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Leaving Boyfriend and scared

July 19th, 2005, 09:20 AM
Ok guys and gals, the decision has finally come to me leaving my BF. Not only because of the dog thing, but many others.
I need your help and badly. I have to find a place that will allow dogs. I have tried the newspaper, and nothing.....I do not know what to do. My breeder will take Harley until I can financially get back on my feet. Which is great, but now I must once again worry about angel, and a place to live. The place we are at now is way too expensive on my own. Help. I am losing control of everything fast.

July 19th, 2005, 09:25 AM
I don't live in Canada, so I can' help you find a place to live.

I can tell you that you will make it through this. Just take a deep breath and a long, hot shower to clear your head.

Daisy's Owner
July 19th, 2005, 09:27 AM
I'm so sorry, you are going through this. It is a very hard thing to do. But good for you that you are taking the steps you need to take.

First of all, breath. Don't panic. Don't try to deal with everything at once, or think of everything that needs to be done at once.

What about getting a roommate for the apartment you currently have?

July 19th, 2005, 09:30 AM
I have a daughter of 16 months........Not easy to find a room mate, especially with a rottweiler in the house. I can not believe I have decided. I have to think financially how I can do this....I have nothing

July 19th, 2005, 09:32 AM
There are apartment buildings in Beaconsfield, west of St. Charles, off of Elm that have a bajillion dogs including pitbulls. Do you know the one's I mean? They also have multiple dogs in the apartments. I don't think they are very costly.

July 19th, 2005, 09:44 AM
I do not know which ones you are talking about ??????? what is it near so I can go see right away

July 19th, 2005, 09:51 AM
Sorry, had to look up the street they are on. The appartments are on Larch Street in Beaconsfield.

I mapblasted it for you. I used Mondou on St. Jean as the starting point. Hope it helps.

July 19th, 2005, 09:55 AM
Rottielover,I know right now you are panicking and I am sorry I cannot help,you are in a very difficult situation.. :sad:
But you made the right choice,although it might not seem like it right now :thumbs up
You WILL find a place or maybe even a good roommate,who likes babies and dogs...cheer up!!
Any family that can help out??

July 19th, 2005, 09:55 AM
My girlfriend lives on Hilary/ corner Hymus...just off of St Jean's in Pointe Claire...those buildings are dog friendly....and also lots of really cool single women/moms...could be good for you??

I know the building manager rather well. If there are no vacancies I could possibly help further by getting you further up on the waiting list.....but check it's the Vanguard Appartments and quite reasonable rents too.

Pm me if you need to...anytime!! :grouphug:

July 19th, 2005, 09:58 AM
Also just remembered there is Somervale Gardens, just off of St. John's Blvd. You take St. Jeans South, turn right on Sedgefields and left on Sumervale. They are some sort of townhouses. I was there this weekend and the places are full of pets and kids. Maybe not the Ritz but a starting point?

July 19th, 2005, 10:05 AM
Do you have any friends or family that can help you out until you find a place to live??

Best of luck!! I know how hard it must be for you, I really do! :grouphug:

If your b/f is abusive, there may be other immediate resources that can help you out.

July 19th, 2005, 10:06 AM
I can't help you with locations unless you want to move to Florida but I have everything crossable crossed for you. Stay focused on moving forward and you will be okay...wishing you the best.

July 19th, 2005, 10:07 AM
No not abusive, or I would have left long time ago. I can not afford sumervale gardens. I looked into them awhile ago. Wish I could. But with a baby, a car, and dogs, and debt....I have no chance

July 19th, 2005, 10:13 AM
Friends or family????

Will Harley's breeder consider watching Angel?? Or does the breeder know of temporary foster care until you find a place to live??

July 19th, 2005, 10:20 AM
she won't, and can't watch angel. a def fight will happen. And I do not have any more finances to repair her. No one can watch angel. I do not know how I am going to do this, but I have to, for my sanity, and my daughters. I can not believe it has come this far, and bad. I need to win a lottery, then all will be ok in Karen's land, until then it will be complete hell.

July 19th, 2005, 10:28 AM
This is to all the people who live in your neck of the woods............................

Is there anyone who can help out with Angel???? Anyone know of anyone??? This poor gal needs our help desperately!!! Rescues, foster homes, extra kennel anything?? Should we post this question in a different topic, like foster care???

If I lived closer, I'd help you out with all of my heart. I truly, honestly mean that!

July 19th, 2005, 10:32 AM
I have to find a place to live first. I have not told BF anything yet, I want things to be secure first so I do not get put on the street because of un paid bills

July 19th, 2005, 10:33 AM
RottiLover, I am going to PM you with an area of town that will allow you to have two dogs in an aptment and a great place to raise kids.

July 19th, 2005, 10:37 AM
Well there are resources I"m sure that can help you depending on your circumstances. I thought the place you were living in was your home and he just moved in or have I lost my sanity about that?

Things always have a way of working out, however in the beginning it's always very very difficult as you can't see the forest for the trees.

Have you considered taking in a student to live with you? This way you wouldn't have to move and you can stay where you are. Do you have an extra bedroom? I wish I had the contact for 'Home Stay' I think thats what it is called.

So you can stay put not move and get support from the student:

This is a Toronto site but I'm sure you can find one there too:

July 19th, 2005, 10:43 AM
We rent the place now, but My name only on the lease. I can not live with anyone anymore. I am losing it, and I do not want to chance it with my daughter. I am going to take a look at some places, around here, with help from Once I find a place I will give him a certain date to be out. I will have to cancel this lease too which is going to cost me too :(. I will be bankrupt before all this ends

July 19th, 2005, 10:53 AM
I don;t want to scare you, but get to the nearest court house ASAP, as you need to establish custody of your daughter (seems the first one to court houe gets temp custody, until a custody hearing can be arranged).

Have you tried your nearest welfare office? they can often provide emergency assistance, and ongoing assistance if need be.

Is there any "geared to income" housing in your area? (the wefare office may be able to help with this as well.

I wish there was more I could do, and I wish you all the best!
Hold your head high, and be brave, it will get better!! :)

July 19th, 2005, 10:59 AM
Why don't you consult a womens shelter/hotline to get some advise.

July 19th, 2005, 11:10 AM
You know, rottie - I don't know the whole situation of course.. but if yours is the only name on the lease... as scary as this is... If I were you I wouldn't be the one leaving. Think long term -- breaking the lease will only cause financial problems for you and your daughter in the future. Think short term -- it's your apartment. I know it seems the easiest way out of a situation like this is to avoid any confrontations... But you have a place to stay right now.

I agree with Luba -- women's shelters can be very helpful with the advice and resources... You don't have to be a battered woman or anything for them to help you with advice, etc. Perhaps they can help you with how to handle any confrontations. My own advice is -- yes - go to the courthouse and make sure you have custody established.. Also.. if you would like to ask him to leave.. set it up so that someone is with you when you do.

Perhaps if you could find somewhere for all of you to stay temporarily while he is told he needs to get out? That way you're not having to deal with any arguing, etc. -- he has time to lick his wounds and get out -- and in the end you still have somewhere to live?

July 19th, 2005, 11:29 AM
Rottielover I know your in a tough situation now. I am in Western Canada so can't help you find a place. Once you get through this turmoil things will get easier and your life will seem normal again, maybe even better then it is now.Good luck to you, your daughter and your furry friends and I will be thinking of you!


July 19th, 2005, 11:34 AM
Definitely agree with Pags

You have to get some help with this. People are unpredicatable in situations surrounding domestic issues.

There are reasons that you've made this decision and my guess is you haven't told him because of 'fear'. Having said that, fear alone means there is more going on, to some degree...abuse doesn't have to be physical you know!

This seems to have come to a head right now and dont worry you have a lot of support just be cautious and do it the right way.

I took the liberty of finding this information for you PLEASE get some professional assitance!!ébec
Passerelle Inc. (La)
C.P. 536
Alma PQ G8B 3N8
TÉL: (418) 668-4671
(418) 668-0242 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (418) 662-7691
Maison Mikana (La)
1, 4ième Avenue Est
Amos PQ J9T 1C4
TÉL: (819) 732-9161
TÉLÉC: (819) 732-7687
MH/TH Maison d'Anjou
C.P. 65, Succ. Anjou
Anjou PQ H1K 4G5
TÉL: (514) 353-5908
TÉLÉC: (514) 353-9794
Autre Chez Soi (L')
C.P. 544
Aylmer PQ J9H 6L1
TÉL: (819) 685-0006
TÉLÉC: (819) 685-1789
MH/TH Maison des Femmes de Baie-Comeau
26, avenue Mance
Baie-Comeau PQ G4Z 1M7
TÉL: (418) 296-4733
TÉLÉC: (418) 294-2421
MH/TH Maison Clair de l'Une
487, rue des Pins
Buckingham PQ J8L 2L2
TÉL: (819) 986-8286
TÉLÉC: (819) 986-5923
Urgence Femmes
C.P. 365
Cabano, PQ G0L 1E0
TÉL: (418) 854-7160
TÉLÉC: (418) 854-9276
MH/TH Accalmie (L')
C.P. 939
Cap-aux-Meules PQ G0B 1B0
TÉL: (418) 986-5044
TÉLÉC: (418) 986-3977
MH/TH F.A.R. Inc. (Le)
615, rue Notre-Dame
Cap-de-la-Madeleine PQ G8T 4H3
TÉL: (819) 378-2990
TÉLÉC: (819) 378-9348
Auberge Camiclau de Chambly
C.P. 34, Succ. Chambly
Chambly PQ J3L 4B1
TÉL: (514) 658-9780
TÉLÉC: (514) 658-4752
MH/TH Maison du Coeur de Charlesbourg
C.P. 65055
Charlesbourg PQ G1G 6R2
TÉL: (418) 841-0019
(418) 841-0011(urgence/crisis)
MH/TH Re-Source (La) de Châteauguay
C.P. 66017
Châteauguay PQ J6J 5W8
TEL: (514) 699-0908
TÉLÉC: (514) 699-1698
Maison Vallée de la Gatineau, Ltée
C.P. 4281, R.R. 1
Chelsea PQ J0X 1N0
TÉL: (819) 827-4510
(819) 827-4044 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (819) 827-5212
Maison d'hébergement l'Aquarelle
504, 4ième rue
Chibougamau PQ G8P 1S3
TÉL: (418) 748-7654
(418) 748-7655
TÉLÉC: (418) 748-4474
Centre Féminin du Saguenay Inc.
774, chemin Sydenham
Chicoutimi PQ G7H 2H1
TÉL: (418) 549-3753
(418) 549-7911
(418) 549-4343 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (418) 549-4568

Horizon Pour Elle
C.P. 248
Cowansville PQ J2K 3S7
TÉL: (514) 263-5046
TÉLÉC: (514) 263-5046
MH/TH Halte-Secours
801, rue des Pins
Dolbeau PQ G8L 1M1
TÉL: (418) 276-3965
(418) 276-3659
TÉLÉC: (418) 276-4459
Rose des Vents de Drummond Inc. (La)
C.P. 396
Drummondville PQ J2B 3P5
TÉL: (819) 472-5444
TÉLÉC: (819) 472-3890

Amie d'Elle (L')
C.P. 638
Forestville PQ G0T 1E0
TÉL: (418) 587-2533
TÉLÉC: (418) 587-2324
MH/TH Entour Elle (L')
C.P. 935
Fort-Coulonge PQ J0X 1V0
TÉL: (819) 683-2709 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (819) 683-1031
MH/TH Aid'Elle (L')
C.P. 2198
Gaspé PQ G0C 1R0
TÉL: (418) 368-6883
TÉLÉC: (418) 368-6889
Maison Unies-Vers-Femmes
126, rue St-Antoine
Gatineau, PQ J8T 3M4
TEL: (819) 568-4710
TÉLÉC: (819) 568-6838
Maison hébergement pour Elles
C.P. 783
Granby PQ J2G 8W8
TÉL: (514) 776-6700
TÉLÉC: (514) 776-6950
Centre Mechtilde
C.P. 79182
Hull PQ J8Y 6V2
TÉL: (819) 777-2952
TÉLÉC: (819) 777-0887
Traverse (La)
C.P. 491
Joliette PQ J6E 3Z9
TÉL: (514) 759-5882
TÉLÉC: (514) 753-5315
MH/TH Chambrée (La)
2279, rue St-Simon
Jonquière PQ G7X 6E6
TÉL: (418) 547-7283
TÉLÉC: (418) 547-1876
MH/TH Toît de l'Amitié (Le)
C.P. 37
La Tuque PQ G9X 3P1
TÉL: (819) 523-7829
(819) 523-2589 (crisis/urgence)
TÉLÉC: (819) 523-8642
Bouée régionale du Lac-Mégantic (La)
Lac Mégantic PQ G6B 2C1
TÉL: (819) 583-1233
TÉLÉC: (819) 583-5593
MH/TH Parados (Le)
C.P. 96
Lachine PQ H8S 4A5
TÉL: (514) 637-3529
TÉLÉC: (514) 637-3345
MH/TH; MHP/2SH Citad'Elle de Lachute (La)
C.P. 602
Lachute PQ J8H 4G4
TÉL: (514) 562-7797
TÉLÉC: (514) 562-1311

Maison L'Esther
C.P. 7, Succ. Ste-Rose
Laval PQ H7L 1K7
TEL: (514) 963-6161
TÉLÉC: (514) 963-3145
Maison Le Prélude
C.P. 173
Succ. St-Martin
Laval PQ H7V 3P5
TÉL: (514) 682-3050
TÉLÉC: (514) 682-1674
MH/TH Jonction pour Elle (La)
C.P. 1257
Lévis PQ G6V 6R8
TÉL: (418) 833-8002
TÉLÉC: (418) 833-8009
Havre des Femmes
C.P. 52
L'Islet-sur-Mer PQ G0R 2B0
TÉL: (418) 247-7622
TÉLÉC: (418) 247-7058
MH/TH Haven House
P.O. Box 99
Listuguj PQ G0C 2R0
TÉL: (418) 788-5544
TÉLÉC: (418) 788-2058
TÉLÉC: (418) 788-9021
MH/TH Carrefour pour Elle Inc.
B.P. 21115, C.P. Jacques Cartier
Longueuil PQ J4J 5J4
TÉL: (514) 651-5800
TÉLÉC: (514) 651-0269

Corporation Halte Femmes
C.P. 639
Maniwaki PQ J9E 3K6
TÉL: (819) 449-2513
(819) 449-4003
(819) 449-8520 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (819) 449-4876
AUT/OTH Waseya House
C.P. 160
Maniwaki PQ J9E 3B4
TÉL: (819) 449-7425
TÉLÉC: (819) 449-6412
Maison d'hébergement l'Émergence Inc.
C.P. 399
Maria PQ G0C 1Y0
TÉL: (418) 759-3411
TÉLÉC: (418) 759-3436
Maison d'hébergement l'Émergence Inc.
C.P. 399
Maria PQ G0C 1Y0
TÉL: (418) 759-3411
TÉLÉC: (418) 759-3436
Séjour La Bonne Oeuvre
Martinville PQ
TEL: (819) 835-9272
TÉLÉC: (819) 835-0422

Gigogne Inc. (La)
C.P. 274
Matane PQ G4W 3N2
TÉL: (418) 562-3377
(418) 562-3380
TÉLÉC: (418) 562-7065
Passe-R-Elle des Hautes Laurentides
C.P. 354
Mont-Laurier PQ J9L 3N7
TÉL: (819) 623-1523
TÉLÉC: (819) 623-6747
MH/TH Armée du Salut l'Abri d'Espoir
2000 rue Notre-Dame Ouest
Montréal PQ H3J 1M8
TÉL: (514) 934-5615
TÉLÉC: (514) 934-0437
MH/TH Arrêt-Source (L')
10,249, avenue Christophe-Colomb
Montréal PQ H2C 2T8
TÉL: (514) 383-2335
TÉLÉC: (514) 383-8568

Assistance aux Femmes de Montréal Inc.
C.P. 82, Succ. "E"
Montréal PQ H2T 3E5
TÉL: (514) 270-8291
1-800-865-8291 (urgence/crisis)
Auberge Madeleine
Montréal PQ
TÉL: (514) 597-1499
TÉLÉC: (514) 597-1708
MH/TH Auberge Shalom pour Femmes
C.P. 986
Montréal PQ H3X 3Y1
TÉL: (514) 731-0833
TÉLÉC: (514) 731-9325
Auberge Transition
C.P. 266
Succ. Notre-Dame-de-Grâce
Montréal PQ H4A 3P6
TÉL: (514) 481-0496
TÉLÉC: (514) 481-0495
Chainon (Le)
4373, rue Esplanade
Montréal PQ H2W 1T2
TÉL: (514) 845-0151
TÉLÉC: (514) 844-4180
Dauphinelle (La)
C.P. 31, Succ. "M"
Montréal PQ H1V 3L6
TÉL: (514) 598-7779
TÉLÉC: (514) 598-5865
Escale pour Elle
C.P. 51223
Succ. Comptoir-Domaine
Montréal PQ H1N 3T9
TÉL: (514) 351-5875
(514) 493-4004 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (514) 351-3151
MH/TH Flora Tristan Inc.
C.P. 903, Succ. "A"
Montréal PQ H3C 2V8
TÉL: (514) 939-3463 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (514) 939-3465
Foyer amical pour jeunes femmes et enfants
C.P. 755, Succ. NDG
Montréal PQ H4A 3S2
TÉL: (514) 486-3108
Foyer pour Femmes autochtones de Montréal/Native Women's Shelter of Montreal
C.P. 1183, Succ. "A"
Montréal PQ H3C 2Y3
TÉL: (514) 933-4688
TÉLÉC: (514) 933-5747
MHP/2SH Inter-Val 1175 Inc
Montréal PQ H3H 2P7
TÉL: (514) 933-8488
TÉLÉC: (514) 933-0332
MH/TH Logifem
2235, rue St-Jacques Ouest
Montréal PQ H3J 1H6
TÉL: (514) 939-3172
TÉLÉC: (514) 939-2719

Maison Dalauze
C.P. 162, Succ. Pointe-aux-Trembles
Montréal PQ H1B 5K3
TÉL: (514) 640-4210
(514) 640-4211
(514) 640-4239
TÉLÉC: (514) 640-0865
MH/TH Maison de l'Ancre
7930, boul. Pie IX
Montréal PQ H1Z 3T3
TÉL: (514) 374-5573
TÉLÉC: (514) 725-0774
MHP/2SH Maison Grise de Montréal (La)
5540, avenue Charlemagne
Montréal PQ H1X 2H7
TÉL: (514) 722-0009
TÉLÉC: (514) 722-1588

Maison Marguerite
1183, rue St-Mathieu
Montréal PQ H3H 2P7
TÉL: (514) 932-2250
TÉLÉC: (514) 932-5349
Maison Secours aux Femmes de Montréal
C.P. 97, Succ. Beaubien
Montréal PQ H2G 3C8
TÉL: (514) 593-6353
TÉLÉC: (514) 593-7241
MH/TH Multi-Femmes
C.P. 399, Succ. Delorimier
Montréal PQ H2H 2N7
TÉL: (514) 523-1095
Transit 24
C.P. 35042, 1221, rue Fleury Est
Montréal PQ H2C 3K4
TÉL: (514) 383-4994
(514) 383-0570
TÉLÉC: (514) 383-2735
Maison La Nacelle
C.P. 161
Nicolet PQ J3T 1A1
TÉL: (819) 293-6942
Maison d'Hébergement Orée de Pabos (L')
C.P. 347
Pabos PQ G0C 2H0
TÉL: (418) 689-6288
TÉLÉC: (418) 689-4956
Montée (La)
C.P. 430
Pointe-au-Pic PQ G0T 1M0
TÉL: (418) 665-4710
(418) 665-4694 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (418) 655-4510
MH/TH Maison de Lauberivière
401, rue St-Paul
C.P. 1393
Québec PQ G1K 7G7
TÉL: (418) 694-9316
TÉLÉC: (418) 694-7902
Maison des Femmes de Québec
C.P. 48023
Québec PQ G1R 5R5
TÉL: (418) 522-0042
TÉLÉC: (418) 522-8034
Maison Kinsmen - Marie Rollet
760, chemin Ste-Foy
Québec PQ G1S 2J5
TÉL: (418) 688-9024
TÉLÉC: (418) 688-4539
MH/TH Regard en Elle
C.P. 147
Repentigny PQ J6A 5H7
TÉL: (514) 582-6000
TÉLÉC: (514) 582-2206
MH/TH Débrouille (La)
C.P. 1477
Rimouski PQ G5L 8M3
TÉL: (418) 724-5067
TÉLÉC: (418) 724-7671

Auberge de l'Amitié Roberval (L')
374, rue Brassard
Roberval PQ G8H 2E1
TÉL: (418) 275-4574
TÉLÉC: (418) 275-5731
Alternative pour Elles
C.P. 1225
Rouyn-Noranda PQ J9X 6E3
TÉL: (819) 797-1754
TÉLÉC: (819) 797-9727
Refuge pour les Femmes de l'ouest de l'Ile
C.P. 203
Roxboro PQ H8Y 3E9
TÉL: (514) 620-9401
(514) 620-4845 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (514) 620-6555

La Maison, le Coin des Femmes, Sept-Iles
C.P. 278
Sept-Iles PQ G4R 4K5
TÉL: (418) 968-6446
(418) 962-8141 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (418) 968-1878
MH/TH Séjournelle (La)
C.P. 342
Shawinigan PQ G9N 6V1
TÉL: (819) 537-4181
(819) 537-8348 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (819) 536-0908
MHP/2SH Centre Ashpukun Mitshuap
C.P. 2214
Shefferville PQ G0G 2T0
TÉL: (418) 585-2082
(418) 585-3419 (crisis/urgence)
Escale de l'Estrie (L')
C.P. 762
Sherbrooke PQ J1H 5K7
TÉL: (819) 569-3611
TÉLÉC: (819) 569-6279
MH/TH Maison La Source
C.P. 585
Sorel PQ J3P 5N9
TÉL: (514) 743-8911
(514) 743-2821 (urgence/crisis)
MH/TH Havre l'Éclaircie Inc.
St-Georges Ouest PQ G5Y 4X2
TÉL: (418) 227-4570
(418) 227-1025 (urgence/crisis)
TÉLÉC: (418) 227-4570
Pavillon Marguerite de Champlain
C.P. 25, Succ. Laflèche
St-Hubert PQ J4T 3H5
TÉL: (514) 656-1946
TÉLÉC: (514) 656-3528
MH/TH Clé sur la Porte (La)
C.P. 505
St-Hyacinthe PQ J2S 7B8
TÉL: (514) 774-1843
TÉLÉC: (514) 774-9951
MH/TH Coup d'Elle Inc (Le)
C.P. 368
St-Jean-sur-Richelieu PQ J3B 6Z5
TÉL: (514) 346-1645
TÉLÉC: (514) 346-5641
Maison d'Ariane (La)
C.P. 35
St-Jérôme PQ J7Z 5T7
TÉL: (514) 432-9355
TÉLÉC: (514) 432-8005
MH/TH Mirépi Maison d'hébergement Inc.
C.P. 1679
St-Raymond PQ G0A 4G0
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July 19th, 2005, 11:42 AM
I will get help. And by the way she is not his biological daughter. I think this is why I am hurting so much, because at one point he treated her as if she was....Well something has changed, she is being pushed to the back burner with him, and I do not like the way he is with her anymore. As for custody...she is all mine. As for staying, I can not financially aford this place on my own, that's why I am looking for a smaller place. This place is way too big, for me

July 19th, 2005, 11:43 AM
I know how you feel in this situation, things got out of hand in my relationship and I knew I had to leave...except I did it there on the spot...the thought of living with him for one more night was making me crazy. I had to take my cat Blaze and all my stuff to my mothers house. It wasnt what I wanted to do but at that point there was no other you have family or friends you could stay with for a short while?

I wish you the best of luck...just keep your head up and everything will work itself out...

July 19th, 2005, 11:55 AM
I do wish you luck - I know some lawyers in Mtl if you need one. My sister is a lawyer there tho she stays as far from family law as possible for some reason (and to be honest, I am not sure I understand the stuff she teaches, lol). I think the info about women's shelters is good. There are some good people in the Mtl area - have you contacted social services if you need help? Financial and otherwise. Women's centers provide more than just a place to stay - they also have info on legal matters, medical stuff, custody - tho that seems to be OK. Could you get a friend or student to live with you until the lease is over - breaking a lease is never wise. Tho you could sublet it? And at the same time find a cheaper place - there are housing people at the universities who can help and social services can help there too.

Good luck!

July 19th, 2005, 11:59 AM
You know guys do this sort of thing all the time, they start treating you like crap and change their behaviour because they're cowards. He'd much rather see you end the relationship then do it himself. BECAUSE he's probably guilty of something like cheating on you.

Do yourself a favour and if you haven't been protecting yourself get to a doctor and get checked for std's.

He's truly a coward and you are better off without him.

I am sorry for the long list from before but Ican't read french and didnt know which one can help you. So what I say is you have ALL OF US here to guide and support you morally now go make some phone calls! Don't worry we'll be here when u get back!!

Who ya gonna call.....jerk busters!! HAHAH wouldn't that be a good business!

SMILE because something good is coming from this! :D

July 19th, 2005, 12:07 PM
You know guys do this sort of thing all the time, they start treating you like crap and change their behaviour because they're cowards. He'd much rather see you end the relationship then do it himself. BECAUSE he's probably guilty of something like cheating on you.

Do yourself a favour and if you haven't been protecting yourself get to a doctor and get checked for std's.

He's truly a coward and you are better off without him.

I am sorry for the long list from before but Ican't read french and didnt know which one can help you. So what I say is you have ALL OF US here to guide and support you morally now go make some phone calls! Don't worry we'll be here when u get back!!

Who ya gonna call.....jerk busters!! HAHAH wouldn't that be a good business!

SMILE because something good is coming from this! :D

Now that is what i call motivation!

Do you belong to a church? When my mom left her abusive boyfriend they found her a place to stay and helped with groceries etc...

Did you get angel from the SPCA (i think that is what you stated earlier not so sure) if so will they be willing to help you out with rehoming her/foster care?

July 19th, 2005, 01:58 PM
Good luck Rotti.

I always think of it this way. In a year. where will I be? Better off is the answer.

Things may seem impossible but nothing is impossible. You have more options then you think. Never ever look at the whole picture. Start off with one step. Complete that step. Pat on back. Continue on.

When your daughter grows up she will be so proud of her strong mommy. You are a great mom Rotti!

good luck and we are here for you.

July 19th, 2005, 02:35 PM
I think that the subletting is a good idea, unless it says something in your lease that forbids it. It sounds like you are scared of having a roommate - I'm sure that you could find someone who likes kids and dogs - but I am sure that you have your reasons for not wanting anyone else in the house.

I wish that I could help you - but I am really far away so all I can offer is a sympathetic ear and some encouragement. Take it one day at a time and before you know it, this will be a bad memory. I would definitely set up a bank account in just your name and start putting money in there that he can't get to/doesn't know about. Keep your chin up! :grouphug:

July 19th, 2005, 02:50 PM
SPCA will not foster an already adopted dog. I would not trust them, I picture her going right up for adoption, or euthanized. Could not live with myself if that happens. I am still looking for a place that will take her temp. I called a couple places, and they do not think they can help. I have a job, and He is not abusive....So it looks like I will be doing this on my own merit. I just need some time to talk to him and tell him, once I found a place. If before, he will pack up at leave me hanging with all the bills :(

July 19th, 2005, 02:57 PM
But you didn't get this place 'with' him you got it alone then dumbbell moved in right?

So if you have to borrow money from family for a couple of months or what have you get HIM to leave. That way your family stays intact.

Please call someone at one of those counselling facilities !! please!

July 19th, 2005, 03:47 PM
Rottielover, I just wanted to say that I've been following your posts about your dog issues & training and now this. Unfortunately I live quite far away and wish I could do something to help.

I think you are very smart to make sure you have all your finances and new place lined up ahead of time. Everyone here has given you some excellent resources to check out and I hope you do.

Whatever the situation that caused the decision to leave your BF is, you have a young daughter and two dogs to look out for as well as yourself. If things just fell apart and you two can no longer live together you are making the right decision. It's better to work your way through this now and be happy than suffer in silence and be miserable.

I lived with someone for 5 years, the last year of that relationship was cold, there was no violence or even arguing but no signs of love, affection, even cuddling on the couch. I couldn't live with that type of life with someone I imagined to be a partner for life and I left. I'm with someone I love and adores dogs as much as I, there is love, laughter and the occasional argument. It took another 5 years to fid that person.

July 19th, 2005, 05:56 PM
Hey Rotti - I just had to join the others here who've said they wish they lived close enough to do more.. I swear to you if I weren't a thousand miles away we'd give you and your tribe a room upstairs til you could get settled! It's very important that you do what you believe is best for you and your family. Be proud of yourself for taking the initiative. Don't give up. It'll work out.

July 26th, 2005, 07:50 AM
This is coming in kind of late.Eight years ago I was in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic with a violent temper.I was really lucky to have great family and friends.I got out with two dogs,three cats,an african grey and a four year old daughter.I don't know if you still need somewere for Angel but I may be able to help.If you're interested either e-mail or pm me.Believe me get out you'll nevere regret it just make sure you cover yourself I didn't and ended up paying for him having a great time.

July 26th, 2005, 07:53 AM
Angel has been placed in a new home and Rottielover is looking for a roommate as of Nov 1, I believe.

August 1st, 2005, 09:44 AM
After a long time searching for my own place, I found one. Alittle pricey, but they are actually willing to take a chance with my Rottie( Harley) It is on the first floor, easy access for play time, and pee pee time. A park close by. I am going on sat to fill out an application. If I am accepted, I will have my own place. That will let me keep him. I have called over 100 hundred adds in the past week and a half, every single one that allows dogs, will not allow a rottweiler. So I count myself very lucky with this place. Cross your fingers that I get accepted PLEASE......

August 1st, 2005, 09:53 AM
Hope you get accepted,wish you had waited and kept Angel. :sad:

August 1st, 2005, 10:22 AM
She never would have been happy in apt setting, and not as much exercise. She is happy, I had a phone call from the adopters, and she has fit right in, and sleeps with the kids :)

August 1st, 2005, 02:04 PM
Did u find a house or apt??

August 1st, 2005, 05:49 PM
apt, on the 1st floor