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Update on sleeping arrangements

Dahlia
April 1st, 2005, 12:24 PM
Sophie has been sleeping in our room, in her crate by my side of the bed for over a week now and we haven't heard a peep out of her. This also put an end to her pooping in the crate problem. I think she was getting stressed because we were "leaving" her at bedtime and it was making her poop. Now she sleeps at least 4 hrs at a time and sometimes all night. When she does wake up I take her out to do her thing, then right back in the crate and she lays down and goes back to sleep without a problem. Yayyy!

But, I also told you that dh wouldn't be too happy about having the dog in our room. Last night, after we went to bed, Sophie "passed gas" and it stunk up the room, LOL! I said, EWWW, Sophie. And dh said, "Why is she in here, anyway?" As if he didn't remember all the sqawking she was doing at night not too long ago, and telling me to do something about it. So, I reminded him, and he said now she's gonna be in our room forever, so what am I going to do about that? I told him that I would eventually start gradually moving her toward the door until she was at least out in the hall, or when she's completely housetrained I don't mind her sleeping with one of the kids (ages 8 and 10). He said, Well, you haven't moved her at all. Grrrr. I just pretended to be asleep and didn't say anything else. He's usually not that overbearing, but one of his coworkers passed away this week with a heart attack and I think it's really bothering him, although he won't admit it. He's just like, Oh, it's one of those things that happens. Yeah, right, he doesn't have me fooled.

Lizzie
April 1st, 2005, 12:42 PM
Does the DH even like the dog? Since day one it seems as though he lacks any sort of interest in the dog...keep up your efforts, you'll just have to ignore him!!

Princesss04
April 1st, 2005, 01:07 PM
Dahlia, I am so glad that it is going better. I think that she just wanted to be near you. Some dogs will sleep in their crate even when they are older. I know Chino likes to nap in his crate. So she might always want to sleep in there and as long as she is in there do you think he will mind. We live the door open and Chino will go in and take a nap, and get up and walk out when he wants. LOL Although they do sleep with us at night. Rotten puppies! :D

Dahlia
April 1st, 2005, 01:15 PM
Yeah, he likes her but he doesn't want to do any of the work. He plays with her sometimes but that's about it. Typical dad. ;) So she might always want to sleep in there and as long as she is in there do you think he will mind. LOL, I don't think he'll even notice. For the first 3 or 4 days he didn't even notice she was in there, until he saw the crate by the bed one day.

Princesss04
April 1st, 2005, 01:32 PM
That sounds like a normal man. LOL

Justin (hubby) was determined when we found Meater that he would not be allowed to sleep in the bed, but a few days after we got him he came down with Parvo and almost died. So we put him in the middle of us because we had to get up every 40 minutes with him. And it kind of stuck. LOL So he is in the bed. Than we got Chino and everyone suggested because of his breed not to let him sleep in the bed because of dominance issues. So Justin goes on a business trip for a week and I gave in a let Chino in the bed all week. So now he is in the bed. LOL So we have Meater 45 pounds and Chino about 40 pounds (vet says he will be about 75 to 100 pounds) and than both of us in the bed. LOL Than we are going to start trying for a baby in about 2 months or so so we are running out of room. A king size bed does not even look or feel that big anymore. LOL But, they are so worth it.

Prin
April 1st, 2005, 02:14 PM
My boyfriend (with his crazy allergies) was adamant at the beginning that Boo only sleep on the floor. But then Boo started having anxiety attacks so we brought him up on the bed with us. Jemma slept with us for a bit too because she was having constant nightmares. After a while both of them grew out of it and found that the doggy beds and futon we have for them are more comfortable than elbows and knees... If they come up now, it's for an hour at most and then they go off on their own. Once a doggy feels safe, i think they will sleep wherever they are most comfortable and you just have to see to it that the most comfortable spot is not in your bed... :)

Once in a while though my man freaks out and says he's tired of the dog hair on the duvet cover and on the floor etc but then I say, "Fine we'll get rid of them forever and bring them to the SPCA because you're too lazy to do laundry and sweep," and he gets quiet.

I know my man won't ever hit my doggies but I am not so sure about your hubby. I would say to my man "If you don't like my ways then you take care of it and wake up when the dog is screaming" but I'd worry if I thought my man would hit my babies to solve a problem...

nymph
April 1st, 2005, 02:30 PM
Sounds like Daddy needs a good kick in the rearend LOL... just kidding.

People could get really cranky at times, particularly difficult times, use the same amount of patience you are giving to Sophie with Daddy, but I do agree with others that he seems to lack a general interest in Sophie, but then again we only heard your side of the story. ;):D And it sounds like you just need a group hug, anyone? :grouphug:

Princesss04
April 1st, 2005, 03:12 PM
Hug coming from Indiana! :grouphug: You are doing a great job keep up the good work! :D

Dahlia
April 1st, 2005, 04:16 PM
No, he doesn't hit her or anything, I think he's just saying that I must be doing something wrong because Sophie is not completely potty trained. Just wait til it's time to potty train the baby. ;) He hasn't seen tough yet. I've already been through that twice, but this is the first for him. It took a LONG time to get the kids completely potty trained. Dd was trained right around the time she turned 2, then ds was born and she regressed. :rolleyes: So I had to start all over again with her, then ds took even longer than she did. He's not really being mean or anything, that's just the way he is.

Thanks for the group hug, I can always use one of those. I've been stressed this week too, since I just started watching 20 month old twins and a 4 yr old, on top of my 8 month old. My older kids are at their dad's this week but I think they'll be able to help me with these guys when they get back. The 4 yr old loves to play in dd's room but I don't let her when she's not here because I don't want to get yelled at for things being messed up. Same for the twins. Ds is good about playing with little ones, but he hates it if he comes home and one of my nephews has messed with his stuff, so I haven't let these kids in there at all. LOL, sorry, don't know how I got so off topic!!

MIA
April 1st, 2005, 05:06 PM
Tell you dh that there are people out there that have 5 dogs IN the bed and he should be thankful!!! ROFL!!!! I need to take a picture of our bedroom to show you all, dog beds a dog couch, crates - it's insane!!!!! :angel:

twodogsandacat
April 1st, 2005, 06:58 PM
I also followed the original thread.Dalton and Google have been crated in thier new crates for the past two weeks. No noise, crying or barking.

A couple of mornings when my alarm goes off I have let them out and set the alarm for another twenty minutes. Yes they are invited to snooze with me.

mafiaprincess
April 1st, 2005, 08:01 PM
You are doing everything right. It took till Cider was about 6 months old till I considered her potty trained, and shouldn't have to worry about her have accidents. She got better over the months, but we had a few accidents every now and then until then.

Plus you always have so much going on in your house that I envy your stamina. ;)

glasslass
April 1st, 2005, 08:20 PM
When we married, my hubby swore he'd never sleep with a dog. Don't worry. Your DH will come around too!

Dahlia
April 3rd, 2005, 01:05 AM
Thanks, guys. Sophie is peeing outside religiously but she seems to be getting worse about pooping in the house. I'm thinking about starting to use treats when she poops outside. We just got home from a friend's and she was crated while we were gone. I took her outside as soon as we got home and she she peed, then pooped, then ran back in the house and less than a minute after we got in she pooped again on the floor. I praise her like I'm so excited she's going potty outside right as she does it so I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, just think she needs a little more motivation. A lot of the time she will pee outside then start pulling on the leash to come in or start playing so I bring her back in then she poops. I didn't want her to expect treats for potty training, but I might have to. Also I've heard that beagles or any hounds are hard to house train and I know they are very food oriented so maybe that would help, then I could wean her off. I know she's doing really well for her age, but I think she could be a little more motivated, especially since I don't always have a lot of time to stay out there waiting for her to poop. There are times when I can tell she needs to poop, you know what I mean, and she won't do anything but play with the leash or my shoes no matter what I do, then she goes in the house. So I'm thinking that if she knows she'll get a treat she'll be more anxious to get the job done and get her treat.

Prin
April 3rd, 2005, 01:21 AM
I actually use treats. Boo was very abused in his past life- kicked hard and often in the hiney and it is very hard for him to go (plus the neighbors yell at him and he was pretty submissive and shy- now he's got more confidence but it's still not easy sometimes). I started training him to go on command by saying "Yey Number 2" when he would go and give him a cookie and then once he figured out what number two was, I could use it before so he knew what I wanted him to do. It's funny because people at our park think I never bring them out because they run in and dump right away as if they'd been dying to go all day when really it's because they know I've got the goods for them when they do go.

The only problem that is easy to fix is: you only bring ONE cookie (per doggy of course). If you give multiple cookies for multiple loads, you could end up with a dog that drops a nug here and there hoping to get a treat for each one. My Jemma almost always goes twice but she only gets a cookie for the first one (I hate wasting bags, but she's done her two long before we got her so not much we can do about it...)

By the way my man swore too that they would only sleep on the floor because of his allergies... That there is one sleepy boyfriend and 158 lbs of doggy...

Dahlia
April 3rd, 2005, 01:31 AM
Prin, that is so cute :love: We have a very high bed so I really doubt Sophie would ever be able to get up there by herself. I don't really care one way or the other so we'll just see what happens. I have a feeling she'll end up sleeping with one of the kids, though. Of course, she can't get on the couch now, but she has her ways. Usually by looking pitiful, but if someone leaves anything sitting next to the couch, like dd's bean bag chair or the diaper bag, she'll climb right up. At first I said she wouldnt' be allowed on the furniture, but now I don't really see anything wrong with it. She honestly can't be any worse than the kids. And our new couch is the stain resistant microfiber. When we got it they said to spray stains with a half and half solution of Neutogena face wash and water and wipe clean. I haven't had to do it yet and we've had it for about two months. I've been wiping up the sippy cup spills with a baby wipe and it works just fine.

Prin
April 3rd, 2005, 03:15 AM
I'll have to try the neutrogena-- my couch is new and YELLOW and the doggies make a mess of it. It's pale yellow and the dogs are black and muddy. No I was not there when the brains were handed out. We shopped for a long time for a couch and fell in love with this one... I have to scrub it about once a month...

Dahlia
April 3rd, 2005, 06:18 PM
Ours is a light khaki color, so I know what you mean. I've always had dark colored ones, and this time I wanted something lighter. It's not too bad, though. I wipe Sophie off if she comes in muddy. So far that has worked pretty well.

mafiaprincess
April 3rd, 2005, 06:40 PM
We got Cider at 2.5-3 months of age, and gave her an egg and cheese hollow ball cookie thing that was fairly small every time she went pitty in the correct place, and started phasing them out when she was pretty consistant at 5 months. She's almost seven months old, and we haven't had an accident in thankfully a really long time now. It didn't help that she was a petstore pup, and took a harder time to potty train though.

Dahlia
April 3rd, 2005, 07:31 PM
I started giving her a treat this morning when she went potty outside, and it caught on fast. Now when we go out she goes, then runs to me and sits by my feet looking up expectantly and wagging her tail. And this was after just the first time! She hasn't had an accident in the house all day, but then we were outside a lot doing yard work and stuff today.

Prin
April 3rd, 2005, 08:21 PM
Yey!! (so far) :) :party: :)

Dahlia
April 3rd, 2005, 10:45 PM
Haha, prin, I think my doggie must've been talking to your doggies because she has been pooping a little, then coming for her treat, then pooping again, then coming back... Oh, well, at least she's doing it OUTSIDE, not on my carpet. Also, I think she starts thinking about the treat mid-poop and just can't think of anything else, LOL! She's so funny.

Prin
April 4th, 2005, 01:19 AM
It's a good thing to teach them when you're in a hurry... I'm late for everything and my doggy dumping on command speeds things up... :)