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The important things . . . .

Rick C
February 14th, 2006, 10:10 AM
Thought folks would find this amusing to kick around, a story in the LA Times today showing the results of a survey where men and women tell us what's important in a significant other.

Men are from Mars, women are from Deloitte & Touche.

That seems to be the conclusion of a new survey just in time for Valentine's Day that found that men want a woman with a good sense of humor, while women prefer a guy who has a steady job and pays his bills on time.

.For men, the most important qualities in a spouse were, in order: a good sense of humor, an ability to get along with his family, a steady job/good credit history (a tie for third place), desire for children and a good kisser.

.Among women, the top qualities were a steady job, paying bills on time, a good sense of humor, an ability to get along with her family, desire for children and a clean driving record.

And other things at this link.

Agree or disagree?,0,1317019.story?track=hpmostemailed link

Rick C

February 14th, 2006, 12:43 PM
I think the only reason men prefer their women having a sense of humor to a steady job is that a woman with a very good sense of humor would be the only one to put up with him not having a steady job & paying his bills late. Take this out of the equation, and I think the two would be equal. Also, I didn't follow your link, but I bet there was no choice for "boobs" or else that would have ranked somewhere near the top.

LOL, I'm kidding, the poll makes women look shallow, so I'm being defensive. I don't put much stock into polling, you never can be quite sure of the methods used.

However, I know that from my own experiences, I was the one who was not concerned about absolute financially stability before getting married--it was my husband who wanted to make sure he was a good provider before proposing. Raingirl too. So from my perspective, it just seems inaccurate.

February 14th, 2006, 12:52 PM
.For ability to get along with his family...
That's because they're all momma's boys. :p

.Among women, the top qualities were a steady job, paying bills on time...
Probably because the women they polled had already "done their time" with the deadbeat losers and now have their priorities straight. :thumbs up

I'm with Shannon on this one - change the question to include "boobs" and the mens' results would have been very different! :D

February 14th, 2006, 01:19 PM
I met my soon to be husband and boyfriend of almost 5 years at a party where he was drunk and obnoxious. I did not like him till he started visiting a store I worked at in Scarborough Town Centre. He drove a blue tempest with almost all the paint peeled off. He had no job for 1 year and I still went out with him and stayed with him. Now he is a correctional officer and provides very nicely for me and his daughter. But if he would have continued to bum around I would have never continued with teh relationship. I girl needs secuity especially if she wants kids.

I think the thing is women will never write down as one of the requirements is to NOT have a job and prefer my men to play video games all day. So I think its just a matter of knowing what they want.

Rick C
February 14th, 2006, 03:11 PM
MacLeans Magazine a few years ago surveyed some ladies and found that men who wear tube socks were definitely off the list of acceptable's.

Is that true?

Rick C

February 14th, 2006, 03:14 PM
MacLeans Magazine a few years ago surveyed some ladies and found that men who wear tube socks were definitely off the list of acceptable's.

Is that true?

Rick C

That was a few years ago, now I would take them over the ones that love to wear thong underwear:D

jesse's mommy
February 14th, 2006, 03:15 PM
As long as they aren't pulled up with their knees and have really short shorts on!!! :D

February 14th, 2006, 03:22 PM
MacLeans Magazine a few years ago surveyed some ladies and found that men who wear tube socks were definitely off the list of acceptable's.

Is that true?
As long as they're not being worn with shorts & sandles. :yuck:

doggy lover
February 14th, 2006, 03:28 PM
and are wearing sandals.:D

I think it is very important for a man to have a good job, steady well that depends on the job. I'm glad I have a steady job, as my husband works construction and has been layed off in the past. But when he is working sometimes he could work over 12 hours a day. So I think an understanding partner is an important choice to both. If you want kids you better make sure he does, I have friends with out kids as their partner doesn't want them, I would change my relationship and find a new partner.

February 14th, 2006, 08:33 PM
Hmmm... I disagree with those lists. If getting along with his family was really important, I would have been gone a long time ago.:D And I'd be quite a hypocrite if I valued a clean driving record...;)

For me, it's sense of humor, generosity, reliability and independence above everything else.

And for my man, as far as I know him, it's loyalty, dependability, self-sufficience, independence and trust.

I think the opinion on kids can change with the couple. I think that a person who is dying for kids can persuade a person who hates kids (with a little help from therapy) if there is enough other good stuff there.

As for tube socks, as long as he doesn't wear them in bed or with shorts, who cares!?:D

February 14th, 2006, 09:18 PM
what about black socks with shorts - or socks and sandels together - horrors :eek:

February 14th, 2006, 10:04 PM
I can see it being somewhat accurate....

Although - the way it reads is $$$ counts.......for me, steady job would earn high points. BUT - I don't care if he's making $30 k or $100 k (I've dated both sides of the financial 'spectrum', so to speak) - as long as they are financially responsible and live within their means :)

I guess, I've really worked hard to try to be financially responsible - put myself thru university, bought my own home by myself.....I'm just not sure I can respect someone who isn't...(financial responsibility is not dependent on income!)

Personally, I love my job - but I've also worked really hard to get where I want to be....and I really get annoyed to hear coworkers complain about their jobs - but don't do anything about it.... life is not fair, nor is it easy...and to sit back, throw your hands up in the air & hope someone else will fix it, or simply hope that you win the million $ lottery - is just not me - so I guess I expect the same attitude from my partner....and I think that fundamental difference in philosophy would end the relationship fast....:rolleyes:

....but....I see a big difference in supporting someone who has lost their job & is actively looking for employment (or is passionate about what they do, but it's not full time/yr round) vs someone who can't hold a steady job b/c of repeated "personal differences" with every boss they've ever had, or just plain lack of interest in working....

...but I am surprised sense of humour ranked so low :confused: the end....I know the one that stays, will ultimately need to pass the 'dog approved' test with flying colours :p
(and yes, I firmly believe my old lab was a great judge of character....;) )