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A tongue in cheek letter to those that abandon their pets

mafiaprincess
June 25th, 2005, 08:03 PM
I found this on another board I visit, and after seeing so many animals dumped lately, I guess it's getting to me..


Dear Mr. and Mrs. Average Idiot,


We receive an extremely high volume of inquiries and requests to accept surrendered animals. To help us expedite your problem as quickly as possible, please observe the following guidelines:

1. Do not say that you are, "considering finding a good home," or, "feel you might be forced to," or, "really think it would be better if," you unloaded the poor beast. Ninety-five percent of you already have your minds stone-cold made up that the animal will be out of your life by the weekend or holiday at the latest. Say so. If you don't, I'm going to waste a lot of time giving you common-sense, easy solutions for very fixable problems, and you're going to waste a lot of time coming up with fanciful reasons why the solution couldn't possibly work for you. For instance, you say the cat claws the furniture, and I tell you about nail-clipping and scratching posts and aversion training, and then you go into a long harangue about how your husband won't let you put a scratching post in the family room, and your ADHD daughter cries if you use a squirt bottle on the cat, and your congenital thumb abnormalities prevent you from using nail scissors and etc., etc. Just say you're getting rid of the cat.

2. Do not waste time trying to convince me how nice and humane you are. Your coworker recommended that you contact me because I am nice to animals, not because I am nice to people, and I don't like people who "get rid of" their animals. "Get rid of," is my least favorite phrase in any language. I hope someone, "gets rid of" you someday. I am an animal advocate, not a people therapist. After all, you can get counselors, special teachers, doctors, social workers, etc., for your ADHD daughter. Your pet has only me, and people like me, to turn to in his or her need, and we are overworked, stressed-out, and demoralized. So don't tell me this big long story about how, "We love this dog so much, and we even bought him a special bed that cost $50, and it is just killing us to part with him, but honestly, our maid is just awash in dog hair every time she cleans, and his breath sometimes just reeks of liver, so you can see how hard we've tried, and how dear he is to us, but we really just can't ... ."

You are not nice, and it is not killing you. It is, in all probability, literally killing your dog, but you're going to be just fine once the beast is out of your sight. Don't waste my time trying to make me like you or feel sorry for you in your plight.

3. Do not try to convince me that your pet is exceptional and deserves special treatment. I don't care if you taught him to sit. I don't care if she's a beautiful Persian. I have a waiting list of battered and/or whacked-out animals who really need help, and I have no room to shelter your pet because you decided you no longer have time for your 14-year-old Lab. Do not send me long messages detailing how Fido just l-o-v-e-s blankies and carries his favorite blankie everywhere, and oh, when he gets all excited and happy, he spins around in circles, isn't that cute? He really is darling, so it wouldn't be any trouble at all for us to find him a good home. Listen, we can go down to the pound and count the darling, spinning, blankie-loving beasts on death row by the dozens, any day of the week. And, honey, Fido is a six-year-old shepherd-mix weighing 75 pounds. I am not lying when I tell you big, older, mixed-breed, garden-variety dogs are almost always completely unadoptable, and I don't care if they can whistle Dixie or send smoke signals with their blankies. What you don't realize, though you're trying to lie to me, you're actually telling the truth: Your pet is a special, wonderful, amazing creature. But this mean old world does not care. More importantly, you do not care, and I can't fix that problem.

All I can do is grieve for all the exceptional animals who live short, brutal, loveless lives and die without anyone ever recognizing they were indeed very, very special.

4. Finally, just, for God' s sake, for the animal's sake, tell the truth, and the whole truth. Do you think if you just mumble your cat is, "high-strung," I will say, "Okey-dokey! No problem!" and take it into foster care? No, I will start asking questions and uncover the truth, which is your cat has not used a litter box in the last six months. Do not tell me you "can't" crate your dog. I will ask what happens when you try to crate him, and you will either be forced to tell me the symptoms of full-blown, severe separation anxiety, or else you will resort to lying some more, wasting more time.

And, if you succeed in placing your pet in a shelter or foster care, do not tell yourself the biggest lie of all: "Those nice people will take him and find him a good home, and everything will be fine." Those nice people will indeed give the animal every possible chance, but if we discover serious health or behavior problems, if we find that your misguided attempts to train or discipline him have driven him over the edge, we will do what you are too immoral and cowardly to do: We will hold the animal in our arms, telling him truthfully he is a good dog or cat, telling him truthfully we are sorry and we love him, while the vet ends his life. How can we be so heartless as to kill your pet, you ask?

Do not ever dare to judge us.


At least we tried. At least we stuck with him to the end. At least we never abandoned him to strangers, as you certainly did, didn't you? In short, this little old rescuer/foster momma has reached the point where she would prefer you tell it like it is:

"We picked up a free pet in a parking lot a couple of years ago. Now we don't want it anymore. We're lazier than we thought. We've got no patience either. We're starting to suspect the animal is really smarter than we are, which is giving us self-esteem issues. Clearly, we can't possibly keep it. Plus, it might be getting sick; it's acting kind of funny. "We would like you to take it in eagerly, enthusiastically, and immediately. We hope you'll realize what a deal you're getting and not ask us for a donation to help defray your costs. After all, this is an (almost) pure-bred animal, and we'll send the leftover food along with it. We get it at the discount store, and boy, it's a really good deal. "We are very irritated you haven't shown pity on us in our great need and picked the animal up already.We thought you people were supposed to be humane! Come and get it today. No, we couldn't possibly bring it to you; the final episode of 'Survivor' is on tonight."

~~Author Unknown

Dogastrophe
June 25th, 2005, 10:11 PM
Excellent post. If I may, I'm going to add to it by posting the dogs view of things. I pulled this off the Fredericton SPCA site:
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How Could You?
By Jim Willis

When I was a puppy I entertained you with my antics and made you laugh. You called me your child and despite a number of chewed shoes and a couple of murdered throw pillows, I became your best friend. Whenever I was "bad," you'd shake your finger at me and ask "How could you?" - but then you'd relent and roll me over for a bellyrub.

My housetraining took a little longer than expected, because you were terribly busy, but we worked on that together. I remember those nights of nuzzling you in bed, listening to your confidences and secret dreams, and I believed that life could not be any more perfect. We went for long walks and runs in the park, car rides, stops for ice cream (I only got the cone because "ice cream is bad for dogs," you said), and I took long naps in the sun waiting for you to come home at the end of the day.

Gradually, you began spending more time at work and on your career, and more time searching for a human mate. I waited for you patiently, comforted you through heartbreaks and disappointments, never chided you about bad decisions, and romped with glee at your homecomings, and when you fell in love.

She, now your wife, is not a "dog person" - still I welcomed her into our home, tried to show her affection, and obeyed her. I was happy because you were happy. Then the human babies came along and I shared your excitement. I was fascinated by their pinkness, how they smelled, and I wanted to mother them, too. Only she and you worried that I might hurt them, and I spent most of my time banished to another room, or to a dog crate. Oh, how I wanted to love them, but I became a "prisoner of love."

As they began to grow, I became their friend. They clung to my fur and pulled themselves up on wobbly legs, poked fingers in my eyes, investigated my ears and gave me kisses on my nose. I loved everything about them, especially their touch - because your touch was now so infrequent - and I would have defended them with my life if need be.

I would sneak into their beds and listen to their worries and secret dreams. Together we waited for the sound of your car in the driveway. There had been a time, when others asked you if you had a dog, that you produced a photo of me from your wallet and told them stories about me. These past few years, you just answered "yes" and changed the subject. I had gone from being your dog to "just a dog," and you resented every expenditure on my behalf.

Now you have a new career opportunity in another city and you and they will be moving to an apartment that does not allow pets. You've made the right decision for your "family," but there was a time when I was your only family.

I was excited about the car ride until we arrived at the animal shelter. It smelled of dogs and cats, of fear, of hopelessness. You filled out the paperwork and said "I know you will find a good home for her." They shrugged and gave you a pained look. They understand the realities facing a middle-aged dog or cat, even one with "papers."

You had to pry your son's fingers loose from my collar as he screamed "No, Daddy! Please don't let them take my dog!" And I worried for him and what lessons you had just taught him about friendship and loyalty, about love and responsibility, and about respect for all life. You gave me a goodbye pat on the head, avoided my eyes, and politely refused to take my collar and leash with you. You had a deadline to meet and now I have one, too.

After you left, the two nice ladies said you probably knew about your upcoming move months ago and made no attempt to find me another good home. They shook their heads and asked "How could you?"

They are as attentive to us here in the shelter as their busy schedules allow. They feed us, of course, but I lost my appetite days ago. At first, whenever anyone passed my pen, I rushed to the front, hoping it was you - that you had changed your mind - that this was all a bad dream...or I hoped it would at least be someone who cared, anyone who might save me. When I realized I could not compete with the frolicking for attention of happy puppies, oblivious to their own fate, I retreated to a far corner and waited.

I heard her footsteps as she came for me at the end of the day and I padded along the aisle after her to a separate room. A blissfully quiet room. She placed me on the table, rubbed my ears and told me not to worry. My heart pounded in anticipation of what was to come, but there was also a sense of relief. The prisoner of love had run out of days. As is my nature, I was more concerned about her. The burden which she bears weighs heavily on her and I know that, the same way I knew your every mood.

She gently placed a tourniquet around my foreleg as a tear ran down her cheek. I licked her hand in the same way I used to comfort you so many years ago. She expertly slid the hypodermic needle into my vein. As I felt the sting and the cool liquid coursing through my body, I lay down sleepily, looked into her kind eyes and murmured "How could you?"

Perhaps because she understood my dogspeak, she said "I'm so sorry." She hugged me and hurriedly explained it was her job to make sure I went to a better place, where I wouldn't be ignored or abused or abandoned, or have to fend for myself - a place of love and light so very different from this earthly place. With my last bit of energy, I tried to convey to her with a thump of my tail that my "How could you?" was not meant for her. It was you, My Beloved Master, I was thinking of. I will think of you and wait for you forever.

May everyone in your life continue to show you so much loyalty.

mafiaprincess
June 25th, 2005, 10:35 PM
I hope you don't mind me crossposting (with credit of course)

I'm just too emotional about pets lately.. and I'm only on the edges of rescue.

Dogastrophe
June 25th, 2005, 10:41 PM
I hope you don't mind me crossposting (with credit of course)

I'm just too emotional about pets lately.. and I'm only on the edges of rescue.

Feel free to cross post. I can't see any reason why not (then again I'm not the copyright holder :D ). When I first saw this on their site, it was not credited to anyone. I now see that they have indicated that it was written by Jim Willis (http://www.crean.com/jimwillis/).

mafiaprincess
June 25th, 2005, 11:06 PM
Thank you, I included the website asking people to include it if they crosspost it.

coppperbelle
June 27th, 2005, 05:40 PM
Last week I picked up a foster. She is only 6 months old and has been abandoned twice in her short life. The first time she was found as a stray on the streets of MOntreal. The second time her owner at least had the decency to contact a rescue. Her problem was that she mouthed and jumped on everyone. Keep in mind that this dog looks like a full fledge golden retriever and probably is as she also has all the traits of a golden.
Within a few days the mouthing issue is resolved (she will bark when frustrated instead) and she no longer jumps on the counters or people. All this in less than a week. Time and patience is all it took to solve this dogs problem. Tonight a potential adopter is coming to see her and with luck she will be going home on Thursday with her new mom. Good thing because I have become so attached and if she stays any longer she will staying forever. :D
I loved your letter. It says it all. If anyone wants to read another version go to our web site: www.goldenrescuequebec.com
While the people leave a lot to be desired in rescue seeing the success some animals make, makes it all worth while.

Cookie's Mom
July 17th, 2005, 07:48 PM
All of our four pets were abandoned, three in our neighborhood, and one found starving in a wooded area.
You can learn much about a person from observing how they ineract with animals. Something to ponder.......almost all serial killers begin by killing and/or torturing animals.
Animals are the only beings on earth who are incapable of prejudice, who love unconditionally, who don't care about impressing someone, who don't care how they look or how we look, who will be loyal to their owners, sometimes, even if their "owners" abuse them. Many people who have pets, don't deserve them.
From what I know of the human race, in general, I much prefer the company of animals to the company of many humans. God bless the creatures, great and small, over which we have been given "dominion", and who are FAR superior to us in so many ways.

Cookie's Mom
July 18th, 2005, 11:22 PM
Two of our three cats were abandoned by the same person, when she and her family moved. We found out later that they moved to another home IN OUR NEIGHBORHOOD. A few years after she abandoned the cats, she actually had the audacity to show up at our front door, wanting to see the cats. Hubbie told her, "I don't think so." :thumbs up

mom_to_many
March 20th, 2006, 08:34 PM
Wow...no matter where I surf the net for help with something animal related....I find myself right back here!! I was looking for a polite way to deal with the "owners" of all the loose and abandoned dogs in town. I had 5 different ones "visit" my house today...weather is wet and cold.. My son and his GF just took another feline fur baby (4-5 mos) that had been forced outside because she unplugged the fridge?! I find that real hard to believe.

Anyways...back on the subject at hand...this is a VERY SMALL town with quite a few SMALL MINDED people when it comes to cats and dogs. The Editor of our local paper is very animal oriented and I think she would publish a letter that is done in a polite way to explain:

#1. Why they aquired the pet in the first place.

#2. How dependant the pet is..food, health, love, shelter

3# The trials and tribulations of said pet...puppy and kitten years...adult and sick. SPAY AND NEUTER!!

#4 What to responsibly do when said pet is no longer wanted

#5 What they are putting the pet through when pet is abandoned or let out to run the streets.


WE all know, but this is a very backwoods area here...just a dog...damn cats..



I have a real hard time being polite about certain things...this being one of them. I cannot write about this without anger and prejudice. Hence, it will not get published...been there before.

The headliner will be "Could this be written by your pet?" Of course I will put the descriptions of all my visitors also.

Any and ALL input will be greatly appreciated.. Oh the reason for the rant tonight was the little beagle at my fence...all wet and forlorn looking....I was going to bring him in...but can't get close to him:sad:

THANKs TO ALL OF YOU FOR THIS SITE!!

mom_to_many
March 20th, 2006, 09:03 PM
This is the cutie thrown out in the cold for unplugging the fridge? Gimme a break...I would love to keep her....but 6 is enough:sad: 15260

mom_to_many
March 21st, 2006, 12:07 AM
Ok, I might have to change the title, and this is a real rough draft. Critics welcome!


Today I had 5 visitors at my house. All had 4 legs and tails that wagged. Some with collars, some without.Today was cold and rainy and I couldn't help but wonder why on this day were my visitors out?
Where were the owners of these visitors with fur? Do they know where their animals are? I think not; as this is not their first visit to my porch.
The visitors were of various breeds and size. One stood out above all. A little Beagle at my back fence all wet and sad. I would bring him in, if he would let me. But all my visitors seem a little skiddish. Do they really have a home I wonder?
I think of my own fur kids and how lucky they must feel when these cold, wet visitors come around. They know they have a warm house, full bellies, fresh water and a human with a soft touch and warm heart. They also know that I know they cannot survive without me.
What would happen if I were to abandon them or turn them loose everyday?
Well, it would be dodge ball with cars, bb's and birdshot, food out of trash cans; bigger, more aggressive dogs/cats.....or Animal Control. Those that are abandoned will live this life until death. And may death come quickly for those who would otherwise suffer.
Or maybe this is all a horrible dream as I could never abandon my pets. They are my fur children who rely on me for EVERYTHING! In return I get purrs, tail wags, and doggie kisses!
Yes we have had our share of ups and downs. Scraping up money for spay and neuters, vaccinations, fixing holes in the fence, fixing dirt holes under the fence, carpet cleaning, a trip or two to the sewer ponds and the bond money to bail the escapee out (better than a burial!) But this is what owning an animal is all about! If you do not have the time or money to "deal" with a pet, please do not get one. If you already own one and are considering abandonment, PLEASE take it to the Woodward Shelter or have the City call Animal Control out of Jet. Both facilities are great with placements, and the animal gets a second chance. And if needs to be euthanized, I'm sorry. But it is more humane than abandonment.

WELL????????????????????? :)

twodogsandacat
March 21st, 2006, 08:29 AM
That's a great letter. They will still abandon their pets but at least they will have some chance without a horrible and slow death.

Only one recommendation: I would replace the word "skiddish" with "skittish" but that's it.

mom_to_many
March 21st, 2006, 09:59 AM
Thank-you!

Byrd
March 21st, 2006, 10:49 PM
I don't know how anyone could do such a thing. Just the thought of giving up Willow upsets me. No matter what, I have made a commitment for 15 or so years! She's my child... would a person give up their human child that easily?

I am going on a trip soon, and my mom will be watching her, if I couldn't find anyone to watch her I would take her to a nearby kennel that has a play all day program (no matter what the cost). The hardest thing for me is people that give up an animal because they are too lazy to find somewhere for them to stay while on vacation (my own sister did this... still a sore spot to this day between us).

But, then, I am a true dog owner, it's not a whim, it's a commitment.

That second post made me bawl, something that doesn't happen easily. :(

mafiaprincess
March 24th, 2006, 12:02 AM
It's good. I hope it's published.

mom_to_many
March 24th, 2006, 01:23 AM
I hope to give it to the Editor tomorrow.. And the owner of the kitten above came in to where I work today...He got a polite earful on how to deal with babies, baby proofing and a big "you do not just throw the kitten out after making her a pet"...chicken "you know what"...said NOT ONE WORD! OK, family site...I'm done! lol

chico2
March 24th, 2006, 07:52 AM
Mom-to-many,what happened to that little beauty??
That little face is just saying"Please love me":sad:

catsnatcher-CDN
March 24th, 2006, 08:47 AM
I hope to give it to the Editor tomorrow.. And the owner of the kitten above came in to where I work today...He got a polite earful on how to deal with babies, baby proofing and a big "you do not just throw the kitten out after making her a pet"...chicken "you know what"...said NOT ONE WORD! OK, family site...I'm done! lol

I don't know how people think..When I went to feed my homeless 5 yesterday, as I have been daily for the last 3 years (while losing sleep trying to home them), the kitties were looking at this older lady on the street who had stopped in my alley to watch them. When she saw me, she pointed to the tiger and said (get ready for it): " That one use to be mine."

I was in shock, I couldn't answer her. I wouldn't have said anything nice, anyway.

She walked away, I went to feed her cat! :mad:

mastifflover
March 24th, 2006, 09:14 AM
This is one subject that makes me fume. I was at the Humane Society last year when this couple came into dump their dog. The usual excuse we are having a baby and can't keep the dog. So since I do not work there I added my unwanted 2 cents. I asked them if they will be giving up there first child when they decide to have a second one since they can not even care for a dog with a child how the hell will you manage 2 kids? The guy started to get really pissy with me and said it was none of my business and I said it is because I am one of those people who try and find your abandonded animal a new home. With with people like you dumping animals for no good reason. The rescues and humane society and animal control are bursting with animals because of people like you. So once you leave here without your dog who would probably lie down his life to protect you cannot be adopted and is euthanized I am sure you will not lose one moment of sleep. Well when you are old or no longer of use to your kids maybe they will dump you off at some old age home and just forget about you. Well the wife was in tears said we are not doing this and grabbed the dog and ran out. I thought the guy was going to slug me but I also think it was his idea to get rid of the dog. I hope they kept the dog but it makes me so mad. I cancelled a vacation because I could not find someone I trusted to take care of Bud. Oh well next vacation will be a road trip with Bud. My guy is here for life. He has been through enough in his life before he came to me.

catsnatcher-CDN
March 24th, 2006, 09:40 AM
This is one subject that makes me fume. I was at the Humane Society last year when this couple came into dump their dog. The usual excuse we are having a baby and can't keep the dog. So since I do not work there I added my unwanted 2 cents. I asked them if they will be giving up there first child when they decide to have a second one since they can not even care for a dog with a child how the hell will you manage 2 kids? The guy started to get really pissy with me and said it was none of my business and I said it is because I am one of those people who try and find your abandonded animal a new home. With with people like you dumping animals for no good reason. The rescues and humane society and animal control are bursting with animals because of people like you. So once you leave here without your dog who would probably lie down his life to protect you cannot be adopted and is euthanized I am sure you will not lose one moment of sleep. Well when you are old or no longer of use to your kids maybe they will dump you off at some old age home and just forget about you. Well the wife was in tears said we are not doing this and grabbed the dog and ran out. I thought the guy was going to slug me but I also think it was his idea to get rid of the dog. I hope they kept the dog but it makes me so mad. I cancelled a vacation because I could not find someone I trusted to take care of Bud. Oh well next vacation will be a road trip with Bud. My guy is here for life. He has been through enough in his life before he came to me.

THAT'S RIGHT! GOOD FOR YOU! :thumbs up
I'm close to letting someone have it too!

chico2
March 24th, 2006, 09:41 AM
Cat-snatcher,I admire your restraint!
I would have given this woman an earful,just to vent my own frustration:evil:
She obviously has no problems having someone else care for"her"cat.
OMG,I hate all these heartless cruel people and I hope they all get their deserves one day:mad: but unfortunately it seems to be people who care,who are suffering the most and the poor animals.

mastifflover
March 24th, 2006, 10:08 AM
I feel that most don't care but if one changes there mind it helps. I usually say what I think and it is not always a popular choice but oh well. I feel for those who are trying to deal with these morons and must keep a check on what they can say. I am sure there are a lot of bitten tongues at the end of the day. My hats off to all of the rescue workers you have a really hard job that breaks your heart daily. I am sure. Just helping out breaks mine. But when you place a dog in a forever home it sure does feel good.

mom_to_many
March 24th, 2006, 10:40 AM
The older I get the less I bite my tongue and the more I bark!! The kitten is now with my son and his GF..but I have a feeling she will become a member of my house as the GF's dad may not let them keep her...have to convince him that 2 will keep each other occupied and out of trouble!! I also saw that A/C was in town 2 nights ago and my visits have all but stopped. Let one owner complain....I might need bail money!;)

chico2
March 24th, 2006, 04:43 PM
Mom to many,I'm happy for that little sweet kitten,either way he'll have a home:thumbs up
I find as I am getting older and older:D I do not put up with any bull from anyone,it does not matter from whom(evil old woman:D ),whether I know the people or not.
I would not do well in rescue,other than I would try my darndest to help the animals,the evil owners,I would club over the head:pawprint: and off to jail I would go!

mastifflover
March 24th, 2006, 04:48 PM
and off to jail I would go!
We will take up a collection and bail you out.

chico2
March 24th, 2006, 04:54 PM
Awwww thank's:love:

Writing4Fun
March 24th, 2006, 04:56 PM
I was at the Humane Society last year when this couple came into dump their dog. The usual excuse we are having a baby and can't keep the dog. So since I do not work there I added my unwanted 2 cents. I asked them if they will be giving up there first child when they decide to have a second one since they can not even care for a dog with a child how the hell will you manage 2 kids? The guy started to get really pissy with me and said it was none of my business and I said it is because I am one of those people who try and find your abandonded animal a new home. With with people like you dumping animals for no good reason. The rescues and humane society and animal control are bursting with animals because of people like you. So once you leave here without your dog who would probably lie down his life to protect you cannot be adopted and is euthanized I am sure you will not lose one moment of sleep. Well when you are old or no longer of use to your kids maybe they will dump you off at some old age home and just forget about you. Well the wife was in tears said we are not doing this and grabbed the dog and ran out. I thought the guy was going to slug me but I also think it was his idea to get rid of the dog. I hope they kept the dog but it makes me so mad. I cancelled a vacation because I could not find someone I trusted to take care of Bud. Oh well next vacation will be a road trip with Bud. My guy is here for life. He has been through enough in his life before he came to me. Yeah!! :highfive: OMG, I just about cheered when reading this post! Good for you! It's about time these people get told the truth. :mad: I bet, had they gotten rid of this dog, they'd probably get a new puppy in a few years because the child asked for one. Oh, I hope more rescue workers tell it like it is. Gosh! Getting rid of the dog because you're having a baby! :evil: That's the most insane thing I've ever heard. Our dog was 8 when we had our first child. There was NO WAY she was going anywhere. Know what? She was my son't first best friend. She died when he was 3, and he still talks about what a great dog she was and how he misses her - it's been 3 1/2 years now. :angel: See? I could never work in rescue. I'd forever be getting in trouble with people like this. Excuse me. I have to go hug my dog now. :pawprint:

mom_to_many
March 25th, 2006, 01:44 AM
WOOHOO...Teri said she would print the letter!! I don't know how much she will change..but I will show the printed version!! Oh and Shayla...the above Kitty is here for the weekend....she is soooooo sweet!!

maigrey
March 28th, 2006, 02:53 PM
While its one thing to get rid of your pet, its something entirely different to justify it so that you're doing them a favor.

When I was 13 and living in New Zealand, I decided to get a cat. And my parents, bless them, agreed even though they knew nothing about cat-rearing, so all the how-tos were provided by me. And I'm sad to say that I made one critical error at that time and it was that I did not get my cat spayed before her first litter of kittens. I didn't even realize she was pregnant till quite a ways down the line. Cutting the story short, she had three kittens - beautiful creatures. We gave two to the SPCA and I kept the eldest (the one that crawled the wrong way just after he was born and pee-d on me once). My dad and I went back once after we donated the kittens and one of them had already been adopted. (A few years down the line my dad confessed that he went back a second time and would have taken the other one back had he not been adopted - which he had been).

And years later, although they were kittens and although I was 13-14, I still take responsibility for that. I should have gotten her spayed and I still think about the other two kittens and pray that they're somewhere safe and happy and that if they aren't, its my fault. It breaks my heart sometimes, so I can't even imagine how people could leave animals they've had for years at a shelter with poor odds of being adopted.

Oh and if you're wondering what happened to my other two cats, well just imagining them confused and alone at a shelter was so unbarable that I took a firm stance when my parents said we were moving to Canada. "If my cats don't go, I don't go." My mother wasn't so keen on spending $1,500 NZD shipping my sweeties but my dad's half-hearted arguements went down like a house of cards. I mean, how can anyone leave their pets alone, in a small cage, waiting for something better that might not come? And JUSTIFY it?

I really hope that Buffy and Scampers (I was 14) are somewhere in New Zealand, safe and happy and loved though. I hope that with all my heart.

sealady
April 17th, 2006, 12:11 AM
I have three terriers, but a fourth has been added.
The ad said small female terrier, $25.00.
Being in rescue I didn't want someone taking her that didn't understand terriers so a call was made and off I went to see her.
I found a 11 month old 9 pound little thing tied up outside.
The guy was mad because she was digging and wild acting.
I found out I was to be her fourth owner, why?
Because no one knew Terriers were so "wild"
I just could not send her on, one look at that happy face as she tried to jump in my car, she just seemed to know, I have a forever home.
Yes she has problems, she lunges at big dogs and barks as if she could bite them.
I have no idea what caused this, maybe a dog tried to fight with her while she was tied up, I only know I will work with her and love her.
She fast became my shadow, waking me up with kisses and always so happy to see me.
Don't people read up on a dog before they get it?
Don't they check to see what it's like, how big it will get?
I have even heard of someone getting rid of the dog because he didn't match the furniture anymore.
As long as I live I will never understand how someone can look into those big soft eyes and then turn them over to a dog shelter.
I foster and it breaks my heart to send them on to their forever home.
But I tell myself, I was the way they took to get home.
SeaLady

meb999
April 17th, 2006, 10:18 PM
You guys are awesome! I love this Board.

I posted this letter on another pets board (on their 'rescue' forum) and got quite the slamming for it. I was told that I'm insensitive.



This is a rescue forum. On a publically accessible website with nearly 40,000 members. You thought only those involved in rescue could view it or post here? If that were the case, YOU could not have posted here (the forum software doesn't have ESP). Sorry, but if you post an aggressive (near abusive) letter like that - with no disclaimer or explanation whatsoever - on a publically accessible website where the majority of members experience rescue from the position of adopter or of being the one giving up a pet, well you've got to anticipate that the majority of feelings won't be the same as yours.

If you want to "vent" frustrations, write your own letter But remember to put in a proper context. I doubt that anyone here would fail to have sympathy with someone sick of seeing the ugly side of humaity when it comes to pets treated as disposable objects. But if you just slap an anonymous letter like that one up - which comes across as decidedly applying to anyone giving up a pet for any reason, and (frankly) as more than a little self centered, then you'd be expecting rather a lot if you thought everyone would be sympathetic and nobody felt attacked.

Yowsa. I feel terrible. I got slammed BIG TIME -- totally flamed. That post was written by the moderator. I feel terrible.
I also feel like an IDIOT. I kept apoligizing and saying the letter was meant to vent rescuer's frustrations -- although I feel pretty bad because I said 'rescuers like me' -- I volunteer, but in NO WAY deserve to be classified as a rescuer!! I guess I just got defensive!

Here's another reply I got :

And why do you suppose that animals are dropped off at the side of a road, or drowned in garbage bags or tied to a fence outside the shelters??? Some believe that's better than having to be judged by some self-righteous snob who assumes you're just another one of those low-lifes!!

Yowsa again!!

meb999
April 17th, 2006, 11:55 PM
It's retarded -- I don't even KNOW these people, and it REALLY bothers me that I got flamed. I feel horrible. I feel like a b**ch!!

mom_to_many
April 18th, 2006, 09:02 AM
Maybe you should "invite" them to check this forum out!!;)

Lucky Rescue
April 18th, 2006, 11:55 AM
And why do you suppose that animals are dropped off at the side of a road, or drowned in garbage bags or tied to a fence outside the shelters???

And they are so understanding of someone who would drown a kitten in a garbage bag rather than be "judged" - someone who feels this is a viable option for "getting rid" of their pet? Who are the people who "believe" this?

judged by some self-righteous snob who assumes you're just another one of those low-lifes!!

And just WHO is being judgemental here? "Self righteous snob"???

phoenix
April 18th, 2006, 01:15 PM
Hey marie-eve,
I saw that you were slammed on bw... it's locked so I can't be of any help to defend you!!!!
Happily, some of the posters (in fact, the majority that are actually involved in rescues) were very supportive of you. You have as much right to vent as they do. A lot of the people slamming you were just being defensive.
I was once slammed on bw for making an anti-hunting comment. A poster had talked about wrapping his dog in his coat as he took aim at a poor deer... and his intention was to show how caring he was. I wasn't impressed but boy oh boy did I get it!!
When I joined this forum, incidentally, I couldn't believe how nice and 'moderate' the moderators are. Sometimes I find on that site they can be very very harsh and opinionated which leads to bad feelings.
:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

chico2
April 18th, 2006, 05:01 PM
meb999,I am hoping this other Forum is not a Pet-Forum,if they think it's perfectly ok to dump animals,for whatever lame reasons people have,how can they call themselves a pet-forum.
Sorry you had to get such an ignorant response,clearly not from an animal-lover.:sad:

Prin
April 18th, 2006, 05:07 PM
After reading that slam and super flamage, this site seems a little more comfortable and free... :) People here used to complain about sensorship, but that is totally bizarre. I mean, I reread the letter and general public or not, animal lovers in whatever vocation should read it without offense... No?

Don't feel bad MEB. It's them, not you.

meb999
April 18th, 2006, 07:05 PM
you guys are awesome -- I feel a little better....
I guess I just wasn't prepared to get in so much trouble :o I forgot to put on my flame-proof suit!!

meb999
April 18th, 2006, 07:08 PM
meb999,I am hoping this other Forum is not a Pet-Forum,if they think it's perfectly ok to dump animals,for whatever lame reasons people have,how can they call themselves a pet-forum.:

yup it's a 'pet forum' -- One I don't care to go back to!!

Prin
April 18th, 2006, 11:41 PM
With 40 000 members, it must take forever to catch up with the posts every day.. no?:eek:

phoenix
April 19th, 2006, 07:58 AM
ya it does... there are usually 10 pages of new ones waiting when I go there...:)
Don't quit that board meb, they're not all bad...

mastifflover
April 19th, 2006, 11:23 AM
You certainly did not deserve that. What do these people want to coddle these people who think nothing of dumping their pets. By supporting them and not wanting to hurt their feelings they will never learn anything. Protect the abusers always a good thing sounds like our government. Oops did I say that out loud

meb999
April 19th, 2006, 05:27 PM
sounds like our government. Oops did I say that out loud

LOL!!

Don't quit that board meb, they're not all bad...

I'm sure they aren't -- but I'd rather come here...where the people are friendly :D
So I'll stick around here, where the moderators are moderate and let you have an opinion! Ok, well I'm off to the 'reporting posts' thread to report myself for being a suck-up!!

Anyways, I think I've been branded a b**ch on that forum!!

Prin
April 19th, 2006, 07:04 PM
Yeah, but I was the b***h here when I started (hey some people probably still think that)- that's no reason to stop if you like it.:D ;)

mastifflover
April 19th, 2006, 07:34 PM
We have a sign in our production office "You call me a b**tch like that is a bad thing"

phoenix
April 19th, 2006, 07:36 PM
:confused: Prin, you were????? I just can't see that.
Meb, well, I'm on there and I don't think you are a b*... although, like mastifflover says, is it really a bad thing?!:)

Prin
April 19th, 2006, 11:43 PM
:confused: Prin, you were????? I just can't see that.
Meb, well, I'm on there and I don't think you are a b*... although, like mastifflover says, is it really a bad thing?!:)
lol luckily I have so many posts now that my first ones are long gone! :D
I agree though- if anybody's a b it ain't MEB.

mafiaprincess
April 24th, 2006, 02:21 AM
Meb, I posted this letter here, and one other pet forum.. and on the other one I was flamed like no tomorrow.. Too many of them were apparently compulsive dumpers of animals, cause a 'new' one is always a 'better' one..
It was so bad I contemplated deleting the letter from here, but when I got back to it, there was no flaming, thankfully. Made me greatful that this board was pro rescue and anti mill, byb, pet shops, etc. Made it easier to want to stay here...