathroom,if they ask what you are doing there,tell them you have explosive diaria :eek: and need to be alone,that might get them out of the house,if not at least you can enjoy the beer and the book!Next time you go to their house,do the same,just sit and watch them serve you!:D

jesse's mommy
April 16th, 2006, 05:58 PM
You see I don't go to their house for more than five minutes -- it's very dirty. I seriously almost had a nervous breakdown when I had to stay there for the month before we moved here. It's really disgusting. I don't know how people can live like that. Yuck!

Anyway, they finally left. I'm in my jammies and I've already had two frosty cold beverages and looking forward to many more. :D

jesse's mommy
April 16th, 2006, 06:32 PM
OMG, how can I forget the worse part of this??? I'm such a bad mommy for forgetting! His mother hates animals. She actually said when she first got here "get that thing away from me" about Jesse. She also said to Honey's dad who was playing with her "Stop doing what you are doing. I don't want to have to take you to the hospital" and Jesse was actually playing nice and not being over-excited. And the other rude thing she said to Honey's dad right before we were going to eat "Make sure you wash your hands before you eat since you were touching that thing". I definitely think these comments added to my mood today. Honey and I had a talk about this after they left because he was p*ssed too. Next time she makes a comment he's going to make a comment about her stanky *ss feet on our furniture. I'm so glad he is right here with me and I'm not just being neurotic. I called my mom and all she could say was "Bite your tongue dear. Be happy you don't have to see them everyday." She also said "You know we love Jesse like she was ours and she can sit on our laps while we eat if she wants to". I just think it's so rude to come into someone else's home and make comments like this. I don't care if it's Jim's parents or not. They should have some respect for us.

BoxerRescueMTL
April 16th, 2006, 06:42 PM
Two words for you: gin tonic. Looks like water ;)

joeysmama
April 16th, 2006, 07:31 PM
I feel your pain. The last time I saw my mother in law was father's day last year. And I'm still ticked over her antics that day. :mad: My poor husband wants so badly for his mother to show any interest at all in him, or his children, or anything at all about his life. We practically have to beg her to come here, and then we have to pick her up, cater to her as though she were a rare gem and she brings her laundry as well so that I can wash, dry and fold it before she's ready to leave. And she's EXTREMELY rude to me while she's here.

And forget him going there. He tried that and she doesn't answer the door. If he's very persistent (knocking on windows etc.) she'll open the door and stand and talk to him for a minute. She'll take what he brings her. He knows she loves tomatoes and he brought her some beautiful home grown tomatoes and she took them and practically pushed him out the door. He said "Sit down, I wanted to stay and visit." She told him no, she was going to take a nap.

Sorry--I hi-jacked your rant.;) But the in-law issue is a real hot button for me. For the longest time I wanted to like her because she's his mother but I have really had it.

I think if they are that rude you shouldn't fuss for them. Or you should say right out "I'm going to need some help with these dishes." At least your husband is aware of the situation and is understanding. It's good to have an ally.

jesse's mommy
April 16th, 2006, 07:34 PM
Sorry--I hi-jacked your rant.;) But the in-law issue is a real hot button for me. For the longest time I wanted to like her because she's his mother but I have really had it.


Hijack all you want! I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who is going through this! I love to hear how others handle this.

Prin
April 16th, 2006, 10:12 PM
For once, I don't have a rant to follow... Sorry for the stinky dead fish in your house.:( I'll have s'more chocolate for you (I'll take the fatty hit).

sealady
April 16th, 2006, 10:29 PM
Your home, your pet, your life.
Have a drink, next time have a serve yourself table set up.
At least they will have to get their own food.
I have searched and can't find it but there's a saying about your pet living here, it's his home and if you don't like it, leave.
It's over now relax. and remember your not alone.
My MIL went with us on vacation once.
I always stop at this one store on the way home to do have a look around while hubby lets the dogs out to go potty.
the night before we were to leave she said your not stopping at the store tomorrow, I thinking she was joking smiled and said yes we are the dogs need a break about that time.
She stood in front of me and yelled I said your not stopping, Well excuse me but no one yells at me, I said yes we are and that's it.
She threw water all over our dinner and then went out on the deck and started yelling how mean we were to her.
Everyone on the beach heard her, boy was that a long ride home, "after we stopped at my store"
SeaLady

Melei'sMom
April 16th, 2006, 10:33 PM
I have a few people who drive me around the bend. One is my MIL as well. She even refused to go to our wedding and gave the family the ultimatium that if they attended they were not welcome in house again. (we eloped cause of her) Well I put up with her **** for quite a few years until I told my hubby that I was not willing to visit her house again and he went over and had a 'chat' with her. we can now be together at times but we are still not left unattended in a room cause now when she starts in on me I don't take it, I fight back. we don't do holidays with her by my hubby's choice cause if I start fighting back, she turns on him. lovely woman she is:evil:

But the part of my 'family' that really gets to me is my ex! for the sake of the children, we have Holiday diners as one big happy family. We were supposed to take turns, and I did it the first year then he and his gf did it the next. What an awful experience! she can not cook! My Mom refuses to eat her cooking again. the turkey was overdone and she nuked no-name veggies for Christmas dinner! So now for the last too many years, I have done all the cooking and she (ex's gf) even brings her MOM...and no one has ever asked if it is ok. the ex, his gf and both of their moms show up about 1/2 hour before supper, eat, and are gone again before the dishes hit the sink. and here are me and my mom doing all the clean up every year. This was the last time! after they left, we decided to tell them we are busy for Thanksgiving and Mom and us are going away for Christmas. Went online after supper tonite and booked a trip. maybe we will tell them, or maybe just let them show up and find the house dark lol :D

so, did I win the sucky relatives contest?!
JK yours are awful too, and it doesn't matter how bad mine are, it doesn't make yours any easier.

oh, and if you buy a dark colored glass, they can't see the beer ;)

Prin
April 16th, 2006, 10:49 PM
Wow, that sucks.:eek:

jesse's mommy
April 17th, 2006, 05:16 AM
For once, I don't have a rant to follow... Sorry for the stinky dead fish in your house.:( I'll have s'more chocolate for you (I'll take the fatty hit).

I'm lost. :o What stinky dead fish? What fatty hit? I'm completely lost here. Help!

joeysmama
April 17th, 2006, 10:43 AM
I think stinky fish refers to unwanted relatives. You know that old saying, Company is like fish, it starts to stink after 3 days. Well some people start to stink after 3 hours.

OKay, if we're having a sucky in-laws contest I want in. I've got a shot at taking home the gold.;)

A couple years ago my MIL told me she needed a ride to her doctor's appt. This was when she was recovering from having let her muscles atrophy by doing nothing but sit around for a couple years. Actually had to spend a month in rehab--the lazy bum.

So she tells me that her doctor's office is near Dover General. That's on a local road. And a major pain in the neck because it has a hundred traffic lights and this was during the after school hours when you have to stop for the school buses every few miles. (She wouldn't make an appt before the late afternoon because she likes to sleep until noon, at least. Apparently she likes late night radio shows and heaven forbid she adjust her schedule to accomodate someone who is doing her a favor.)

So we get to Dover General and I ask her to tell me which street to turn on to get to the doctor. She says keep going, keep going. Soon we're in the next town. It turns out it's not near Dover General at all but near St. Clares which is right at the exit off of route 80 which is a dream at that time of day--no lights and it's not rush hour on an interstate at that time the way it is on a local road.

So I said, why did you tell me Dover? I could have taken 80 and it would have been so much easier. She said "Because I don't like route 80 and didn't want you to go that way."

A couple weeks later she needed a ride and when I went to pick her up she told me she wanted to go the Salvation Army to drop things off so we would have to go the local route again. I told her I thought we were pushing it time wise and I would take the things and drop them off myself another time.

I took 80 but she complained that I'd hurt her eyes from all the exhaust fumes on the highway. There was NO TRAFFIC, no fumes, believe me. Especially as compared to the other road where it's just starting and stopping the whole time.

I've got a million of 'em.

OK, one more! :crazy:

When I was in labor with my second child the phone rang and it was MIL. She was surprised to hear my husband was home. I told her he was there because I was in labor and we were leaving for the hospital. She didn't ask if there was anything she could do or if we had someone to watch the then 3 year old. Could she feed the cat, bring in the mail? Or even ask to be called when the baby came. NO, she had just cleaned out her downstairs and had a bunch of stuff to get rid of and thought I'd want them in case I had a garage sale. I told her that I wasn't planning to have any garage sales since I was about to have an infant in the house. Mind you I was 9 months pregnant and she didn't know my husband was home. She was looking for ME to come and move her crap. (And it was all crap)

Now I'm pausing through this conversation to pant and to ask my husband if he had this and that. So she starts whining "Well I don't want this stuff. I've got 4 big bags here. What am I supposed to do with it?" As politely as I could I told her that we had NEVER asked her for her old stuff and certainly didn't need or want anything more stored in our house so maybe she could just put it out for the trash."

She started whining some more and I told her that I really did have to go as we were on our way TO THE HOSPITAL !!

She said, and I swear I am not making this up, "Well come here first and take this stuff out of here !" :eek: :eek: :eek:

There is just not an icon nasty enough to express my feelings on this.

Okay--so sorry. I feel like I'm playing "Can you top this?" LOL !! And I'm sorry that other people have this problem but it does make me feel a little better knowing I'm not alone !!!!

Prin
April 17th, 2006, 11:31 AM
I'm lost. :o What stinky dead fish? What fatty hit? I'm completely lost here. Help!
lol Joeysmama answered about the fish. "Company is like fish, it starts to stink after 3 days." But in your case, they're already stinky. :D

I said I would take the fatty hit because I figured if you could drown your sorrows in chocolate, you would, but then you have the consequences of the fat going straight to your hips, and I'm willing to take those consequences on my own hips.:o Is that better? Or have I just gone nuts?:crazy:

Rick C
April 17th, 2006, 12:17 PM
They were definitely rude to you jessesmommy.

Our relatives all helped clear the dishes and clean up. First class yesterday!!

On the other hand, I had to spend interminable hours listening to my brother-in-law describe various grades of wood and his brilliant ability to manipulate them into whatever shape he wants.

So, what's worse . . . . a rude relative or a bore-you-to-tears one?

Rick C
www.goldentales.ca

mummummum
April 17th, 2006, 01:41 PM
You know - sometimes I come on to pet.ca for the education - sometimes for some empathy and sometimes just for the laffs! What horrid psycho-hosebeasts you all have for monster-in-laws!!!! Makes me appreciate my little family all the more. If I had your relatives I would be "Gone Fishing" each and every holiday family dinner without a second's thought. I figure after a certain age my obligation to spend time with people I loathe because it's "normal" or "they're family" or "it wouldn't look right" has been PAID IN FULL. Life is way too short and much too hard work - I want to spend my time with people I love, who love me. People whose company I enjoy and am enriched by (acknowledging Rick's "pain": sometimes they have truly zzzzzzz-inducing SO's who must be endured). Wow- kudo's to all of you with monster-in-law's who are not currently serving time for Murder with Intent.

Writing4Fun
April 17th, 2006, 01:53 PM
So, what's worse . . . . a rude relative or a bore-you-to-tears one?] Rude is worse. Definitely! Won't chime in with my stories because my mother always told me never to speak ill of the dead. But I can wholeheartedly empathise with you all. Jesse's Mommy, next time they come over for dinner, here's what you do: Invite Jesse up onto the sofa with you for a cuddle, crack open a cold one, put up your feet, look over at the in-laws and say, "The rule in this house is whoever cooks doesn't clean up. I cooked, so you need to get cracking. The dishes need to be rinsed thoroughly before you put them in the dishwasher. Stemware is washed by hand. Dish towels are in the bottom drawer. Thanks a bunch!" The fact that they don't drink should never stop you from indulging if you so desire. They don't have to offer you a drink in their home. But this is your house. You should be allowed to get fall-down drunk if that's what you want to do! ;)

meb999
April 17th, 2006, 02:27 PM
We practically have to beg her to come here, and then we have to pick her up, cater to her as though she were a rare gem and she brings her laundry as well so that I can wash, dry and fold it before she's ready to leave. And she's EXTREMELY rude to me while she's here.


WHAT??? :eek:
I can barely stand doing my own laudry...but doing my MIL??? Now that's my idea of Hell !!!

chico2
April 17th, 2006, 04:03 PM
I have a few rules for anyone coming to my house..
I like beer and I'll drink it..it's MY house,you don't like it,don't come!!
I have 3 cats,you don't like cats..stay away!!
Since I smoke,I will go outside if someone does not like it,but that is the only thing I will do!
MIL,FIL or anybody coming to MY house,will have to put up with what MY house is all about,if they don't like MY house and the way I run it,it will be their loss!!

Joey.E.CockersMommy
April 17th, 2006, 04:08 PM
I am sorry Jesses Mommy - next time say its pot luck and they can bring all the food and they have a lot of nerve being mean to Jesse - that would really send me too.

I too had an annoying Easter dinner - My hubby thinks of it like any other day so to him it doesnt matter what we have - but to me it does. I didnt get very fancy like you did - but was planning a nice dinner for us. I asked my hubby what he wanted and he says he doesnt care. So I went out and got a ham, potatoes - stuff to make a ceasar salad with - some ice cream and an apple pie (the ones I make arent as good as the store bought ones :o ) Oh and I also cleaned the house from top to bottom yesterday too.

So I get home from shopping and I am feeling really beat - so I ask my hubby to help me and he just flat out says no - you got a lot of nerve to ask. I dont ask you to help - which is totally not true - he asked me to make half the dinner the other day - then insisted that I make gravy too even after everyone was already sitting down. So now I am pissed as I would have helped him - but he doesnt see it that way - whoever buys the food should cook all the dinner - and seeing as its not what he wanted why should be help. :evil:

So I make the dinner and don't say one word to him cause I am really mad. Also I made Bernaise sauce for the ham - and he puts mustard on his ham doesnt even look at the sauce. Then we had the salad I bought some grape tomatoes for the salad - and he makes a stupid comet like what are these jelly beans :evil: so everyone leaves the tomatoes on the side of their plate like their posion. So we finish dinner and then I get the dessert ready. Basically take the pie out of the oven - the kids complain they dont like pie so they just have ice cream. I tell hubby there is pie and ask him if he wants any. He doesnt reply but promptly falls asleep on the floor in our bedroom. So I go downstairs to watch tv none of the dishes are done - but thats fine I dont care I refuse to do them. I take Joey for a walk with no intentions of the doing the dishes. I threw the pie in the garbage as no - one said they wanted it - and I wasnt in a good mood to eat.

So I put the kids to bed - then watch tv until 11 while hubby sleeps (how convenient) I really felt like smoking and having a drink last night but didnt do either. :D All we had in the house was champagne - but thats not something you drink by yourself although I came pretty close. :D

So just before 11 hubby calls down the stairs - "arent you gonna clean up" to which I replied "No" and kept watching tv. So then he does the dishes and doesnt say anything - he must of gotten the hint - because he would usually complain if I left them.

So tonight I refuse to cook dinner and I refuse to help too. :evil: :D

Joey.E.CockersMommy
April 17th, 2006, 04:40 PM
Okay I have an MIL one - she did pass away a few years ago but she did spend some time driving me crazy - So forgive me God for speaking ill of her behind it all she really meant well I am sure.

she was alway making comments towards me - which personally I considered rude - and was always telling me I raising my kids wrong. Here are just a few comments that I had to endure from here.

MIL "Are you pregnant "
ME "No"
MIL "Well you sure look it - when you are gonna have another one anyways"

In a restraunt with my oldest son - who is a week old- we are having a dinner in his honour and we are in a busy chinese restraunt (hubbys family is chinese) I am descretely in corner getting ready to breastfeed my son.

MIL comes up to me "Your not planning to do that here are you"
ME "And where should I do this"
MIL In the bathroom I think you might offend people (the bathroom in the restraunt is filthy dirty)
ME "No I am fine right here thanks"

MIl -"How come your sons not walking yet" (hes fourteen months)
ME " I am not sure - he will when hes ready
MIL "Its because you put his diapers on to tight"

MIL -"How long are you planning to breastfeed for"
ME " I dont know maybe a year"
MIL "You need to stop at six months its not good for them after that"

MIL " you know your neglecting your son you shouldnt really get babysitters all the time - your son needs you" my son is now 6 months old and its the first time we have left him ever - and we are going out for one hour.

MIL " Why isnt your son toilet trained" he is 18 month old
ME " I havent actually started yet"
MIL "Well my kids were all trained by the time they were 10 months old, he should be trained already"

So I have my second son - and my hubby informs my that his MOM is coming and she is planning to stay for a month just to help out. Please I beg just a week - but he is too scared to tell her so she stays a month.

So she is here and driving me crazy - she makes me take her out for lunch to chinese buffet - I suggest we stay in as my son is colicky and has the most blood curdling cry - its to stressful for me to eat out - but she insists - so my son is screaming I take him outside while, her and my other son eat by themselves inside she eats by herself inside, and doesnt offer to take the baby either so I can eat - and its a buffet so we arent allowed to take home leftovers so basically I dont get to eat, but then she comments "gee to bad you couldnt eat". Then we have to go to the mall so she can buy some buns too. Then we get home and she discovers they are the wrong kind of buns and insists that I drive her all the way back to the mall so she can get the right buns that cost her 1.69 or something. I tell her I will buy her the right buns tommorow but no we have to go back right of way.

So she is here for newyears 2001 and I am about to have one glass of champagne - and she starts commenting should you be doing that - your son is going to get brain damage - to which I reply I am only having one my doctor says its okay and I dont care if you dont like it - she is getting on my nerves big time now.

So thats my MIL rant - may she rest in peace now I have my own mother to drive me crazy - but I thinks she drives my hubby crazy as shes his MIL.

joeysmama
April 17th, 2006, 05:55 PM
Oh JECM--where to begin?

"Its because you put his diapers on to tight"
What a ridiculous comment ! I got similar comments on my parenting. This from people whose own children have said that they were abused and neglected.

"Well my kids were all trained by the time they were 10 months old, he should be trained already"
No they weren't. She was !!

so basically I dont get to eat, but then she comments "gee to bad you couldnt eat". Then we have to go to the mall so she can buy some buns too. Then we get home and she discovers they are the wrong kind of buns and insists that I drive her all the way back to the mall so she can get the right buns that cost her 1.69 or something. I tell her I will buy her the right buns tommorow but no we have to go back right of way.
Don't you wish you could have a do-over on that day? I bet you wouldn't leave the house if you could live that one over.

Mine wanted me to take her to the mall one night and had to leave THIS INSTANT. Even though it was my son's dinner time. So I take her, planning to get him something at the mall. I think I'm being a good daughter in law, being flexible like that. We get there, she buys what she wanted and I tell her that my son has been so good for a little boy who is past his dinner hour and she sees that I intend to take time to feed him. So she announces, DEMANDS, that we go home right away because she can't miss Wheel of Fortune and the Lottery numbers !!

By the time I got home with a cranky tired hungry two year old I wasn't sure if I was more angry with her or with myself. I wish I had a do-over on THAT one because I would have been a crummy daughter in law but a much better mommy ! I think I'm still mad at myself for that day.

jesse's mommy
April 17th, 2006, 09:58 PM
Jesse's Mommy, next time they come over for dinner, here's what you do: Invite Jesse up onto the sofa with you for a cuddle, crack open a cold one, put up your feet, look over at the in-laws and say, "The rule in this house is whoever cooks doesn't clean up. I cooked, so you need to get cracking. The dishes need to be rinsed thoroughly before you put them in the dishwasher. Stemware is washed by hand. Dish towels are in the bottom drawer. Thanks a bunch!" The fact that they don't drink should never stop you from indulging if you so desire. They don't have to offer you a drink in their home. But this is your house. You should be allowed to get fall-down drunk if that's what you want to do! ;)

This totally made me laugh out loud. I think this is a good rule of thumb and I'm going to make this a rule in the house. I wonder what Jim will say. He'll probably laugh and say something like "I guess it'll be paper plates and KFC every holiday". I know him too well!!!

I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. Believe it or not, everyone's misery has made me feel a little better -- wait that didn't come out the way I wanted it to sound, but you know what I mean right? It's nice to know that I'm not being neurotic and imagining things, in-laws are just buttheads!

joeysmama
April 17th, 2006, 10:04 PM
No, Jesse's mommy--it's not you. It's them. But I don't think you should have a drink after they get there. I think you should get completely tanked BEFORE they show up !!:crazy:

Joey.E.CockersMommy
April 17th, 2006, 10:12 PM
yes MIL but I have to admit I have had more than a few with own mom-

Her and my sister decided to come up the day my youngest was born. I arrived home from the hospital 12 hours after I had him. So her and my sister arrive around 3 in the afternoon - expecting me to still be in the hospital. So my sister helps out - and me and my mom basically visit.

So the nexts day me and my sister are exhausted because the baby is up all night and will not sleep unless I feed him - and he hates the soother. So my mom sits down on the couch and announces

"its three oclock and at three I have my tea - so I would like my tea served to me now."

okay well there is the kettle and you know where the tea bags are -

when we were still living in Vancouver right next door to my parents - my mom believed I was spoiling my kids and shouldnt pick them up if they cry - she herself had eight kids so I guess this how she managed. She even said she had some contraption for us the we wore around our heads and it held our bottles in place and she could just leave us. I didnt like leaving my son with her because I know she would just leave him for hours - which she did one time - its one thing to let him cry - but she would let him get hysterical - I came home from work one day and found my son screaming he had actually thrown up on himself. I soon got a real baby sitter and made sure I was there so we could all visit together.

Another thing she did with us is give us cows milk since day one - I told her specifically not to do that with my son - but I go pick him up and what is she giving him cows milk, hes like a month old - breast milk looks a lot different.

The latest was visiting Vancouver and my kids are older now so I figure not too much damage can be done. So my youngest son is sort of shy and doesnt like being left with strangers - he doenst know my mom very well as he doesnt see her to much. So we say goodbye and say we will back in one hour and Nana and Diggy will look at after you. So we get back and ask how the kids are- oh they are fine - My oldest is fine he is watching their big projection tv downstairs - but my youngest is upstairs - he has fallen asleep and hes obviously been crying because his pillow is totally wet - and hes also peed himself and is soaking wet. :evil:

So now our babysitters are paid baby sitters that have taken the baby sitter course. Maybe our MILS and M's should take the baby sitting course.

Did I thread Jack its still about MILS they must know that once they are put on the planet to drive us crazy. I wonder what kind of MIL I'll be. :D

Prin
April 18th, 2006, 12:26 AM
Oh back in the day, some parents were pretty barbaric, IMO..

For the contraption to hold the bottle onto the baby's head- my mom used to prop us up with the bottle; she NEVER held us for feeding. The end result: we ALL have eating disorders, and unbelievably sensitive skin (from not being touched enough). It sucks.

They did studies with rats like that, and the ones that weren't touched but were given all the other necessities DIED. They DIED- can you believe that? So ya, friggen hold your babies.:D

But you guys are making me feel better about my MIL... I posted before about the time she not only didn't come to our housewarming (her son's first home), she threw her own party and hijacked the family so they didn't come either. :rolleyes: And she used to call me "temporary girlfriend" (probably still does). She hasn't ever stepped foot in our house (it's been almost a year). I guess it could be the other way around- she might be here all the time... :eek: :eek:

Bushfire2000
April 18th, 2006, 09:24 AM
I have an easter confession to make others feel better. My dishes are still not done!! The horror of it all.

O.K. this is what you should do.
Paper plates, plastic utensils, plastic cups.
Take out food. Or better yet get the in-laws to pick it up on the way over.
Cover the furniture with sheets (for those nasty feet).
And even suggest eating outside.

For gross out factor- if you use real plates hold them out at the table for Jesse to "clean" with his tounge. If that dosen't get you offers to help clean up nothing will.

joeysmama
April 18th, 2006, 09:32 AM
I guess it could be the other way around- she might be here all the time...

This is very true ! As much as I hate the way it hurts my husband I have to admit to being pretty happy that I don't have to see her often!

HunterXHunter
April 18th, 2006, 11:18 AM
The slot machine videos they are watching is the "ins and outs" of the game. Basically a tutorial on how to beat the casino. Trust me it's not interesting at all. I seriously want them out of my house!!!

Tutorial on slots? It's a game purely based on luck and requires no tactics/thinking whatsoever. It's just "insert, pull, insert, pull, bell rings (yay!)"*

I think they were learn more from "Rock-Scissors-Paper for Dummies" (no, that book doesn't exist) :rolleyes:




*repeat until broke

HunterXHunter
April 18th, 2006, 11:33 AM
Two words for you: gin tonic. Looks like water ;)

Better would be "Shooting for the Stars" (at least...I *think* that's what it's called) which contains: vodka, gin, tequila, sake, triple sec, vermouth, and rum (the clear/white one). Because their densities are different, they become "layered" if you pour them in a tall glass. If this doesn't spell alcohol poisoning, I don't know what does....:evil:

*WARNING* please do not try this at home



EDIT: oops, I forgot that your in-laws don't drink...but if they did...

Bearsmom
April 18th, 2006, 01:50 PM
My MIL used to be a saint, and now drives me absolutely crazy. This year, we decided to combine Robbie's 3rd birthday party with an Easter Saturday dinner in order to get most of the family together. I tell my in laws to show up around 2pm (by then, Robbie's in deep sleep and won't wake up with visitors), and plus, that will give me a bit of time to get the meal set up.

Here goes:
*they show up at 8 am. That's right, 8 AM. We weren't even out of bed yet.

*they demand to be fed breakfast. Well, breakfast didn't get served till 10am; when breakfast is served, they proceed to critique everything I served (at this point I'm beginning a slow boil, and thinking they're lucky they didn't get Bear and Kaos' food!)

*after breakfast they ask what's for lunch, plop themselves in the living room and complain they're BORED.

*demand the dogs stay outside all day "because they smell". EX FREAKING SCUSE ME, THEY"RE DOGS. I told them the dogs live there, they don't.

*After I serve them lunch, they all proceed to pile into my kitchen and demand to know what I'm serving for dinner, did I get the cake yet, can they see it, do we have any beer/wine/assorted freakin cocktails. Now my kitchen is so small you cannot open the fridge and cupboard doors at the same time, and I'm now dealing with 6 in laws in my kitchen. At this point I BLOW my STACK and tell them I'M GOING OUT, so off I went to the grocery store, along with everyone else in the Orangeville populace.

*I get back from the grocery store, lug groceries in while they stand in the garage WATCHING ME. Then they all dive into the beer/wine/assorted friggin cocktails. Robbie is now down for his nap, and they proceed to get louder and louder. I ask them to keep it down, as if Robbie doesn't get his sleeps, he's a miserable dragon. One in law decides to go barrelling up to Bear, scares the bejeesus outta Bear as he was dead asleep, then gets both dogs roaring through the house. Needless to say with two large breed dogs, that's not so quiet at the best of times. Of course, Robbie wakes up. I'm lucky to get him back to sleep.

*Hubby comes home from work, I tell him his family needs entertaining, and do not bother me.

*my side of the family shows up at 4pm (like I asked them to). One inlaw loudly exclaims, "JEESUS, your mom's REALLY skinny", at which point my dad reels around and says with much gritted teeth, "that's because she has terminal cancer, we don't expect her to make it through the summer". In law doesn't even have the decency to look embarrassed.

*I finally get dinner together and everyone seated. The inlaws loud dinner conversation revolves around how they initially thought I was dating my husband because he had a Corvette (yeah, I owned a FIREFLY at the time, I'm so status-y); how chatty our son is (this after them bugging me at a year old that he wasn't "fully verbally developed yet" (hey folks, he's now 3 and hasn't shut up in 2 years); why isn't he toilet trained yet; how they're going to MISS my mother when she's gone; and oh, yeah, they're all staying the night. I told them we have ONE guest bed (a complete lie, but I'd kill myself if they all stayed) and the rest of them had to find somewhere else to stay.

Next year, no hosting holidays. Or the year after that, as a matter of fact. Or EVER.

Melei'sMom
April 18th, 2006, 01:56 PM
WOW!

No help cleaning cause they leave VS> no help with anything while they are all there and being pinheads?

You win Bear'sMom

And I am very sorry to hear about your mother. :grouphug: to you and your family in this very hard time.

Bearsmom
April 18th, 2006, 01:59 PM
Thanks, Melei's mom, that's very kind of you.

free
April 18th, 2006, 02:29 PM
i could write a very long book ranting about my inlaws with hubby agreeing with everything . one thing we must remember is that one day we will be the mil and hopefully we learn how to treat our kids and their mates.

jesse's mommy
April 18th, 2006, 03:25 PM
Bears Mom I definitely think you've got me beat.

I'm really sorry to hear about your mom.

chico2
April 18th, 2006, 03:47 PM
Bearsmom,I am so sorry about your mom,it must be very difficult and heartbreaking:sad:
I don't know if I was lucky or not,but we never had any in-laws,it was always only hubby,me and the kids..and whatever critters we had,since we moved halfway across the world to Canada:D
I think I am a good MIL,although none of my sons are still married,but they have girlfriends,if they confide in me about problems,I usually blame my sons:D

joeysmama
April 18th, 2006, 03:52 PM
[QUOTE][how they're going to MISS my mother when she's gone; /QUOTE]

I literally gasped out loud when I read that !! Really disturbing behavior. Did they say this in earshot of your mother? And have they no sense of decorum or sensitivity to your feelings? Last night my husband and I were talking about this thread (and his mother) and we were joking about how I have so many stories about her---but you are the hands down horrible in-law champion. This tops all of them.

I am so very sorry about your mother ! Your father showed great restraint and your in laws showed no compassion at all with their remarks.

I will keep you and your parents in my prayers.

Joey.E.CockersMommy
April 18th, 2006, 04:30 PM
Joeys momma = When I was in labor with my second child the phone rang and it was MIL. She was surprised to hear my husband was home. I told her he was there because I was in labor and we were leaving for the hospital. She didn't ask if there was anything she could do or if we had someone to watch the then 3 year old. Could she feed the cat, bring in the mail? Or even ask to be called when the baby came. NO, she had just cleaned out her downstairs and had a bunch of stuff to get rid of and thought I'd want them in case I had a garage sale. I told her that I wasn't planning to have any garage sales since I was about to have an infant in the house. Mind you I was 9 months pregnant and she didn't know my husband was home. She was looking for ME to come and move her crap. (And it was all crap)

Oh my unbeliavable - like I will be right over - dont mind me if a give birth while moving your crap

my MIL was nice enough to send me her clothes which I didnt want but she sent them anyways she is 4.11 and 90 pounds I am 5.8 and 140 cant figure out why I wouldnt want them. :D

Bearsmom
April 19th, 2006, 08:19 AM
Thanks to everyone with all your good wishes. We've had mom 6 years LONGER than they said she'd last, so we're very lucky, it's a matter of quality time, not quantity time. We just don't want her to suffer.

Yes, this stuff was said in front of my mom and dad. They've both got the patience of saints and the class of royalty.

The one thing I can't figure out is how they produced such a wonderful son....

Prin
April 19th, 2006, 11:08 AM
lol maybe he went the opposite direction? That happens sometimes.:)
I'm glad you got more time with your mom.:grouphug:

joeysmama
April 19th, 2006, 06:12 PM
They did studies with rats like that, and the ones that weren't touched but were given all the other necessities DIED. They DIED- can you believe that? So ya, friggen hold your babies.

When I was in college (education major) and later when my husband and I did volunteer work with a famly ministry we heard a lot of data related to this. Children develop a condition called "failure to thrive" which can result from a lack of love. They can have nourshment, toys, bathing, everything else, just as Prin says, but an unloved child will not be healthy. It breaks my heart to think that there are unloved children but there are.

Hold your babies to feed them and when they've finished hold them some more. And after they've gone to sleep hold them and kiss them and smell their sweet baby smell. :love:

Joey.E.CockersMommy
April 19th, 2006, 06:57 PM
Joeys momma

Hold your babies to feed them and when they've finished hold them some more. And after they've gone to sleep hold them and kiss them and smell their sweet baby smell.

My MIL and my mom used to tell me that I am spoiling my kids and I need to shut them in room and have a cup of tea. But I didnt listen being the defiant daughter in-law that I am.
I picked my kids up whenever they cried they both slept in our bed until they were three. My youngest cried constantly so he was either being breast fed - or was in a baby bjorn (carrier) 24/7 -and when I went to bed -he would nurse all night - or would fall asleep in my arms. It was hard on my back and I was pretty tired by both my kids are pretty happy and well adjusted. Even now my kids sleep together in big double bed - it just was supposed to be for a few nights - well that was a few years ago - they have their own bedrooms but hate being separated. I want to get them their own beds which I will do soon - but they can share a room as long as they want.

joeysmama
April 19th, 2006, 07:34 PM
JECM--you have beautiful boys, and a wonderful parenting philosophy! Good for you for following your heart instead of bad advice !!

Shaykeija
April 20th, 2006, 12:09 AM
Standing rules in my house. I cook, the women get the table ready and serve, eat beltch or fart( come one you know we all have one of those on the inlaw side of course :p ). Men do all the clean up...