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Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 04:11 PM
:mad: Rant

About 3 months ago my neighbours daughter was playing with my son in our yard. The next day her mom called my to tell me that her daughter got poison Ivy in my yard. I then took a clipping of everyweed I could find in our garden and took to a weed specialist. None of which he said were poison Ivy. Never the less I sprayed everything that could have possibly been the culprit. I then apologised profusely and promised I would make sure it was taken care of. She then replied "well my kids will never be allowed in your yard again" since then they havent I dont ever plan to let them either.

Fast forward to 2 days ago. My kids were playing with a ball in our backyard. The same ball they have been playing with all summer. The same ball that is in our poison Ivy invested backyard that I have yet to find. The same ball that has never given my kids hives or posion ivy or what ever. The kids threw the ball over the fence into our neighbours yard. Well their other daughter tried to throw it back over the fence and got an instant case of poison ivy.

So now I have to go look for poison Ivy again in my yard. I guess I should apologise to this women for poisoning her child again, but she is so nasty and treats us like were lepers I really dont want to. I apologised to her husband at the time. I know if I apologise to her she is just going to make some nasty comment. Now I will have to find some pet safe poison Ivy killer.

The horrible thing is now I have to see her everyday and our youngest kids are in kindergarten together. I will just need to make sure I dont leave at the same time as her.

Prin
September 6th, 2005, 04:15 PM
That sucks!! Good fences make good neighbors, eh? Good luck! I'm sorry people suck sometimes. It's not like you planted it. :rolleyes:

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 04:17 PM
Thanks, I think we need to extend our 6ft fence up another 6 feet maybe that will fix the problem. :)

love my dogs
September 6th, 2005, 04:22 PM
the less neighbours...the better.

Geez, they sound so unreasonable. I wouldn't apologize, even if she did somehow get poison ivey from your yard, it's not your fault. It's not like you intentionally rubbed the girl with it. If your kids aren't suffering, then you probably don't have any in your yard. Maybe the neighbour has it in her yard, or maybe the girl has allergies or something.

Personally, I would tell the lady to get the kid checked, and find out what it is before jumping to conclusions. If it is poison ivey, she could have got it anywhere.....people like that really make me mad.

chico2
September 6th, 2005, 04:27 PM
Joey,do not humiliate yourself by apologizing again,it is certainly not your fault.
Poison Ivy has a very distinct look and I am sure if you had it in your yard you would find it..tried to copy a pic,but it did not work.
I would not spray poison in my yard because of a neighnor complaining. :mad:

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 04:33 PM
No I will not apologise to her. I will just avoid her right now. They would never have poison Ivy in their yard as they are perfect in every possible way. There yard is bright green and you will never find one stray weed in their garden. If their is it most likely made its way from our yard. If one weed seed appears in their garden they are right on with the weed killer.

poodletalk
September 6th, 2005, 04:38 PM
What ever you are spraying in your backyard, maybe its child and pet friendly. My dog got a serious case of chemical burns on her four paws, mouth, rectum and the case of the runs because she walked somewhere where they sprayed the lawns and eat the grass. I am not sure where this happened....but I am aware of other cases of chemical burns this summer on dog paws! Just becareful!

love my dogs
September 6th, 2005, 04:38 PM
the kid is probably having adverse reaction to all the poison she uses in her yard to keep away the weeds.

mafiaprincess
September 6th, 2005, 04:44 PM
I'd be doubtful the child got poision ivy the first time, and beyond skeptical this time. I think you just happen to have absolutely awful neighbours, at least on that side.. and you shouldn't have to do anything to keep them quiet.. I wouldn't appologize to either parent.. and If they brought it up again, I'd tell them it is ludicuis.

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 04:45 PM
=love my dogs

the kid is probably having adverse reaction to all the poison she uses in her yard to keep away the weeds.
that could be true they do use a lot chemicals.

Poodletalk
What ever you are spraying in your backyard, maybe its child and pet friendly.

I will it has been about 2months just after the last incident that I have sprayed anything in our yard. IT wasnt pet friendly then. As we didnt have Joey then and I just kept my kids out of the yard for a fewdays. But if I do anything this time it will definatley be.

raingirl
September 6th, 2005, 04:56 PM
Maybe it's the ball. Is it foam? Or Rubber? Or latex coated? She could be allergic to latex or rubber, which are common allergens. Some latex allergies are so bad that just touching something can cause a person to go into anaphlactic shock.

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 04:59 PM
I dont think its the ball they have the same kind of ball (different color in their own yard. Any how I threw the ball in the garbage.

nymph
September 6th, 2005, 05:00 PM
This is a picture of poison ivy, 3 leaves, very easy to spot
http://www.naturenorth.com/summer/pivy/images/pivygre.jpg

This site describes poison ivy in details: http://www.naturenorth.com/summer/pivy/pivy2.html

Why does your neighbor claim that her kids got poison ivy?

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 06:14 PM
Nymph
I just went to look for that weed in my yard. We definately have weeds but not that one.

?Why does your neighbor claim that her kids got poison ivy?

She probably assumes it because we have weeds in our yard. Last time she took the liberty to just go in our yard when we werent home and check it out. She said "you really need to do something about all those weeds" I try to control them as much as I can but she expects it to be perfect like her yard. She is just assuming it is us. If I see her I will tell her that nope definatley no poison Ivy in our yard. Maybe you should check your own now.

melanie
September 6th, 2005, 06:34 PM
did she take the kid to the docs or just assume it was the ivy?? i would not be surprised if her kids the real lepper, poor kid amy be realyl sick or have something that her crazy mum wont look at. if she says it again tell her its in her yard or somewhere else the kids play, and that she shoudl have a doc check the kid out as any responsible parent would, man crazy pppl everywehre,

the gene pool is lookin like it needs a bit of chlorinantion thats for sure...

keep your kids away from hers, god only knows what they really have, ewwwww...... :eek:

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 6th, 2005, 07:10 PM
I have no idea what she did in regards to seeing a doctor if she is so concerned I am sure she will take her to see one . I actually try to avoid speaking to her if at all possible. I heard her daughter outside today I didnt see her but she sounded fine to me.

IF she says anything I will just tell her its not in our yard. I am definately not apologising to this woman again.

jjgeonerd
September 6th, 2005, 07:34 PM
Tell her to go pound sand.

Man...I hate unreasonable people!

love my dogs
September 6th, 2005, 08:55 PM
I can't beleive she has the nerve to comment on your weeds, and even come into your yard uninvited. Who does she think she is?

Tell her to get a life.

Schwinn
September 7th, 2005, 12:49 PM
It is possible to not be affected by poison ivy. It's an allergic reaction that most people have. I know, because apparently it doesn't affect me. We found out when my father-in-law sent me to grab some golf balls. When I was crawling on my hands and knees, I asked him if he just didn't want to bend over, he said, "No, I didn't want to crawl through that poison ivy" :eek: (you should see the time we went golfing in Florida, and I asked him if was sending me in for his golf ball because he was worried about poison ivy again. He said, "Nope, alligators". But I digress...)

I've since found out that I've been riding through a lot of areas with poison ivy, and I've never had a problem. I took my nephew out, and they sent him home the next day looking like he spent the weekend gorging on ding-dongs he was so puffed up. Needless to say, I should really learn what it looks like. At any rate, that being said, the possibility that you, your kids, your husband, your dog, etc etc and everyone else who has every been in your yard are all unaffected by poison ivy are very, very slim. I'd tell her or her husband to come over and show me the poison ivy (just so I would have the satisfaction of saying she was obviously mistaken). Also, just as an aside, if someone swells up after being out in the grass, and they take Benedryl and that clears it up, that's a good indicator it is poison ivy.

Summary:tell her (or her husband) to show you where, then tell her to stuff it and take her sickly kid to the doctor.

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 7th, 2005, 01:42 PM
I saw this woman (our neighbour) at my sons kindergarten class this morning. Her daughter looked fine to me. I just smiled said hi and said nothing about the P.I to her.

wAggie
September 8th, 2005, 11:28 PM
F* the lady.

as someone pointed out, the less neighbours the better.

if she had a problem, listen, and then ASK her where she sees it, or how she thinks would be best to fix it. if the solution sounds unreasonable, tell her.

say good bye and leave. (don't swing ur hips too wide) hahah

gl :thumbs up

StaceyB
September 9th, 2005, 12:57 AM
You would know if she had a reaction to poison ivy and it wouldn't be cleared up in two days. It also doesn't appear right away. She would have developed blisters. I have allergies to certain weeds, all that happens is the area turns red and I get little itchy bumps everywhere. Once I wash the area it clears up within an hour. Poison ivy takes much longer to clear up.

www.poison-ivy.org

Below the pictures of the plants you can see picks of the rash it causes, caution it is kind of gross.

www.res2.agr.gc.ca/ecorc/poison/index_e.htm


Check out the poison oak pics.

Prin
September 9th, 2005, 01:17 AM
Hey, turns out I'm allergic to my meds but all weekend I was blaming Boo for going behind the shed after the groundhog into poison ivy and then coming to get hugs... I was all swollen and rashy on Sunday and at first I never would have guessed it was my pills. You never know what it can be. Same as with doggies. You just have to eliminate stuff till you find the suspect.

I agree with asking them to come over and point out where it is. If they are such brain surgeons, maybe they can actually help...

The way I tell it apart is not by the leaves (so many look the same) but by the shiny leaves. Most plants have "mat" leaves and poison ivy's leaves are glossy...

This one is from the govt of Ontario's website:

Joey.E.CockersMommy
September 9th, 2005, 08:33 AM
This women and myself havent hit it off since day one. I know if I invited her into my yard she would just start making rude comments. Even her kids our rude to us, (her doing I am sure)

eg, her kids like to sit on our fence and kick the ball very hard against it all day, her oldest son 10 commented on how we need to get a new fence, I told him with in hearshot of the mom, they would have to buy the new fence as they were the ones that were kicking it and climbing all over it.

She hasn't said anything to me maybe she feels stupid cause she realises she was wrong and is an idiot.