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wedding gift help

lilith_rizel
June 14th, 2005, 09:48 PM
Ok, we have decided to buy my father and his bride to be their wedding gift early, as we are going to get something from online, being that we won't be able to attned the wedding. We are having troubles trying to think of what to get them. We don't want to get kitchen stuff, or anything that they would need, as they probably would have it already. James suggested getting them something that they could start collecting ie, my friend collects precious moments....

Any suggestions?

Safyre
June 14th, 2005, 09:51 PM
what types of hobbies do they have? second marriage ...? do they collect anything already? techno man or not..
lots of questions.. i LOVE present buying

JDG
June 14th, 2005, 09:56 PM
Why not just ask them.

Why do you think so many people register for gifts?? :p

When I got married, I did a register and it helped people know what I wanted, and for those that didn't get us something off the register - it gave them an idea of styles and things we like. . . .

Safyre
June 14th, 2005, 09:56 PM
that takes the fun outta it JDG!

JDG
June 14th, 2005, 10:06 PM
that takes the fun outta it JDG!
Perhaps. . .but the garden gnome I got doesnt really have a place in my 8th floor appartment! hahaha

Especially when you are talking about 2 people who pretty much have all they need - I think asking is a good plan, that way you arent getting something they already have, don't want, or don't need!

If the gift is something they want, or something useful they will remember who its from easier, and isn't it nice to be remembered!??

happycats
June 14th, 2005, 10:10 PM
If they already live together, I would give them a gift certificate. (from a store they both like).
I would ask them if they are registered anywhere (like JDG said)

Safyre
June 14th, 2005, 10:11 PM
I have a slight advantage.. i'm one of those ppl that always find the perfect presents for ppl. lol
My fave gift, and response was christmas, a painting ... i just thought it was a beautiful water color .. turns out, it was of algonquin park, right near the place my aunt and ncle camps every year. i just have a knack for doing things like that. lol

lilith_rizel
June 14th, 2005, 10:11 PM
I asked before, and he said that he didn't want us to get them anything. But he is my father, and we truely want to get them something.

I don't know what she likes, I haven't met her, and only have talked to her a few times. But I know she is really sweet.

My dad is a classic rock guy. He loves to golf, and loves foot ball.

don't know if they collect anything. I think that I have an idea what I could get, they are at a store here. You guys know those glass critters that you see in some peoples homes. They stand about 5-6 inches in height, and are clear for the most part. Well, I was thinking that I could find a wolf or something. I know my father loves wolves. And they are very fancy looking. what do you guys think?

lilith_rizel
June 14th, 2005, 10:13 PM
happycats, my father lives 6 hours away from her! So I am sure that they don't shop at the same place. Good idea though!

Joey.E.CockersMommy
June 14th, 2005, 10:13 PM
Can you get an idea from how there house is decorated is there any paintings or artwork they may find special.

Safyre
June 14th, 2005, 10:14 PM
I myself, dislike nicknacks. Eventually, they all get sold in a yardsale
my last post gave me the idea of maybe some sort of print, water color or what not, if you know the decore of thier home ..

Joey.E.CockersMommy
June 14th, 2005, 10:20 PM
Sorry I didn't realise that you lived 6 hours away and haven't met your dads new bride. I would check the registry it may give you an idea as to their tastes, if you have some idea of where they shop you may even be able to find it without asking them.

Luba
June 14th, 2005, 10:20 PM
I hate nicknacks too, yard sale item for sure LOL
Art is a very personal thing. I hate most presents I get from people who give me things 'they' like...especially crafty kinda things or folkart crafty things...OMG kill me and plastic garden ornaments. Why do I need or want FAKE plastic flowers (tulips) to put in my beautiful garden (sigh)

I would suggest you offer to pay for a portion of something to do with their honeymoon...perhaps part of the air fare, upgrade their flight to first class or something if you can afford. Or if they're staying in town pay for a romantic night at a beautiful hotel and perhaps vouchers for their favourite restaurant.

Even better, since it's such a busy time for them the gift cards are a wonderful idea...and hey you dont need to buy just one. Try buying 4/5 but of lower prices each. Something they'll enjoy...movie tickets, restaurant voucher, anything like that that you know they would like to use.

If they like to gamble, maybe see if you can get a voucher for their fav casino or something.

I"m one of those persons that HATE keeping things that people give me that I don't like. When I was younger ya okay deal with it but as you mature into your twenties and thirties you develop your own taste, style and appreciate for arts etc... and that should be respected.

I actually made 700 bucks one weekend selling that kind of stuff at my yard sale :D So maybe I shouldn't complain HAHHAH

lilith_rizel
June 14th, 2005, 10:30 PM
Researchbulls, it is my dad that lives 6 hours away from his bride. For me to visit, we would have to drive a few days, or fly there! I live over 1600 miles from them LOL

Joey.E.CockersMommy
June 14th, 2005, 11:16 PM
Sorry its been a long day ;) :o

Crazy Hippie
June 14th, 2005, 11:37 PM
What about a monetary gift? Saves stress and time. If it's a close friend/fam member, I always give them a cheque because I know they'd probably appreciate it more than something they may not really want/use. To make it more personal, I usually include something not too expensive that I've gotten engraved (ex. a nice picture frame with the wedding date engraved at the bottom). That way they can use the money on their honeymoon or to help with the cost of the wedding, or pick out something they need. :love:

lilith_rizel
June 14th, 2005, 11:38 PM
I know same here. I have cleaned the house, cleaned OUT the house, took car of Judith, went shopping, and still had time to talk to hubby. Think I am taking the day off tomorrow, and just relaxing, and play mario! Just realized that we had that.

I have decided that 90% of the things that are mine in this house, I don't need. I never use them anymore, and they are just taking up space, so I am getting rid of alot of things. I am totally drained, and want to go to bed, but I am still up talking to hubby over messenger. Mostly about the future and what we are going to do when he is out of the military. We have decided that I am going to bring in the money, so he can homeschool the kids. He is such a brilliant man, and knows so much, that I think he would do better than I. Plus, I can't stand being home all day like I do now. I would love to work like he does. So we are switching places. LOL. :p

James and I have decided to get that for my dad. I do remember his wife to be saying that she had to dust all her nicknacks one day, so I think that this will fit.

JDG
June 15th, 2005, 08:57 AM
I never like giving people money. You never know if they will use it for what you intend.

Homeless people hate me for this reason.

What about a donation to a worthwhile cause (like an animal rescue :p :p :pawprint: ;) ) in their name.

Have a star named after them.

'Adopt a panda' or something.

Buy a rainforest, adopt a highway, donate and plant a tree. . . . .

Writing4Fun
June 15th, 2005, 10:29 AM
I"m one of those persons that HATE keeping things that people give me that I don't like.
You would have had a BLAST at my wedding. I should post a picture of the lamp my bridesmaids & ushers gave me (if I wasn't afraid it would ruin my camera :p ). It defies description. Add to that the white ceramic vase and matching column/base with the gold vine and pink flowers winding up the side that my FIL gave me ... well, my home decor can best be described as "eclectic". :rolleyes: The best part is that I have to keep these things around for when they come to visit - can't be hurting people's feelings! :(

Lizzie
June 15th, 2005, 10:41 AM
It's almost like people buy tacky things intentionally just to ensure that you MUST make their gift a show piece at your home. Heaven forbid you buy something tame off a registry--that won't get you noticed!!!!

nymph
June 15th, 2005, 10:47 AM
Cash, cash is the best gift.

Writing4Fun
June 15th, 2005, 10:59 AM
Cash is nice, but a little impersonal. Not something I would give my dad - maybe ok for a friend or cousin.

Lilith, how about something personal? Like what you did for James? Do you have other family members who live closer to them? Could you get a bunch of pictures of them together and set it to music? Then you could make a nice CD, and if you didn't feel that was enough you could slip some movie passes or restaurant vouchers in the CD case.

How about one of those photo album/picture frames for them to put their wedding photos in? Or an engravable picture frame, and have it engraved with their names and the date of their wedding?

My brother actually requested cash for his wedding, but I wanted it to be remembered and personalized. So I got a small box at our craft supply store, decorated it so it was now a jewellery/trinket box (I think it's in their daughter's room now), got the cash in $5 and $10 denominations, rolled each bill and tied it with ribbon, and arranged it nicely in the box with some straw. :D They had a great time, all hung over, trying to untie all those bills!! :evil: But they remember it to this day! :angel:

glasslass
June 15th, 2005, 06:52 PM
WritingForFun, I was just about to suggest a photo album, for them to put all the pictures they will be taking of their new life together.

This reminds me of when my parents were invited to a very exclusive wedding at Big Sur. (My Pop was the bride's farrier.) The bride and groom were the hippy kids of really rich parents. I believe her father was a former Ambassador to Spain. There were all these wealthy people flying in to the remote location by helicopter. What do you buy someone who can afford anything (and you can't)? They ended up giving them a really nice book about hummingbirds and a hummingbird feeder. On the coast, hummingbirds come to feeders by the dozen! Anyhow, they later told my dad that when one of their guests from England (a botanist) stayed with them for 2 weeks, the guy spent all his time outside by the feeder watching and studying the hummers, totally fascinated.

How about something sentimental like a really nice music box that plays something appropriate?