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what to do? cats don't get along

jiorji
December 18th, 2005, 08:11 AM
who am I kidding?? My cats don't get along.

Every day it's the same thing: wake up to constant chasing, because the little one always runs for cover under my bed or under the couch after body checking the wall.

Peanut(the calico) also has issues with being touched. She seems to be acquiring more and more bad habits. She attacks me in the morning and scratches/bites my feet under the blanket, or she attacks the garbage bag in the kitchen, or fights with the little one, or goes in the bathroom and meows for no reason.

I thought at first this was an issue of adjustement to a new place. Got her in October, but as time goes by things seem to be getting worse. She walks through the house as if she's looking for something that she can't find. If i pick her up most of the time she squirms away:(

Perhaps I'm being an idiot to not realize that her behaviour oubursts are a cry for help telling me she's not enjoying herself here with us.
Maybe she and Twiggy will never get along.:sad:

This is really tearing me up. I don't want to have an unhappy cat, and as much as I'd like things to work out, maybe this isn't the family she wants to be with.
:sad: :sad:

would it make me a horrible person if I chose to relocate her for her own good and Twiggy's?I'm sure Twiggy would appreciate not getting picked on. But well with the description above I'm not sure anyone would want her, but even so, I'm not looking to sell her off. I really do just want her to be happy

sigh......what to do? :sad:

mesaana
December 18th, 2005, 11:30 AM
Hello

I'm sure a lot of people will suggest good things to do but if it doesn't work, here's another idea, before you give up.

Maybe you should look into getting some behavioural counseling. I know the St-Hyacinthe School of Veterinary Medicine has a vet on staff with a specialisation in behavioural medicine and I assume Guelph has one too (or can maybe refer you to someone). They usually ask for a long questionnaire to be filled out as well as, ideally, a home video of the interaction between the animals. This allows them to determine if the behaviour is "normal" or "pathological" and then, how (and if) it could be changed. I know it's not cheap (I don't know the exact price), but a first consult takes usually about 1 1/2 to 2 hours.

Just thought I'd throw this out there, for you and other people who have animals with serious behaviour issues and are not ready to give up yet.

Good luck with your kitties!

Lyne

Frenchy
December 18th, 2005, 01:15 PM
Hi,I'm no expert,just my past experience;I had two cats for 11 years.They were the kind of cats who did not like to be pick up,my female did not even let me pet her.She was kind of a pest and got worse when I had to put down the male because he was too sick.When I brought her to my vet because she was peing outside the litter box,they had her for the day and said I should give her some kind of pills that i don't remember,but it's like valiums for cats.And ask me not to bring her anymore because she was too much of a pest!But if there was an emergency it was ok!Anyway,the pills did work for a few days but then,she did not want to take them,it was such a struggle to give her the pill,I just quit.So if you go to your vet,ask him/her for that kind of pills.like I said,it did work for my cat,it's just was impossible to give it to her.good luck.

jiorji
December 18th, 2005, 02:21 PM
Thanks for the suggestions.
I guess I'll have to wait a day to make a decision and make the final call tomorrow.

I really have to see and do what's best for Peanut....even if I'll miss her.

Sneaky
December 18th, 2005, 02:29 PM
Hi Jiorji,
When I moved back in March this year, I had 3 cats.
My one cat Fire, had been taken in by us as a stray when he was just
a small kitten. After feeding him outside for about 6 months, we moved
and took him with us. He adapted over a years time to being an indoor/outdoor cat like our other cat Ice.
When we bought our place, and moved in, he was to become an indoor cat.
It simply didnt work. He was unhappy, started spraying in the house,
would walk up and down the halls howling. He was such a cuddly cat prior to this, he would sit in my lap for hours and hours and would "kiss" my arm making it all drooly. After 3 months of the bad behaviour, eventually he wouldnt even let me touch him, he would just run and hide in a tight corner where we couldnt get him. He just thrived on the outdoors too much.
We made the hard choice and decided to rehome him to a home where he would get tons of outdoor space. He loved it. Went back to being his regular self, and adapted well. He simply couldnt handle being kept inside. Too much of his whole personality and self was wrapped up in being an outdoor cat.
I still miss him, but sometimes you have to do the best thing for the animal.
Good Luck in your decision.

jiorji
December 18th, 2005, 04:31 PM
Sneaky...my kitten was a stray cat too and i brought her in at 6-7 months old and she's so attached to me. Of course all animals are different.

It's the new cat that was always inside that I'm having problems with.


I'm going to try reintroducing them. Maybe that'll result in a better reletionship between them. If that doesn't work, then it wasn't meant to be sadly :sad:

Shamrock
December 18th, 2005, 04:59 PM
jiorji, I have three cats, and had a cat-conflict problem with my last adult rescue.

My other male and he got on fine, but the adult female despised him, and made no bones about it. He reacted to this by chasing her around the house every time he spotted her. I had to feed her seperately and try to keep them apart.
She always seemed on the retreat, always in hiding, and this concerned my greatly. He was happy, I was happy... but months went by with no improvement and the question was - was he making my female''s life plain miserable, was this unfair to her?

I really agonizied over what was right to do, but decided to just give it more time.
Ten months later.. she still hates him... but she has toned down her hostility to him, and he in turn does not go after he nearly as much.

She does not accept other cats well, and never will. But they have worked out a type of agreement. They can even share a room now... at a distance.

So, as you have had your cat since Oct only, maybe things can still be sorted given a bit more time...

It is a very tough call, I wish you the best in this decision.

chico2
December 18th, 2005, 05:07 PM
Jiorji,have you excluded any medical condition? She could be uncomfortable or in pain from something.
As for being picked up,I think most cats do not like to be carried,they feel too confined.Except for my Vinnie who likes to hang on my shoulder:D ,but is free to jump off any time he wants.
Before you do anything drastic,I would take her to the vet,who knows what other people would do to her if she was rehomed:sad:
My cat Rocky was on Transdermal Clomipramine,when he had an aggressive period.it's not a pill,but a gel you put on the inside of the ear and you get it from the vet.
Otherwise I would try Rescue Remedy(I think it was called)a natural product.
But first make sure she is healthy.