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Ahem...Can I have a rant, too?

Writing4Fun
August 18th, 2005, 09:52 PM
Will this week never end?? It's been the week from hades for me over here. First, one of my engraving machines dies on me, and I had to pay $80 to ship the stupid thing to BC for repairs (yup, they're the closest service shop in Canada), only to have it returned to me no better than when it left. Then, I start hearing cracking noises whenever I open my laptop, and find out it's because the plastic on my particular model was "brittle" (not that anyone bothered to tell me that when I bought it last year) and is starting to fall apart, so I have to bring it in for repair$$ before it completely shatters and I have to buy a new one. Hubby and I have a major rowe about our finances, so I find myself a part-time job that I can work from home (while trying to run my business and take care of the children at the same time). Sounds great, right? Yeah, except that training is 4 days next week in Markham, from 4:00 to 9:00PM, so I have to leave the kids with my 15yr old nephew (the one with all the piercings that the 2-year-old is quite terrified of) until my sister gets off work because she's my only babysitter (my back-up babysitter happens to be going away next week). Oh, and once I start this job, I have to work EVERY Friday and Saturday and all holidays, as well as the closing shift at least one night during the week, which is from midnight to 2:00 or 3:00AM. And with school starting soon, that means I'll have to work until 2:00 and then wake up at 6:30 to get the boy up for school. Oh, and hubby's working this week-end (as usual), so I get to drive 7 hours to Montreal for a big family party all by myself with the 6-year-old who NEVER stops talking (I'm serious - NEVER) and the screaming 2-year-old who absolutely hates driving any distance.

(Deep breath - ok, now let it out) There! I feel much better now! Thanks, guys. I know it'll all be OK, and I'm really, really lucky to have found this job, and the rest of the stuff could have been a lot worse. It's just been a little much this week, and I needed to vent. Thanks for listening - er - reading. :o

Prin
August 18th, 2005, 10:00 PM
Yey!!! That was such a good rant!!! :) I hope it all gets easier for you.

twinmommy
August 18th, 2005, 10:19 PM
Cripes!! Can I second this rant????

"I see your rant and raise you..... :) ""

What the fork is with people?????!!!!

I am on vacation next week, but can you tell me why it is that once you announce that--that people decide to drive you over the friggen bend and back on you last couple of days just before??? Just to make bloody sure that you oh-so-desperately need said vacation--if not you will

a) kill someone
b) slip into a stress induced coma
c) run into the night clawing at your face
d) kill someone
e) all of the above :)



grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

k.
nuff said
at least my job makes me love the "chaos" at home. ;)

susieqt
August 18th, 2005, 11:07 PM
I just drove home from Niagara Falls tonight to Montreal with four children (my two and two of my sister's), and it was a very noisy 7 hours in the van, so I know how you are feeling!!! But once you arrive, you'll forget about the drive and have lots of fun with your family, so the drive WILL be worth it!

StaceyB
August 19th, 2005, 12:37 AM
Well I don't have it that bad around here, kids are on vacation with their grandparents but your description of yours seemed very similar to mine. My son(11) never stops talking and my daughter(9) has quite the attitide.

chico2
August 19th, 2005, 09:28 AM
Stacey....http://bestsmileys.com/lol/19.gifthat IS funny!!

DogueLover
August 19th, 2005, 09:42 AM
Hubby and I have a child that does not enjoy driving and one who also talks constantly, actually she "sings" everything.
Our trips to the inlaws are around 8 hours long, quite a handful with your ears ringing with the 3 year old either crying because she hates to travel or fighting with her sister and her older sister egging her on and singing/talking all the way.
We found a "parent saver" and I will not ever take it out of my vehicle again.
Just before going to the inlaws at Easter, we bought a portable dvd player and some of the kids favorite shows on DVD ( you cant go wrong with Dora, Blues Clues, Max and Ruby and my personal favorite, Charlotte`s web)
We almost thought they were still at home, we didn`t hear one peep from the back seat. It was the most relaxing, enjoyable trip I have ever gone on since my kids were newborns that slept all the time in the vehicle. Needless to say I can recite each DVD by heart now, but I will take that over the fighting and screaming ANY DAY. I splurged the other day and bought some new DVDs for the kids ( and my sanity so I don`t have to choose one they have seen 100 times) and played them on the way home from our "day trip". Again, not a peep and we had a 3 hour drive.
I figure it was worth a try and now hubby and I don`t know why we didn`t do it sooner. :)

Luvmypit
August 19th, 2005, 10:05 AM
OH MY and I thought I was the only one!
Dogue I have that DVD player too and my god is it a parent saver.

Quick tip. Get earphones!!!

I have a 9 year old step daughter as most know that has ADD ( the doctor says she might have ADHD). Great. She NEVER EVER EVER stops talking, singing, making odd noises. She can't sit still, is always go go go.

She went to her grandmas house on Wednesday till Sunday and she has called us 4 times a day to talk.

Oh and that DVD player is great for camping for when they go to bed. Godsent!!!

Schwinn
August 19th, 2005, 10:31 AM
For those of you who are complaining about your kids hate driving, I guess my only question would be, why are you letting them drive anyway? I mean, can thier feet even reach the peddles?? *scratches head*

StaceyB
August 19th, 2005, 10:42 AM
Try having two kids together with ADD. One has ADD and the other ADHD, both had been diagnosed by a specialist. It is enough to drive you nuts.

Schwinn
August 19th, 2005, 10:57 AM
Try having two kids together with ADD. One has ADD and the other ADHD, both had been diagnosed by a specialist. It is enough to drive you nuts.

I'll have to ask my wife if it's the same with having a husband and a dog like that...

She just throws something shiny between us

StaceyB
August 19th, 2005, 11:06 AM
Doesn't work here, they will just fight over it.

Bearsmom
August 19th, 2005, 01:53 PM
Hijacking Writings rant....my rant is my stupid (*&$#(*&%^ brother who is sooooo whipped that he hasn't bothered to call my parents IN THREE YEARS, nor allow them to see their grandchildren (they've never met 3 of them), all because his crazyass wife doesn't like my mother!! (There's never been a blow out or anything between them).

My rant is that I have to let him know that my mother has MONTHS to live-the doctors told my dad and I that they now don't count in years, they count in months (she's got terminal cancer), and that NOW would be a good time for him to mend bridges before it's too late. I'm tempted to drive to his house, toss some raw meat at him and let Bear and Kaos have some fun.

HOW ON EARTH DO I GET HIM TO UNDERSTAND THAT SHE'S NOT HERE MUCH LONGER?????

AM I BANGING MY FREAKIN HEAD AGAINST THE WALL HERE????

Luvmypit
August 19th, 2005, 02:13 PM
Ahh Bearsmom, Sorry about your mom. As for Bro I say tell him like it is. Call him and be blunt. YOu owe him nothing. I would try to convince him not so much for his sake but for your moms.

Trinitie
August 19th, 2005, 02:17 PM
Ahh Bearsmom, Sorry about your mom. As for Bro I say tell him like it is. Call him and be blunt. YOu owe him nothing. I would try to convince him not so much for his sake but for your moms.
It would not only be for the sake of the Mom, but for the Grandchildren too! Just think how angry they would be if they had a Grandparent, got to know her (I'm assuming here), but then couldn't say goodbye!
How old are the kids? Do they "know" Grandma?

badger
August 19th, 2005, 02:24 PM
And just remember, if he's unable or unwilling to step up, you will have done your part and IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.

StaceyB
August 19th, 2005, 02:25 PM
You win!!!!!!
That is absolutely horrible. I would send a letter to his work. State in very clear words on the first line, mom is dying. This will most likely keep him from throwing the letter away w/o reading it. Nobody can be that heartless. In the next lines go into whatever details you want to share. You can do the same through email. Write it in the topic so even if he doesn't open it he will still get the message.
These are ideas if it is hard to talk to him. If you can, I would go see him in person.

Bearsmom
August 19th, 2005, 02:28 PM
When we found out 4 years ago that the cancer was spreading (not yet inoperable), I did call him and tell him what was going on, his reply was, "well, as soon as ### is over her post partum depression, we'll see her". He did make an appearance at the hospital and then disappeared again, I guess post partum depression can go on for ever and ever if it means not seeing your in laws.

My parents have only met the eldest child (now 6), they've never even met the other three. I watch my parents with Robbie and they have so much to give those kids that I feel sorry for the kids for missing out on that much love from a grandparent.

Hubby offered to drive to where my brother lives and pop him one in the nose, but with hubby's luck, there'd be a cop driving by.

Forgot to mention, when mom was first diagnosed with cancer and wound up having a colostomy bag, my sister in law told her that she didn't like to be around mom becaue she "smelled funny". Get this, sister in law is a NURSE.

I just don't know how much more heartbreak I can stand seeing my parents go through. How does a child just walk away from his parents? How does he not allow his parents to see their grandchildren?

Best thing about this: my parents have rewritten the will, cut my brother out completely (as well as sister in law), when the kids turn 18, I get to sit down with each of them, hand them a rather substantial trust fund, and tell them what a witch their mother is. Can't wait for that day!

Bearsmom
August 19th, 2005, 02:29 PM
You win!!!!!!
That is absolutely horrible. I would send a letter to his work. State in very clear words on the first line, mom is dying. This will most likely keep him from throwing the letter away w/o reading it. Nobody can be that heartless. In the next lines go into whatever details you want to share. You can do the same through email. Write it in the topic so even if he doesn't open it he will still get the message.
These are ideas if it is hard to talk to him. If you can, I would go see him in person.

Thanks StaceyB, that's a good idea, perhaps I'll send it registered mail to his work (at home, she throws out anything that comes from our family), that way he has to sign for it.

StaceyB
August 19th, 2005, 02:34 PM
I suggested his work because I assumed from your first post that she would do that. Does he still speak with you or any other family members..

babyrocky1
August 19th, 2005, 07:21 PM
Im so sorry Bears Mom, it must be so hard for YOU because you do not have the support of your sibling who should be there not just for your mom, but it would be so much easier if you could comfort one another....And the wife a NURSE thats just horrific! Hope I never run into one like her! It is totaly amazing to me how people can be so self-absorbed, but your brother could go see mom without the wife so he has to take responsiblility for his own actions or non-actions. Its good the kids will someday know that they had a loving grandma! Again so sorry for what your going through!

Karin
August 19th, 2005, 09:08 PM
I have a rant. I wanted to post this a few days ago but my time was limited.

Last sat. evening New Symrna had it's first on-duty death of a patrolman. Lt. Nelson was on his way to a breaking & entering when a white ford truck pulled out in front of his cruiser, sending him into & over the guardrail on a ditch. Nelson, age 34 and his K-9 partner Ceaser were both killed instantly.

I watch his funeral on tv this afternoon. Ceaser was cremated and his remains placed at his partners feet in the coffin. Nelson leaves behind a wife and a 2 yr old daughter.

The white ford truck & driver has not been found yet.

Writing4Fun
August 22nd, 2005, 10:15 PM
Hello all. I'm back from the family gathering week-end, and I'm happy to say that we all survived the trip to Montreal and back with no casualties. :D Yes, we have an in-car video monitor, which we hook up to the PS2 so the 6-yr old can play games or watch movies, whichever floats his boat. Doesn't really work for the younger one, though. Ah, but we made it, and my sanity is relatively intact, so all's well that ends well. :p

Bearsmom: yup, you have my vote as well. :grouphug: I've seen lots of women being alienated from their families as a result of their husbands/boyfriends, but I've never seen it the other way around. Not to this extent, at any rate. Your brother needs to grow a couple of chestnuts, get his wife some medication for her perpetual post-pardum depression, and go see his mother. I know a lot of people don't believe family is that important, but I saw the power of blood ties first-hand this week-end - family ties can't and shouldn't be discounted that easily.

Karin, that story was so touching on the one hand (that the Lt. and his partner were buried together), and infuriating on the other hand. I hope they find the culprit soon - maybe their own guilt will drive them to turn themselves in. If not, may Karma bite them in the end (literally and figuratively).

Prin
August 22nd, 2005, 10:55 PM
Wow Bearsmom and Karin have my votes, but can I add a little rant?

I don't know how much detail I can go in but lets talk in code (I hope you understand-- for those of you who know me well...) I have kitty playtime sometimes and one cat who is known to be submissive to humans but aggressive with some other cats bit a piece of another cat's floppy body part (on the head) off (about the size of a loony). The owner of the biter fled without offering any help. The owner of the bitten kitty asked me what to do, and I said call the other owner and settle it with him. Then I called the police and asked them what we should do in this situation and I relayed to her that they said she was supposed to file a police report. Then the biter's owner is threatening to sue the playtime group because I gave the phone number. :rolleyes: I just wanted it settled so all the kitties could play again. In peace. If your kitty can't play nicely, one day someone might bring you to court about it. You are responsible for whom your kitty bites!! I just hope the kitty playtime group doesn't get in trouble because of me. :(

That's my rant. :) I hope you can figure it out.